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The guys I like have NEVER liked me back :(

Any one got any ideas as to how I could make them like me? Even though I'm ugly (have a big nose, bushy eyebrows and dark circles under my eyes, and I'm only 18) :frown: , I'm ignoring any comments on black magic and voodoo... :rolleyes:
I know its a tough one but has any one got any advice? Every guy I have liked has never ever liked me! I feel so invisible at college! You know that saying : 'You are only ever 1 of 2 things in this life- a somebody or a nobody' Well, I feel like the biggest nobody on the planet! Can anyone give me advice on to how to make myself noticed? I'm ignoring any comments on discoveries and assasinations... :rolleyes:
Thank You!

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Reply 1

I'm sure you're not ugly. You've either just had bad luck so far, or you're going after the wrong type.

Reply 2

Trust me I'm ugly and my type is cute guys with baby faces awwwww..., but they always seem to prefer the pretty girls (nah then!)

Reply 3

you might be reading the signals their sending off wrong , or they might be out of your league. I don't really have any god advice on how to get a guy except be yourself.

Reply 4

letsbespecific
you might be reading the signals their sending off wrong , or they might be out of your league. I don't really have any god advice on how to get a guy except be yourself.


Lol. Youre probably right. Damn I hate all these league systems, but come on girls should know you are immediately attracted to the fit guys :cool: , so I don't even think about whether they're in my league or not all I think is mmm... and drool.... lol...but maybe I should. I mean if I was the guy who I like, how would he see me... as an ugly geek...hmmmm maybe I should rethink stepping out of the house to go out...

Reply 5

I bet you are not ugly - for me there is no such thing is ugly i hate that word. period. But all of your so called faults can be hidden - pluck your eyebrows, put light reflecting concealer under your eyes and lightly dab bronzer on your nose so it appears shorter!

None of the guys I liked have liked me back and thank god! they were all idiots. I have been saved so many times - someone up there likes me! Its just you havent found the right guy, some people are just nasty idiots. But you will fund someone! Everyone does!

Reply 6

shenzys
Trust me I'm ugly and my type is cute guys with baby faces awwwww..., but they always seem to prefer the pretty girls (nah then!)


As long as your not fat/ have a moustache / have teeth outside your mouth / have yellow teeth / are a midgit, then you're not as ugly as you think.

Reply 7

shenzys
Lol. Youre probably right. Damn I hate all these league systems, but come on girls should know you are immediately attracted to the fit guys :cool: , so I don't even think about whether they're in my league or not all I think is mmm... and drool.... lol...but maybe I should. I mean if I was the guy who I like, how would he see me... as an ugly geek...hmmmm maybe I should rethink stepping out of the house to go out...


League systems suck but everything has to be rated i some way lol. I'm like that but I guess I know what type of guys like me etc. I got my current boyfriend by bumping into him in the street we walked town then for a bit exchanged msn and phone he asked me out a week later and 4 years later we're still together.

I doubt you're ugly at all, get talking to guys, get to know them etc maybe they'll fall in love.

Reply 8

Well, thank God, I don't have any of those things but I am not attractive how about I say it like that? Everytime I'm with people, they're all like 'oh she's so pretty' to starngers in public, and I want that to be said about me! And my sisters are all sooooooo pretty too, its just me! I got the worst genes ever! When my long distance cousins came over, they were happy to see my sisters and were all like shes so pretty, they saw me and their face just dropped! I mean it, it just dropped! I am ugly, I'm telling you!

Reply 9

two weeks ago and I could have related to this EXACTLY.
However, the guy I've liked for about a year admitted to me that he liked me, and I of course said the feeling was mutual. I've never been happier I don't think, especially since it was so out of the blue and after so long! It's both our first relationships :smile:
so basically, what I'm trying to say is, when they say that love comes when your least expect, they sure as HELL mean it.
Trust me, I'm living proof :biggrin:
And good luck!!!

Reply 10

shenzys
Well, thank God, I don't have any of those things but I am not attractive how about I say it like that? Everytime I'm with people, they're all like 'oh she's so pretty' to starngers in public, and I want that to be said about me! And my sisters are all sooooooo pretty too, its just me! I got the worst genes ever! When my long distance cousins came over, they were happy to see my sisters and were all like shes so pretty, they saw me and their face just dropped! I mean it, it just dropped! I am ugly, I'm telling you!


lol, my brother gets 10x the girls I do.. I know what it's like. Body's more important than face though, from a guys perspective.

Reply 11

john171
As long as your not fat/ have a moustache / have teeth outside your mouth / have yellow teeth / are a midgit, then you're not as ugly as you think.


