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    Feeling quite down at the moment so....

    Who else on this forum is an only child? Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one.

    Sometimes the anger and depression of being alone most of the time really does get to me, even though part of me prefers it that way... I'm always very introspective, mixed up in my own thoughts and feelings. I do have many friends, no problem, but when I'm with them I'm "just there", that is I find it very difficult to come out of my shell and interact..... It's just the horror of being "different" to everyone else my own age. Sometimes after particularly bad times I don't feel I can trust anyone and don't even want to leave the house

    My parents are good parents, I suppose, but they have a lot of faults. My mum is melodramatic and has a habit of just ignoring me altogether, even when I'm being really civil she just looks at me with a look of hatred. Her mum was a very vindictive, old fashioned woman and used to lock her in the cupboard for hours on end. Now 40 years later she is taking it out on me. My dad will never back me up even when mum is being very irrational, because he wants her income to pay for crap merchandise for his "sports car". So most of the time, they just bring me down. I can't talk to them, I can't feel I can talk to anyone.

    Any other "only children" out there who can relate to this, please reply I'd be interested to see what other people think....

    By the way, this is what I look like, notice the soul-less eyes
    http://storage.msn.com/s1pZ8pl_R1n1z...04270298199561

    (Plus, I know it's a big leap for me to admit this, but that guy who said I cried on the bus when my cat died? That was TRUE. However, it happened way back in 1998 and it wasn't just 'cos of that damn cat it was because of a mixture of things, too complicated to say right now. I thought maybe people would have forgotten in 6 years, or at least have the decency not to write a post called "Josh Sweet The Truth" which was totally shocking to say the least. How anyone can judge someone by an incident which happened 6 years ago is beyond me? Well, here's a surprise for you "Yeah", I don't remember your name but I remember where you live: Crudgington Hall, Crudgington, Shropshire, and what was that poem we used to sing when you got off... "He shags horses for a living".... see how you like it DUMBASS... ..)
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    (Original post by JoshSweet)
    Feeling quite down at the moment so....

    Who else on this forum is an only child? Sometimes I feel like I'm the only one.

    Sometimes the anger and depression of being alone most of the time really does get to me, even though part of me prefers it that way... I'm always very introspective, mixed up in my own thoughts and feelings. I do have friends, no problem, but when I'm with them I'm "just there", and I kind of dissolve into the background..... It's just the horror of being "different" to everyone else my own age. Sometimes after particularly bad times I don't feel I can trust anyone and don't even want to leave the house

    My parents are good parents, I suppose, but they have a lot of faults. My mum is melodramatic and has a habit of just ignoring me altogether, even when I'm being really civil she just looks at me with a look of hatred. Her mum was a very vindictive, old fashioned woman and used to lock her in the cupboard for hours on end. Now 40 years later she is taking it out on me. My dad will never back me up even when mum is being very irrational, because he wants her income to pay for crap merchandise for his "sports car". So most of the time, they just bring me down. I can't talk to them, I can't feel I can talk to anyone.

    Any other "only children" out there who can relate to this, please reply I'd be interested to see what other people think....

    By the way, this is what I look like, notice the soul-less eyes
    http://storage.msn.com/s1pZ8pl_R1n1z...04270298199561

    (Plus, I know it's a big leap for me to admit this, but that guy who said I cried on the bus when my cat died? That was TRUE. However, it happened way back in 1998 and it wasn't just 'cos of that damn cat it was because of a mixture of things, too complicated to say right now. I thought maybe people would have forgotten in 6 years, or at least have the decency not to write a post called "Josh Sweet The Truth" which was totally shocking to say the least. How anyone can judge someone by an incident which happened 6 years ago is beyond me? Well, here's a surprise for you "Yeah", I don't remember your name but I remember where you live: Crudgington Hall, Crudgington, Shropshire, and what was that poem we used to sing when you got off... "He shags horses for a living".... see how you like it DUMBASS... ..)
    Dude if you need to talk to someone, im here, just PM me *manly hug* im not an only child but ive still got more life experiences than you can shake a stick at...
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    (Original post by Mad Vlad)
    Dude if you need to talk to someone, im here, just PM me *manly hug* im not an only child but ive still got more life experiences than you can shake a stick at...
    Cheers mate, I actually make it sound worse than it is, but thanks, you'd be better to talk to than my parents. If I told them I was feeling lonely they'd never leave me alone!! The last thing I need is to be hanging around a middle-aged couple!!
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    (Original post by JoshSweet)
    Cheers mate, I actually make it sound worse than it is, but thanks, you'd be better to talk to than my parents. If I told them I was feeling lonely they'd never leave me alone!! The last thing I need is to be hanging around a middle-aged couple!!
    Hehe, no worries dude
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    One of my cousins is an only child. Dont know how she does it!
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    I'm also alone, have nor brother or sisters, but I'm happy with it, because I get a lot of affection from my parents for all I do.
    They buy me all what I want.

