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Thinking of take the year out...should I?
In my third year now, and I am thinking of taking the year out. My degree is starting to count towards my final mark, and I have had a really bad start. I am not enjoying my subject what so ever, and since the summer I have been mentally drained out. My second year completely drained me out. Plus, I just feel as though I am doing this subject for the wrong reason - good job prospects.
As a result of the above, I have not been giving my subject 100% and have some catching up to do. I can either a) sweat it out and get a 'degree' or b) come back in next year, where mentally I am ready for my subject and just do it. Very sick of being in education now, 21 years and just fed up of it all. I really want to experience something new outside of my subject which is just so socially inept. Travel the world - experience something more vibrant.
Logically b is probably the best thing to do. But due to my parents (who will kill me) I can't. The likely scienario is I would probably not have any financial backing if I come back next year from them due to this. I don't mind working for the remainder of the year, but I don't know - just very confused at the moment.
I have a feeling that if I sweat it out, chances are I may end up with a 2:2/3rd if I do. I want a 2:1, so financially, it is probably for the best I come back after a year out when my head is sorted and I have the motivation to do it. Otherwise I have wasted so much money.
What would you guys recommend?
As a result of the above, I have not been giving my subject 100% and have some catching up to do. I can either a) sweat it out and get a 'degree' or b) come back in next year, where mentally I am ready for my subject and just do it. Very sick of being in education now, 21 years and just fed up of it all. I really want to experience something new outside of my subject which is just so socially inept. Travel the world - experience something more vibrant.
Logically b is probably the best thing to do. But due to my parents (who will kill me) I can't. The likely scienario is I would probably not have any financial backing if I come back next year from them due to this. I don't mind working for the remainder of the year, but I don't know - just very confused at the moment.
I have a feeling that if I sweat it out, chances are I may end up with a 2:2/3rd if I do. I want a 2:1, so financially, it is probably for the best I come back after a year out when my head is sorted and I have the motivation to do it. Otherwise I have wasted so much money.
What would you guys recommend?
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Reply 1
good job prospects is the correct reason. stick it out!
Reply 2
also i think if you delay a year you will struggle to get back into your study methods. Only half a year to go then you're a free man/woman!
Reply 3
Hhm.
If you were to take a year out, would you have to start from the beginning? with a different degree or not?
The third year isn't an ideal time to drop out, when you're well over half way there. The money side of things really doesn't make it ideal either!! But then, as you say, you need a good degree for the good job prospects you took it for...
Stick it out, do your best - and if you don't do as well as you need to to get a good job, take a crappy one until you can finance another qualification to get you where you want to go.
Good luck
If you were to take a year out, would you have to start from the beginning? with a different degree or not?
The third year isn't an ideal time to drop out, when you're well over half way there. The money side of things really doesn't make it ideal either!! But then, as you say, you need a good degree for the good job prospects you took it for...
Stick it out, do your best - and if you don't do as well as you need to to get a good job, take a crappy one until you can finance another qualification to get you where you want to go.
Good luck
Reply 4
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TOD100
good job prospects is the correct reason. stick it out!
I don't think this is always neccesarily the case, especially if one is doing a purely academic subject. Also obviously depends on what you want to end up doing.
Reply 5
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Anonymous
What would you guys recommend?
What would you guys recommend?
I recommend that you firstly check with someone at your university that you are actually able to do this. I think that they tend to have guidelines as to when people are allowed to take a year out e.g. (bereavement, illness etc) so it may be that you don't even have the option. It would definitely be worth discussing with a tutor/lecturer/department figure how you feel anyway as they may be able to offer better advice then you will get on here.
Anonymous
But due to my parents (who will kill me) I can't.
But due to my parents (who will kill me) I can't.
You are (notionally) a grown, 21 year old man/woman. Is it not a bit late to still be worried about mom and pop going mad at you? Stand on your on two feet.
Reply 6
Siz
Hhm.
If you were to take a year out, would you have to start from the beginning? with a different degree or not?
The third year isn't an ideal time to drop out, when you're well over half way there. The money side of things really doesn't make it ideal either!! But then, as you say, you need a good degree for the good job prospects you took it for...
Stick it out, do your best - and if you don't do as well as you need to to get a good job, take a crappy one until you can finance another qualification to get you where you want to go.
Good luck
If you were to take a year out, would you have to start from the beginning? with a different degree or not?
