Is this lazy?

I have quite bad menstrual pain sometimes and have fainted because of it on the street etc and im terrified of it happening again so I usually don't go out when im on a period. I take mefanemic acid im not sure if it helps but I still have pain and Ive tried going on the pill but I hate it it made me feel really ill and sick.

Anyway to the point Ive recently got a new job as a support worker for the NHS which means that they ring me and ask if I want to work such a day etc. Im also doing a course with the open university alongside this. Im scared of having a proper employment contract though as everytime my period arrives I will be off work and this just ..well can't be done. Ive been working about 20/25 hours a week as a support worker so far so I can pick and choose when to work but my dad says that I don't want a fixed job because im lazy but im scared of letting them down cause I have panic atacks too. Say if I was to stay as a support worker all my life would people think of me as unemployed and lazy?

Reply 1

sawyer

nope

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

17

you're not lazy!
I'm sure your boss would be male, he has no idea! geex period pain and hurt like hell! and make weird **** happen, people should understand this, I'm sure if most people felt like crap they wouldnt want to work, it's not laziness. I think you should go to the doc, surely there must be something they can do :frown:

pooor thing :hugs:

Reply 3

suicidal_dream

1

have you tried talking to a doctor about this?!

They may be able to suggest better pills or something to help you and to lessen the pain, even if its just a little bit.

I had terrible pains the other day - first time for ages, so i can understand how you feel to a certain extent - i missed a tutorial as i could barely walk!

Reply 4

Zoecb

11

Yeah I had to walk out of a lecture the other week because I had such a bad cramp I thought I was gonna faint, and I was so pale the lecturer prcatically sent me home telling me to get better!

Just do what you're comfortable doing. It sounds like it's other people's expectations thatare making you unhappy, and it's not really their business what you do.

Reply 5

YAP

Have you tried tranexamic acid? It works by a different mechanism to NSAIDs (such as mefenamic acid, ibuprofen etc.) and is effective against menstrual cramps. Ask your GP about it.

Reply 6

suek

17

I work Saturdays and always get a day off in the week with my work, instead of Mon-Fri. Tuesday, every four weeks, without fail, I HAVE to have that day off. I feel your pain, honestly.

I never used to be this bad when I was younger, and I attribute it to doing more sport etc. So exercise I think definitely helps.

I plan to ask for mefanemic acid next time I see the doctor :smile:

Reply 7

h82think

14

Lazy: no

Do you have a serious problem, and should go to the GP: yes

Reply 8

prettygreeneyes99

9

Your dad clearly just doesnt understand how much pain periods can cause to some people! Not his fault I guess though, I guess its like girls trying to understand what its like for a guy to be kicked in his whatsits! If the pain is still bad enough for you to have to need time off work shouldnt you really go back to your doctors to see if there's anything else that can be done?

Reply 9

Llamaaa

15

I wouldn't say it's lazy, but other people manage to still work through period pain, so why should you be any different? I know it's worse for some people than for others, but you cannot let it control your life. When you are in real employment you won't be allowed to take a week off every month because you have your period. So I'd say, get some help. Maybe go on the pill to control your periods, or see if there are some other tablets you can take. Otherwise, you will let your period control your life, and that is a pretty sorry state to be in. Good luck, xx

Reply 10

avalanche

helenkr

I wouldn't say it's lazy, but other people manage to still work through period pain, so why should you be any different?

I bet lots of people manage to do things that you can't/don't do, why should she be any different? Because she is different.

Reply 11

Llamaaa

15

I'm sorry, I phrased that badly. I meant that we all go through it, some worse than others, but one way or another you have to get over it or you won't be able to lead an ordinary life. I didn't mean to be insulting in any way. (which you would know had you read the rest of my post, rather than taking the first line out of context).

Reply 12

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

YAP

Have you tried tranexamic acid? It works by a different mechanism to NSAIDs (such as mefenamic acid, ibuprofen etc.) and is effective against menstrual cramps. Ask your GP about it.

I may be wrong but isn't tranexamic acid used for clotting? ie it's for heavy periods, the OP didn't mention her periods being heavy I don't think it's an analgesic (though reducing flow may reduce pain but again I didn't think the OP said they were heavy). Before I was given it my GP asked how many tampons I got through in 1 period and in 1 day etc.

Op you really need to sort this out with your GP, you're not lazy but you cannot spend 1/4 of your post-pubesent life (until meanopause) not leaving the house.

Reply 13

YAP

ASprinkleOfPixieDust

I may be wrong but isn't tranexamic acid used for clotting? ie it's for heavy periods, the OP didn't mention her periods being heavy I don't think it's an analgesic (though reducing flow may reduce pain but again I didn't think the OP said they were heavy). Before I was given it my GP asked how many tampons I got through in 1 period and in 1 day etc.

Yes, you're quite right :smile:

. It works indirectly against pain by reducing the shredding of the uterine lining: if there's less broken-down lining waiting to come out, the uterine muscles squeeze less hard, and thus hurt less.

Obviously, if periods are particularly light but heavy, it won't help; but it's worth a go from moderate flow upwards in patients that can't tolerate a hormonal solution (progestin-releasing IUD, contraceptive pill, etc.). Which actually, leads me onto a good point:

OP, which pill did you try? If you tried the combined oral contraceptive pill (the one referred to in the vernacular as 'the pill'), have you thought of trying the 'mini-pill'? The combined pill contains two active ingredients, the mini-pill contains only one of them - and the one it doesn't contain is linked to the nausea side effects.

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