That is quite upsetting!
As a lady of the larger variety (or as you so elegently put it "fat") that is quite unfair, as some larger people have nice faces. Now me, I have an unfortunate face, so this arguement isn't going well...

But still...thats very...hurtful...:frown:

Reply 12

Oh yeah I forgot to mention there's this saying:

Guys are like buses, when you're not searching for one they all show up at once.

Stop searching for one and you may find one.

Hehe a big conundrum, but if you lose all hope and don't find one, place an add in a paper or join a dating group etc.

Good luck!

Reply 13

Samelam
That is quite upsetting!
As a lady of the larger variety (or as you so elegently put it "fat") that is quite unfair, as some larger people have nice faces. Now me, I have an unfortunate face, so this arguement isn't going well...

But still...thats very...hurtful...:frown:


well then do something about it, eat less, exercise more. Jesus woman, get some mental toughness and force yourself to work on it.

If you're fat it's as if you don't respect yourself.

Reply 14

I believe anybody can be beautiful with the right amount of effort. Look at the girls who are considered pretty and work out what it is that makes them that way, and copy! It could be their hairstyle, make-up or clothes. But I'm also going to trot out the familiar line about being confident in yourself (or acting like you are) because it works. Also get to know the men in question on a personal level-try being friends with them first so they see you as a whole person rather than just what you look like. And as someone else has pointed out, a lot of goodlooking men know it and therefore behave like idiots so you might even find they aren't such a great catch after all.

Reply 15

_ÆNIMA_
I'm sure you're not ugly. You've either just had bad luck so far, or you're going after the wrong type.


Why do people always say this? We dont know what she looks like. She might be really pretty but insecure, but people always sure 'im sure your not ugly' but yes some people are ugly and we have no way of knowing what she looks like, so why say this its not even going to make her feel better, its not sincer you dont have a clue what she looks like.

To the OP, theres only a limited amount you can change how you look, but say you don't look to good, but looks arent everything, its a fact that apart from a good personality being desirable in itself, it will make you look more atractive to people. So instead of being upset and giving him even less reason to like you, try and be happy and unbeat, show a certain levle of excitment in your voice, show interest in other people. theres no guarntee that this particular guy will like you, but in general it will certainly make you more desirable.

Reply 16

Angrybanana
I believe anybody can be beautiful with the right amount of effort. Look at the girls who are considered pretty and work out what it is that makes them that way, and copy! It could be their hairstyle, make-up or clothes. But I'm also going to trot out the familiar line about being confident in yourself (or acting like you are) because it works. Also get to know the men in question on a personal level-try being friends with them first so they see you as a whole person rather than just what you look like. And as someone else has pointed out, a lot of goodlooking men know it and therefore behave like idiots so you might even find they aren't such a great catch after all.


I have tried this and it has got me nowhere! They are really nice guys though, but they just see me as a friend, nothing more. Fit guys would obviously want a fit girl on their arm, so I guess I have to lower my standards...............NOOOOOOOOOO!

Reply 17

john171
well then do something about it, eat less, exercise more. Jesus woman, get some mental toughness and force yourself to work on it.

If you're fat it's as if you don't respect yourself.


Oh no, I wasn't ranting about being fat!

Just that not all people who are fat are ugly! EG Dawn French, Mia Tyler, the Evans model who's name I do not know but then again I would hardly classify her as fat...:smile:

Plus have you tried dieting?! I know it sounds like I'm making excuses for myself (and I guess I am really) but its damn hard and unless you've been in that situation its hard to understand

Reply 18

Samelam
Oh no, I wasn't ranting about being fat!

Just that not all people who are fat are ugly! EG Dawn French, Mia Tyler, the Evans model who's name I do not know but then again I would hardly classify her as fat...:smile:

Plus have you tried dieting?! I know it sounds like I'm making excuses for myself (and I guess I am really) but its damn hard and unless you've been in that situation its hard to understand


I have loads of friends who are slightly over weight and are gorgeous!!! But at least they can do something about that insecrity. Unless i get plastic surgery (out of the question by the way), I'm going to look like this for the rest of my life :frown:

Reply 19

*titanium*
Why do people always say this? We dont know what she looks like. She might be really pretty but insecure, but people always sure 'im sure your not ugly' but yes some people are ugly and we have no way of knowing what she looks like, so why say this its not even going to make her feel better, its not sincer you dont have a clue what she looks like.

How the **** you would you know? Most girls who think they're ugly aren't. So chances are that the OP isn't, idiot.