The third year isn't an ideal time to drop out, when you're well over half way there. The money side of things really doesn't make it ideal either!! But then, as you say, you need a good degree for the good job prospects you took it for...
Stick it out, do your best - and if you don't do as well as you need to to get a good job, take a crappy one until you can finance another qualification to get you where you want to go.
Good luck
I have one more year to go, after this. Average in second year was a 2:1. So if I am motivated and put my mind to it, I can do my subject.
My degree is savable. We have not handed in many assignments yet, but it is just finding the motivation to do it....god it is so boring guys.
Reply 7
Jake22
I recommend that you firstly check with someone at your university that you are actually able to do this. I think that they tend to have guidelines as to when people are allowed to take a year out e.g. (bereavement, illness etc) so it may be that you don't even have the option. It would definitely be worth discussing with a tutor/lecturer/department figure how you feel anyway as they may be able to offer better advice then you will get on here.
You are (notionally) a grown, 21 year old man/woman. Is it not a bit late to still be worried about mom and pop going mad at you? Stand on your on two feet.
You are (notionally) a grown, 21 year old man/woman. Is it not a bit late to still be worried about mom and pop going mad at you? Stand on your on two feet.
Spoken to everyone about it in my department - it is called a 'false start' where you can drop out then come back again. I think the deadline with the loans company has gone though. This can cause problems. They suggested that I do it, to get back into my academical mindset or if not - then sweat at it.
I am 21 indeed, but also I have to take into account other factors, taking a year out will not go down with my friends over here too, will make life difficult at home (I will be living with my parents) and I will just end up getting flak left,right and centre from everyone. Also, my parents are not that well off, so I feel like I am forced to stay on because they have helped me financially.
Reply 8
why do you need their help?
as you say, you're 21 - surely its time to stand on your own 2 feet?!
I've fully funded first, and so far, 2nd year by myself - through my loans, grants & working during holidays.
Have a year out, earn money, come back refreshed. Then if you don't feel like coming back, you can contact your uni and claim is it a HnD if you complete all but your last year of uni?! So you'll still end up with some sort of a qualification.
as you say, you're 21 - surely its time to stand on your own 2 feet?!
I've fully funded first, and so far, 2nd year by myself - through my loans, grants & working during holidays.
Have a year out, earn money, come back refreshed. Then if you don't feel like coming back, you can contact your uni and claim is it a HnD if you complete all but your last year of uni?! So you'll still end up with some sort of a qualification.
Reply 9
My cousin took 6 years to do a teaching degree, he took two full years out, he took a job in America he really wanted to do for a year, and was debating his career choices for another. He completed the degree and is now happily working as a teacher. However he messed his parents around a lot doing this, and was 27 before he actually became a teacher. Its up to you, as long as you want to take the year out then do it, but get a job, pay board to your family and self fund yourself if you choose to return. Have a plan, and your parents will probably understand!
Reply 10
stick it out, because you might not want to go back
Reply 11
blondevalkyrie
stick it out, because you might not want to go back
Spoke to my parents, department etc. My parents are ok with me taking the year out. The department have told me that I should take the year out, because my assignments have just been bad and it is affecting my work this year.
Have an assignment due in tommorrow, trying to do it, but can't - feel pretty demotivated and have lost confidence in my ability. Nothing is going in. Yeah my concern is that I may not come back to finish what I have started....but I guess in this day and age I will be forced to come back anyway, as have a degree is standard.
The problem is I have to pass everything first time round, so if I do absolutely rubbish in my module marks....I may end up not even passing the year, let alone getting a 2:2/3rd which complicates matters because it means that if I leave it till the end of year - fail I will have to repeat my year anyway and for sure I won't get financial backing then.
Reply 12
1
Hi there,
Apologies as I haven't read the rest of the thread, but your situation is so similar to mine that I could have posted your OP 18 months ago.
Basically, I was a bit bored/cheesed off with Uni, and also wanted to do an industrial placement - which I didn't find. Like you, I was thinking whether I should just stick it our for a year (this was in my 3rd year of 4) and then be done with education, though in the end I decided against that as without feeling very happy at uni (which was more a social thing than academically by the 3rd year, but still) I'd just be wanting to get out ASAP which would have negative consequences for my degree mark.
