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Caribou needs your help.
Sorry for the fairly long post.
I'm not too sure about where to start with this.
I guess lets start with life since my last relationship. That ended 18 months ago after she pushed me out of her life as soon as she realised that I had started to develop fairly deep feelings for her. At the end of that relationship (end of June '06) I took out my frustrations with one night stands and other no strings attached, short lived arrangements. I kept doing this until about November '06 time (when I could no longer find anyone who seemed interested). Since then I've been pretty lonely.
All my closest friends now live at least a 3 hour drive away, and I can't justify doing that on a regular basis. I guess that leaves me with my one and only option of trying to get to know people better at work, unfortunately however, I seem to share no common interests with people at work, as their main interests seem to be football and clubbing. Two things that I have no real interest in at all.
Since I've been single (so 18 months), there hasn't been one girl who's really shown any interest in me (who hasn't been pissed). There's been a couple who I've met who I've shown interest in, only to be knocked right back.
I work in a job that I hate and I'll be doing it until I go to uni (2 years late) in September. My salary is £15,000 a year, and theres people who I work with who have degrees and masters. If they've been to uni for 3, 4 and in some cases even 5 years and can still only land the same job that I have; what's the point in me going? When I look at my future prospects, I don't see much to look forward to, only failure. To quote Thatcher - "I see a Man on a bus stop, and I see a failure". I feel that the man on the bus stop is all that I will ever become and that's scary. I walk back from work, and I see families living in squalid flats above shops - failure. Is that all that will be there for me? Failure?
All of these things put together really depress me. When I look at myself in the mirror, I'm just beginning to see another failure. Every day is the same for me; I wake up alone, I walk to work alone, I spend 8 hours working, I walk home alone, when I get home my family seem to treat the dog better than they treat me and I retreat to my room to read, listen to music and spend time on the internet... alone. I eat, and then I go to bed, you guessed it - alone.
I'm beginning to enjoy sleeping more than being awake. At least in my sleep I can dream; I'm not constantly reminded of the tragic and harsh reality that me life seems to be.
Suggestions and constructive criticism are welcomed.
I have cahones, I don't post anon
I'm not too sure about where to start with this.
I guess lets start with life since my last relationship. That ended 18 months ago after she pushed me out of her life as soon as she realised that I had started to develop fairly deep feelings for her. At the end of that relationship (end of June '06) I took out my frustrations with one night stands and other no strings attached, short lived arrangements. I kept doing this until about November '06 time (when I could no longer find anyone who seemed interested). Since then I've been pretty lonely.
All my closest friends now live at least a 3 hour drive away, and I can't justify doing that on a regular basis. I guess that leaves me with my one and only option of trying to get to know people better at work, unfortunately however, I seem to share no common interests with people at work, as their main interests seem to be football and clubbing. Two things that I have no real interest in at all.
Since I've been single (so 18 months), there hasn't been one girl who's really shown any interest in me (who hasn't been pissed). There's been a couple who I've met who I've shown interest in, only to be knocked right back.
I work in a job that I hate and I'll be doing it until I go to uni (2 years late) in September. My salary is £15,000 a year, and theres people who I work with who have degrees and masters. If they've been to uni for 3, 4 and in some cases even 5 years and can still only land the same job that I have; what's the point in me going? When I look at my future prospects, I don't see much to look forward to, only failure. To quote Thatcher - "I see a Man on a bus stop, and I see a failure". I feel that the man on the bus stop is all that I will ever become and that's scary. I walk back from work, and I see families living in squalid flats above shops - failure. Is that all that will be there for me? Failure?
All of these things put together really depress me. When I look at myself in the mirror, I'm just beginning to see another failure. Every day is the same for me; I wake up alone, I walk to work alone, I spend 8 hours working, I walk home alone, when I get home my family seem to treat the dog better than they treat me and I retreat to my room to read, listen to music and spend time on the internet... alone. I eat, and then I go to bed, you guessed it - alone.
I'm beginning to enjoy sleeping more than being awake. At least in my sleep I can dream; I'm not constantly reminded of the tragic and harsh reality that me life seems to be.