    You're right sometimes you feel alone, because both parents have to work. If I want to talk with my problems, I have not a lot of people
    But otherwise you've also a lot of advantages
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    i'm an only child and it does get difficult as you are the only one they expect you to do really well at school, which puts alot of pressure on you. I've always wanted an older sister or brother to talk to coz it does get pretty boring and lonely when your stuck in the house on your own! Also it would be nice to have someone to help with my homework:rolleyes:
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    I'm an only child , i always feel so alone, despite the fact my parents are kinda and loving. Sometimes i feel distanced from them as i am adopted, and none of my family are really blood related and i don't feel like i can talk to them about stuff.
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    (Original post by JoshSweet)
    (Plus, I know it's a big leap for me to admit this, but that guy who said I cried on the bus when my cat died? That was TRUE. However, it happened way back in 1998 and it wasn't just 'cos of that damn cat it was because of a mixture of things, too complicated to say right now.


    i would feel exactly the same if (and when) my cat dies. It's grown up with me and i would be heart broken if anything happened to him. Don't worry you're not alone.
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    Personally i'm quite happy being an only child. I've often wondered what it'd be like to have a brother or a sister but i don't particularly feel lonely (why am i on UK-L a lot then i here a dissenter ask?). I think it is better because you can learn to depend more on yourself, even if your parents do try and coddle you all the time. :rolleyes:
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    idd im same doesn't bother me a single bit, probally different if you'd had and lost, but since i've never had it's not an issue :>

    same applies to parents, i've never seen my dad at all and thus never known him, it doesn't bother me though. i feel more sorry for the people who did know, and then due to whatever circumstances lost a parent

    jus gotta get on with ya life, make the most out of what you've got. it hasn't affected my friendships with anyone, my ability to socialise, my quality of life, my relationships, my education etc, andi wont let it :>

    and as above said, you probally could relate it to being a much more mature, self-independant person, which is always something i've taken pride in.
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    i'm an only child. its great coz u get almost whatever I want, however I just moved from australia and had 2 leave all my friends behind. I had to make new friends in a new country. There's a group of people at my school who make it common knowledge that they hate me, and they are in ALL my classes. They think they are cool beacause they don't do any work. They always take he piss out of me coz always do my work but I can't wait till I drive past them in the street in my ferrari!! Well hopefully!
    If I had a brother who was older maybe it could have been different. But I don't so I just get on with life.
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    Well, I have a brother who is 9 years older than me but often when people ask me if I have siblings I forget about him and say "No. wait, yes I do, a brother." I feel like an only child
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    (Original post by blissy)
    Well, I have a brother who is 9 years older than me but often when people ask me if I have siblings I forget about him and say "No. wait, yes I do, a brother." I feel like an only child
    See, brothers are always unloved by their siblings!
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    I love being an only child! I get spoilt, all the attention, it's great! I have loads of friends to talk to, and I never get lonely. I suppose it'd be nice to have a little sister or brother, but I'm very happy the way I am
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    (Original post by Swing)
    See, brothers are always unloved by their siblings!
    I can't help it if I'm the favourite
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    (Original post by blissy)
    I can't help it if I'm the favourite
    My mum likes me most, and my dad likes my sister the most. Therefore in that respect it's unfortunate that we live with my dad.
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    (Original post by blissy)
    Well, I have a brother who is 9 years older than me but often when people ask me if I have siblings I forget about him and say "No. wait, yes I do, a brother." I feel like an only child
    My brothers ten years older than me so I feel like that too, especially since he lives a million miles away (well, fifty miles away)
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    (Original post by blissy)
    Well, I have a brother who is 9 years older than me but often when people ask me if I have siblings I forget about him and say "No. wait, yes I do, a brother." I feel like an only child
    I know how you feel. My brother is only two years older than me (he's 18), butt I rarely see him anymore! I mean, when we were younger and everything it was quality having a brother, but I don't think I've seen my brother since...saturday. You see, he gets up at 10am to go to work at the pub (and I'm still in bed). Then he gets back at about 5pm, but at this time I'm normally out of the house. Then he goes to work again at about 7pm, and gets back at midnight. When he doesn't go to work he sits in his room working on his websites, or goes out with his girlfriend. So I kind of feel like an only child. Plus he's off to uni soon, so that's the last I'll see of him!
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    (Original post by JoshSweet)
    Sometimes the anger and depression of being alone most of the time really does get to me, even though part of me prefers it that way... I'm always very introspective, mixed up in my own thoughts and feelings. I do have many friends, no problem, but when I'm with them I'm "just there", that is I find it very difficult to come out of my shell and interact.....
    What you need is a part-time job... evening or weekend work. That will cure that problem, like it did with me. I was very 'closed', but after helping loads of customers every day, you stop caring so much about the way you present yourself. I'm an only child and I have been depressed loads of times. The internet is a good cure. Make some online friends and talk to them on Messenger... maybe inviting your real friends as well. Doing well at school can make you feel better, as well as talking to your parents a lot.
 
 
 
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