So...as I was in the 'year out' mindset anyway, I just went for it and went to Canada for 10 months (having temped in my hometown for a while first to save up some cash). Pretty much the best decision I ever made, I had a brilliant time and came back refreshed and with renewed enthusiasm for uni, even if shaking off the negative feelings I had about if before has been a challenge. Uni's better than before though, partly as a result of me now being a more confident and sociable person, which in turn is largely due to taking that year out.
So I couldn't be more of an advocate of going for it and just deferring that year. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask me any other stuff.
Apologies as I haven't read the rest of the thread, but your situation is so similar to mine that I could have posted your OP 18 months ago.
Basically, I was a bit bored/cheesed off with Uni, and also wanted to do an industrial placement - which I didn't find. Like you, I was thinking whether I should just stick it our for a year (this was in my 3rd year of 4) and then be done with education, though in the end I decided against that as without feeling very happy at uni (which was more a social thing than academically by the 3rd year, but still) I'd just be wanting to get out ASAP which would have negative consequences for my degree mark.
So...as I was in the 'year out' mindset anyway, I just went for it and went to Canada for 10 months (having temped in my hometown for a while first to save up some cash). Pretty much the best decision I ever made, I had a brilliant time and came back refreshed and with renewed enthusiasm for uni, even if shaking off the negative feelings I had about if before has been a challenge. Uni's better than before though, partly as a result of me now being a more confident and sociable person, which in turn is largely due to taking that year out.
So I couldn't be more of an advocate of going for it and just deferring that year. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask me any other stuff.
Reply 13
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Jake22
I recommend that you firstly check with someone at your university that you are actually able to do this. I think that they tend to have guidelines as to when people are allowed to take a year out e.g. (bereavement, illness etc) so it may be that you don't even have the option.
Oh, and though I can't speak for all Unis, at mine it was really easy to defer the year - just sent an e-mail to my director of studies and he said it was no problem, my department then contacted the University for me. But it is of course something to look into.
Reply 14
I'm on my Erasmus year at the moment and it's just the best thing ever. I was getting really sick of uni as well, and although I am still attending university in France (that is, when the students decide not to stack furniture in front of the doors and protest around like a bunch of idiots), it's done me so much good to have a change of scenery. Just to get away from England, live with new people, have new experiences and enjoy myself... it really is great. The good thing is that already, after just a couple of months, I feel motivated to go back to my home university and crack on with the old dissertation. This is something that would have filled me with dread not such a long time ago.
So I say, do it. Don't listen to your parents or anyone else who tries to put you off; it's your life, it's your future, and if you feel that you will benefit in the long-run by taking some time off, then go for it. You might not get another chance.
So I say, do it. Don't listen to your parents or anyone else who tries to put you off; it's your life, it's your future, and if you feel that you will benefit in the long-run by taking some time off, then go for it. You might not get another chance.
Reply 15
RL99
Hi there,
Apologies as I haven't read the rest of the thread, but your situation is so similar to mine that I could have posted your OP 18 months ago.
Basically, I was a bit bored/cheesed off with Uni, and also wanted to do an industrial placement - which I didn't find. Like you, I was thinking whether I should just stick it our for a year (this was in my 3rd year of 4) and then be done with education, though in the end I decided against that as without feeling very happy at uni (which was more a social thing than academically by the 3rd year, but still) I'd just be wanting to get out ASAP which would have negative consequences for my degree mark.
So...as I was in the 'year out' mindset anyway, I just went for it and went to Canada for 10 months (having temped in my hometown for a while first to save up some cash). Pretty much the best decision I ever made, I had a brilliant time and came back refreshed and with renewed enthusiasm for uni, even if shaking off the negative feelings I had about if before has been a challenge. Uni's better than before though, partly as a result of me now being a more confident and sociable person, which in turn is largely due to taking that year out.
So I couldn't be more of an advocate of going for it and just deferring that year. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask me any other stuff.
Apologies as I haven't read the rest of the thread, but your situation is so similar to mine that I could have posted your OP 18 months ago.
Basically, I was a bit bored/cheesed off with Uni, and also wanted to do an industrial placement - which I didn't find. Like you, I was thinking whether I should just stick it our for a year (this was in my 3rd year of 4) and then be done with education, though in the end I decided against that as without feeling very happy at uni (which was more a social thing than academically by the 3rd year, but still) I'd just be wanting to get out ASAP which would have negative consequences for my degree mark.
