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I'm really sorry for everyone who lost any parents,the most annoying thing is the shock,how you'd never think about the person dieing and then suddenly they do, I actully dont believe in shrinks to all do respect to shrinks out there,I feel they do nothing,you can talk to a frined and he/she would understand you more than analysing you and your feelings into scientific terms
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(Original post by tim2)
Im curious in knowing if anyone has lost a parent? If you did, how did you cope and get through it?

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no i haven't, thankfully.......but i always feel really sorry for friends i know who have cos it must be soooo hard without them .......i feel realy sad now
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It's times like this I'm glad I'm not in a library. (Me being TML of course.)
Lol! I've got my internet back at home now
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my mum has incurable cancer.
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Neither of my parents have passed away, but when i was about 18months old they divorced and my new stepfather didnt want me to be part of his new family and my father wasn't allowed custody of me as he was abusive. I got adopted by my grandparents and have lived with them ever since. i haven't had any contact with my mother for 17 years which isn't too bad in itself, its just when people tell me i'm so much like her i would have liked to have known her. There is a lot of hate in my heart for her because she walked away from me but at the same time i've got the most wonderful parents even if they are not mine by birth. The last turn of the dagger was when my father told me he that he didn't want anything mroe to do with me on my 18th bday as he considered me to be a financial drain..i have never asked him for anything...its just what life throws at us and we all have to make the best of it that we can. I hope that all of you who are grieving and have worries and problems find someway to sort them out and something to give you the strength to tackle them
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my mum has incurable cancer.
*hugs*
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my mum has incurable cancer.
I hope you're finding ways to cope.. I remember all too well how hard it was. xx
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my friends mum died at childbirth when she was born and she can't stop blaming herself thinking she caused her mum to die
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(Original post by alio)
my friends mum died at childbirth when she was born and she can't stop blaming herself thinking she caused her mum to die
oh my god thats so horrible!
iv read through a couple of posts, is all so sad!
iv never lost anyone close to me, but i cry when someone close to my friends passes away. doubt id ever be able to cope.
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all the best with that situation.... (Kohlstream) I hope something special happens to mayb not 2day but one day.... not onli that but it takes a lot of guts... You have my utmost RESPECT
my dad died when I was reali young so I suppose its easy to cope becoz I neva fully understood, but I wud of loved to have gotten to kno him beta
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Fortunatly, no. I feel really sorry for anyone who has though, it must be really hard and some people are really brave. I don't know what I'd do if it happened to me.
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Quite a depressing thread Hope y'all doing well
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I must agree that is hard to accept a lost member of the family and it will always weigh on your mind. It happens to me because of my dad when he died, but the situation which is the worst one for me is when Fathers day comes around and evryone goes out with their dad and I jst well.. I dunno what I do, I pretend its another day.
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(Original post by kohlstream)
my mum has incurable cancer.
Then I know exactly what you are going through right now. My dad died 3 years ago from cancer due to exposure to asbestos. I still remember how I felt when they said he had a month to live. It was like I had to deal with his death every day and it hadnt even happened yet. I had a nervous breakdown because of it, I couldn't handle knowing today could be the day he dies. In a way I think it is worse knowing beforehand that is will happen. Not to mention the way pple look at you and treat you during this time. You just want to be left alone and they want to comfort you, I know ppl meant well, but they talked like he was already gone, ya know, and it really didn't help. Now I have to relive it all because were going to trial for a wrongful death suit in October so that myself and my brothers will recieve some form of compensation for our loss, allthough nothing they can do will bring our dad back and nothing can make up for the fact that he never should have died in the first place. All I can say to you is make every moment count now, let her know you love her and try and do nice things for her.


To the person who said their shrink doesn't understand them, man I'd be looking for a new shrink. We all have our own way of dealing with death, I know where your coming from, I too have seen way too much death, 5 friends have died through high school and numerous relatives incuding my dad. I swear I never want to set foot in a funeral home again, I can't do it anymore. I didn't go to my friend and x bf Mikes funeral, I couldn't after going to the others, I couldn't see him that way, ya know. But I did go to my dads but it was awful. I had to be strong for my brothers but I just wanted to go and sit in the corner and cry and be left alone.
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Then I know exactly what you are going through right now. My dad died 3 years ago from cancer due to exposure to asbestos. I still remember how I felt when they said he had a month to live. It was like I had to deal with his death every day and it hadnt even happened yet. I had a nervous breakdown because of it, I couldn't handle knowing today could be the day he dies. In a way I think it is worse knowing beforehand that is will happen. Not to mention the way pple look at you and treat you during this time. You just want to be left alone and they want to comfort you, I know ppl meant well, but they talked like he was already gone, ya know, and it really didn't help. ...
That is the worst feeling. My dad's doctor was telling my family that my dad was going to be fine, but every day you could see him getting visibly worse- and our MacMillan nurse was being truthful with us and saying that it didn't look good, it was really very hard to deal with. Having such conflicting views from specialists was terrifying. It's such a hard time as it is without having to protect how everyone else feels.. as selfish as that sounds heh, sometimes you just want to cry and not worry about how other people are looking at you.

I'm sorry you have to go through the trial, I sincerely hope it works out for the best for you.
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