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Dealing with an idiot housemate
Hi everyone, hope I've put this in the right forum, as technically it concerns both Health and Relationships so here we go...
I've been sharing a house with 5 other people the majority of whom are ok. One of them however, is a total prick. The day I moved in he came into my room uninvited, sat down and proceeded to lay down the law about how we were all going to clean the house from top to bottom once a week etc.
It took us a while to set up a rota for it but now we have I and everyone else have been following it- except for him. Whilst I spent last wednesday cleaning peoples hairs and crap out of the bathroom he has left the kitchen to gather a disgusting layer of filth. He had a week to do it, now we're halfway through the next week and it still hasn't been done. So I've asked him politely to do it twice now, the second time in a more irate way, and each time he fobbed me off with "I'll do it soon". He clearly has no intention of doing so, and is waiting for someone else to do it.
Meanwhile as I've mentioned in some other non-related posts on here he's sleeping with my friend next door having previously declared to all and sundry that he is using her for sex. At the start of term I let my friend move downstairs into my old room as he'd dumped her for the umpteenth time and she wanted to get away from him. However, now they're back on he practically lives on our floor irritating the hell out of me as I have to listen to them giggling all the time. I deliberately picked a room on the floor he wasn't living on to avoid him but in doing a good deed for my friend it has backfired.
Basically I'm the only person who's prepared to stand up to him on the cleaning issue, nobody else seems to mind that he's not pulling his weight. It's a health issue as we're in danger of attracting vermin as the kitchen is in such a state. But I'm damned if everyone else is going to do his share of the cleaning for him.
So does anyone have any advice for me on how to deal with him as he's taking the piss in so may ways, and I'm getting to the stage where I want to murder him with a sharp instrument! Thankyou.
I've been sharing a house with 5 other people the majority of whom are ok. One of them however, is a total prick. The day I moved in he came into my room uninvited, sat down and proceeded to lay down the law about how we were all going to clean the house from top to bottom once a week etc.
It took us a while to set up a rota for it but now we have I and everyone else have been following it- except for him. Whilst I spent last wednesday cleaning peoples hairs and crap out of the bathroom he has left the kitchen to gather a disgusting layer of filth. He had a week to do it, now we're halfway through the next week and it still hasn't been done. So I've asked him politely to do it twice now, the second time in a more irate way, and each time he fobbed me off with "I'll do it soon". He clearly has no intention of doing so, and is waiting for someone else to do it.
Meanwhile as I've mentioned in some other non-related posts on here he's sleeping with my friend next door having previously declared to all and sundry that he is using her for sex. At the start of term I let my friend move downstairs into my old room as he'd dumped her for the umpteenth time and she wanted to get away from him. However, now they're back on he practically lives on our floor irritating the hell out of me as I have to listen to them giggling all the time. I deliberately picked a room on the floor he wasn't living on to avoid him but in doing a good deed for my friend it has backfired.
Basically I'm the only person who's prepared to stand up to him on the cleaning issue, nobody else seems to mind that he's not pulling his weight. It's a health issue as we're in danger of attracting vermin as the kitchen is in such a state. But I'm damned if everyone else is going to do his share of the cleaning for him.
So does anyone have any advice for me on how to deal with him as he's taking the piss in so may ways, and I'm getting to the stage where I want to murder him with a sharp instrument! Thankyou.
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just talk to him once more, and make it clear that you will be making a complaint about him (if you're in halls). Or failing that, tidy the kitchen for him, which is just what he wants, and dump everything in his room, sooner or later he is going to have to clean it. Or clean it and charge him.
You and your flatmates should confront him. Or leave some cleaning equipment outside his bedroom door with a big label saying "PRESENT".
This guy sounds like such an arse. All you can do really is confront him and make yourselves clear. Good luck.
This guy sounds like such an arse. All you can do really is confront him and make yourselves clear. Good luck.
Thanks for the tips...I'm liking the one involving a right-hook and an uppercut! 
The thing is I've discussed it with my other housemates and while they agree with me when he's not around they never back me up or say anything when I complain to him which is annoying so it looks like it's just me. And I think if we all ganged up on him he'd have to do it aswell.
The thing is I've discussed it with my other housemates and while they agree with me when he's not around they never back me up or say anything when I complain to him which is annoying so it looks like it's just me. And I think if we all ganged up on him he'd have to do it aswell.
Report him and watch him squirm as the wardens read him his rights
Why is everyone else not bothered if its that bad? Your just going to have to wait til everyone else gets annoyed by it cos he probably wont take any notice if its just you complaining... plus he may just get to think you like moaning and not take any notice whereas if there's a few of you telling him to get his act together then he'll probably see it differently!
prettygreeneyes99
Why is everyone else not bothered if its that bad? Your just going to have to wait til everyone else gets annoyed by it cos he probably wont take any notice if its just you complaining... plus he may just get to think you like moaning and not take any notice whereas if there's a few of you telling him to get his act together then he'll probably see it differently!
Precisely. I realise that just me moaning isn't going to have an effect. Everyone else claims to be annoyed by it when I talk to them but they never say anything to him. The approach I'm being forced to take at the moment is just putting up with it until one of the others is driven as mad by it as I am.
Have you dropped into the conversation with any of them that it might be a good idea for everyone to have a word with him? Its like this in my boyfriends house, there's one guy who just wont clean up but everyone apart from my boyfriend moans about it, but they're too polite to say anything to the guys face!
when you cook and everything, make extra mess, and make things that smell, like salmon, and eventually (in a day or two) everyone will be complaining.
i bet this problem is probably replicated hundreds or maybe thousands of times each year.
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DrunknMonkey
i bet this 'problem' is probably replicated hundreds or maybe thousands of times each year.
It is very definitely a problem, so you can lose the little commas.. He's very difficult to live with, and speaking to him doesn't seem to have worked. We aren't in halls, so there's no warden I can talk to. If you know the answer then do tell me, rather than making useless comments such as the above.
prettygreeneyes99
Have you dropped into the conversation with any of them that it might be a good idea for everyone to have a word with him? Its like this in my boyfriends house, there's one guy who just wont clean up but everyone apart from my boyfriend moans about it, but they're too polite to say anything to the guys face!
Yeah, thanks I think that's what I'll do. I'll have one of those house meetings he's so fond of and try and get everyone behind me.
It's a way to solve the kitchen, and will highlight the need for cleanliness. All you are doing is encouraging everyone to complain to him, rather than about him.
SillyNess
See, this is why I would hate being in a standard flat, rather than halls. Rota for cleaning? Bloody sure I wouldn't do it either. I clean up after myself, end of story. If someone else doesn't, then they get told that they're not on!
what about if you have a shared bathroom, who cleans that? Or if your in a house, floors needs mopping/hoovering etc?
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