So...as I was in the 'year out' mindset anyway, I just went for it and went to Canada for 10 months (having temped in my hometown for a while first to save up some cash). Pretty much the best decision I ever made, I had a brilliant time and came back refreshed and with renewed enthusiasm for uni, even if shaking off the negative feelings I had about if before has been a challenge. Uni's better than before though, partly as a result of me now being a more confident and sociable person, which in turn is largely due to taking that year out.
So I couldn't be more of an advocate of going for it and just deferring that year. Feel free to PM me if you want to ask me any other stuff.
Hey man,
Thanks for your input, part of the reason why I want to take the year out is because I REALLY want to travel - I don't know where, but just somewhere. I don't mind working for a few months, hitting the gym - getting fit and basically having me -time to get the hunger back for my degree. In the mean time, yeah I will continue to study for my subject....I am just so sick of uni atm, just work work work work work, pressure pressure pressure and as I said after last year - I have no desire to do my subject despite my 2:1 average in it. I was actually considering taking the year out after second year, but just pressed ahead with third year.
Do you know the deal with false starts? My student loan is currently covering my tuition fees, ideally (for financial reasons) I want the student loans company to fully fund me again.
The only sad thing about taking the year out, is socially. This year I made so many more new friends at university, and my flatmate is such a great guy - we are tight. If I leave - my social network here will probably disintegrate, I am scared of coming back next year only to find that either a) I have a negative perception by my old friends for taking the year out or b) I have friendless.
Meh...I'm on my second year out at the moment (well third if you count the fact that I worked for a year after college). Do whatever your heart tells you to do - and don't let your parents be a deciding factor. You can't depend on them financially for the rest of your life. You're 21, you shouldn't be depending on them at all really.
Reply 17
PinkMobilePhone
Meh...I'm on my second year out at the moment (well third if you count the fact that I worked for a year after college). Do whatever your heart tells you to do - and don't let your parents be a deciding factor. You can't depend on them financially for the rest of your life. You're 21, you shouldn't be depending on them at all really.
Yes, but my student loan is much more of a concern for me next year.
Anonymous
Yes, but my student loan is much more of a concern for me next year.
okay, if it's financially impossible for you to take a year out, then realistically you're going to have to plod on with it.
But if there is another way around it, then if your heart tells you to take a year out, then do it.
Reply 19
1
In the mean time, yeah I will continue to study for my subject....I am just so sick of uni atm, just work work work work work, pressure pressure pressure and as I said after last year - I have no desire to do my subject despite my 2:1 average in it. I was actually considering taking the year out after second year, but just pressed ahead with third year.
So just to clarify...are you going to finish this year and then do a year out next? Or drop out now and basically take the next 9/10 months off (I assumed the former but wasn't 100%).
Do you know the deal with false starts? My student loan is currently covering my tuition fees, ideally (for financial reasons) I want the student loans company to fully fund me again.
I hadn't actually ever heard it in those terms until reading this thread...but just as it was easy to allow the uni to give me a year off, I just sent an e-mail to my LEA saying I was deferring and that I wouldn't need a loan; they said yeah no problem - then I just applied again for a loan for this year over the summer, as if I hadn't been away.
The only sad thing about taking the year out, is socially. This year I made so many more new friends at university, and my flatmate is such a great guy - we are tight. If I leave - my social network here will probably disintegrate, I am scared of coming back next year only to find that either a) I have a negative perception by my old friends for taking the year out or b) I have friendless.
Seems in a way you and I are opposites then - 18 months ago I was enjoying my course (though I didn't in the first two years), but I had precious little social life and very few good friends. Having gone the first 1.5 years without a good group of friends, then finding some half way through my 2nd year, only for them to all go on placement (which I didn't), is one of the reasons I did my year out. Means we're all final years together now too and I'm living with a bunch of them which gave me something to look forward to. Though it may be true you'll have friends who will (presumably) graduate while you're away, you won't know anyone if you go abroad either will you? I've managed to make quite a few new friends this year, so my fears in the first year that I wouldn't make many new friends by the time I was a final year were complete cack, fortunately. Plus, what happened to me by going away was I gained a considerable amount of confidence and broke out of my comfort zone completely so I've been getting involve with things at Uni this year that I never had the conviction to do in previous years. Plus, you already have some good mates anyway it seems, so what's to stop you finding more?
Good Luck man
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