Looks VS. Personality

Poll

What do you find more important in a partner?

Invocation

12

What do you usually go after? Obviously, both are important. But which one is more important?

Reply 1

cpj1987

15

Personality

Edit: Ah, you've changed the question. I go for both - as HMK said, they're inter-related and you can't really like someone without both looks and personality appealing to you. Personality is still much more important though - but then, looks-wise, I often like people that a lot of others typically wouldn't find attractive.

Reply 2

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

15

Both. They are interelated to an extent. (Male)

Reply 3

The Solitary Reaper

9

Male. Looks catch my interest, personality keeps me interested.

Reply 4

ph9

10

The Solitary Reaper

Male. Looks catch my interest, personality keeps me interested.

yep. except i'm female.

i'm also the type who'll find someone not so good looking really attractive if i really like their personality so maybe i value personality more? i don't know

Reply 5

Ariadne

16

I'm female and straight - I prefer personality over looks, but looks help to catch my eye initially.

Btw, there isn't an option on the poll for women who like men's personalities... :rolleyes:

Reply 6

username136883

8

Personality is more important. Both are essential (at least at the start of a relationship - after all, eventually everyone gets old, etc.) but if I had to choose between someone with a slightly better personality who was didn't look as good as someone else, I'd pick that first person, if everything else was equal.

Reply 7

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

15

rinabean

Personality is more important. Both are essential (at least at the start of a relationship - after all, eventually everyone gets old, etc.) but if I had to choose between someone with a slightly better personality who was didn't look as good as someone else, I'd pick that first person, if everything else was equal.

Do you not think being generally percieved as ugly by people is not going to affect someones personality and outlook?

Reply 8

la fille danse

17

Bisexuality is not a gender...

Reply 9

Llamaaa

15

no option for girls who like men with a nice personality :frown:

Anyway, that's what I'd go for, although a level of attraction is necessary in a healthy relationship.

Reply 10

ph9

10

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

Do you not think being generally percieved as ugly by people is not going to affect someones personality and outlook?

well yeah but that's what's unfortunate because if they made up in personality what they lacked in looks then you wouldn't get so many single loners locking themselves away because they think they're too ugly to date

Reply 11

username136883

8

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

Do you not think being generally percieved as ugly by people is not going to affect someones personality and outlook?

Perhaps, but it's not relevant. I said I wouldn't mind someone who was less attractive than someone else if they had a better personality - if their lack of attractiveness has a big effect on their personality, it probably won't be better.

no hero in her sky

Bisexuality is not a gender...

Yeah :P I'm guessing only 10 options are allowed, though. :/

Reply 12

The Strangest Quark

Looks need to meet a certain minimal standard, but personality has more bearing on whether I'm attracted to someone. I see it as a bonus if somebody I find interesting is also beautiful, but it's by no means necessary.

Reply 13

Sanity Panda

That'd depend entirely on their self-esteem. I wouldn't say it has to be negative.

Reply 14

h82think

14

I'm female: I am someone who will not comprimise and demand that both are fantastic!!!

Reply 15

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

15

rinabean

Perhaps, but it's not relevant. I said I wouldn't mind someone who was less attractive than someone else if they had a better personality - if their lack of attractiveness has a big effect on their personality, it probably won't be better.

No, it is very important. People are packages, breaking them down into their parts makes it less like geniuine love. Looks are not independent of personality, its the combination of the two (and many other things) that makes a person.

Reply 16

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

15

ph9

well yeah but that's what's unfortunate because if they made up in personality what they lacked in looks then you wouldn't get so many single loners locking themselves away because they think they're too ugly to date

Yep. But your post sort of underscores how being slightly "ugly" can be an advantage. The only downside, is would you want your kids to look bad to the point they have to go through a lot of **** for it?

Reply 17

Mystic

1

I suppose personality, but as someone previously said Looks to get your attention and personality to keep you interested..

First I'm interested in someone by their looks, then if I like their personality I act on it.

Reply 18

username136883

8

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

No, it is very important. People are packages, breaking them down into their parts makes it less like geniuine love. Looks are not independent of personality, its the combination of the two (and many other things) that makes a person.

Yes, but overall I think personality is more important. I could fall in love with someone I only talked online or sent letters to - I couldn't fall in love with the subject of a picture, and though I could have a crush on someone I knew but never spoke to, I couldn't love them. Perhaps this just means interaction and especially conversation is most important to me, but these are more dependent on personality than on looks.

Looks are largely independent of personality, unless you subscribe to the theory that things like wide-set eyes or a hooked nose carry character traits with them (I don't).

Reply 19

Sanity Panda

Hopping Mad Kangaroo

No, it is very important. People are packages, breaking them down into their parts makes it less like geniuine love. Looks are not independent of personality, its the combination of the two (and many other things) that makes a person.

I would bring attention to the sort of look we're discussing here. In a simplistic idea... There'd be things that we can control - how we present ourselves to things that we can't have any control over.

Considering our personality is the one thing that we can control and change, I'd say that is more important than looks that we can't change...

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