Suggestions and constructive criticism are welcomed.
I have cahones, I don't post anon
choose your degree sensibly! A lot of people do a degree for the sake of it, they go with the flow, its what most of their freinds are doing so they will to, and so they have nothing to do with it. Find yourself a degree that has direct job prospects like law, phsycology, enigneering, medicine and theres many others but something you like and then you will feel more positive about your life, especialy once you make new freinds. As for now, why dont you try and join some sort of club where you can meet people, maybe even a sport like martial arts or cycling.
Marlowe
Clinical depression. Millions of people suffer the exact same thing.
Get help. It's easy enough nowadays.
Get help. It's easy enough nowadays.
why does everything in the world nowadays have to have a diagnosis=/.
OP: everyone feels like that sometimes.
Doesn't it leave you wondering where that mans bus was going to?
Theres so many things you can do with your life, you just need to think carefully about what will really make you happy. Choose a uni course that you'll enjoy and then think about jobs later.. you won't hate all jobs you ever have & when you go to uni and meet new people you'll make new friends & meet girls who like you & have stuff in common with you.
hmm i know this isnt probs gonna be much help but felt i should say something a tad more positive than 'you have depression' (which you probably dont..). also you dont have to go back to a job you hate after your degree, thats the whole point in taking it.. you can do anythingg, go travelling or something? it always cheers me up to have a goal like that to look forward to x
you don't have clinical depression from the info you've given in that post.
define failure anyway.
is amy winehouse a failure?
is britney spears a failure?
is lindsay lohan a failure?
you seem to think it's all about status and money, but you can have those and be unhappy, feel alone and feel unfulfilled.
as someone else said, make sure you do a good degree and work hard at it to get a good classification.
in the meantime, join your local gym, join clubs at your gym.. do courses or voluntary work in your spare time.
define failure anyway.
is amy winehouse a failure?
is britney spears a failure?
is lindsay lohan a failure?
you seem to think it's all about status and money, but you can have those and be unhappy, feel alone and feel unfulfilled.
as someone else said, make sure you do a good degree and work hard at it to get a good classification.
in the meantime, join your local gym, join clubs at your gym.. do courses or voluntary work in your spare time.
Sarahl89
why does everything in the world nowadays have to have a diagnosis=/.
Why does everyone have to spew generic, meaningless trite in the general direction of anyone that asks for help?
The person in question is displaying common signs of depression and wouldn't exactly be hurt by arranging a GP appoitment and getting professional help to, at the very least, ease his mind.
Caribou
I'm not constantly reminded of the tragic and harsh reality that me life seems to be.
...I recommend you just visit your doctor; it won't cost you anything.
Marlowe
Why does everyone have to spew generic, meaningless trite in the general direction of anyone that asks for help?
The person in question is displaying common signs of depression and wouldn't exactly be hurt by arranging a GP appoitment and getting professional help to, at the very least, ease his mind.
The person in question is displaying common signs of depression and wouldn't exactly be hurt by arranging a GP appoitment and getting professional help to, at the very least, ease his mind.
i already said he doesn't have enough symptoms written in his original post to have clinical depression.
he's just bored of his life and doesnt see it going anywhere and lonely because he doesn't have any friends... it's hardly a chemical imbalance
Thatcher meh, look what she created. What can money get you lol, trust me when I say that u can live in a 2 mil house and still feel lonley.
Getting a degree won't make happiness jump right into your hands man, you gotta make your own fun. I have plenty of waiting at the bus-stop friends and they love it, and they see their lives as far more desirable than mine lol, one of them said "why would I spend most of my life getting loads of qualifications, then spending all my time working for someone else and having no time, when I've got a low paid job that I like, and have loads of time to basicly smoke and drink and screw.
Getting a degree won't make happiness jump right into your hands man, you gotta make your own fun. I have plenty of waiting at the bus-stop friends and they love it, and they see their lives as far more desirable than mine lol, one of them said "why would I spend most of my life getting loads of qualifications, then spending all my time working for someone else and having no time, when I've got a low paid job that I like, and have loads of time to basicly smoke and drink and screw.
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