How to contact a girl that i like?

Ok there is a girl that i like on the bus from the park and ride car park into town that i see in the mornings going to uni and im sure i have noticed here glancing at me now im not sure if she was just looking around or what, im not very good at these things. So i could just speak to her like a normal person but im too shy and would totally freeze if i tried so i have been thinking of other way's to get in touch with her and the best one so far is to leave my email address or something on a note and put it on her car windscreen.

So is this a rubbish idea or should i give it a go?

I've probably misread things completely but it would be nice to finally meet a nice girl now im at uni as im 20 and still have never had a girlfriend.

Reply 1

iliketurtles

12

Leaving an email address on the car windscreen is the worst idea I've ever heard. She'll think she has a stalker or something.
Why not just pluck up some courage and speak to her on the bus, as you said - like a normal person? Just introduce yourself and find out a bit more about her?

Reply 2

Meliae

Please don't do the windscreen idea. Even if she finds the note and doesn't think it's particularly weird, the chances of her actually then contacting you are pretty slim.

Just talk to her. If you're wanting to date this girl, you'll have to talk to her at some point. If you think you're going to freeze up, maybe practice a bit first. Try introducing yourself to random people at uni and making conversation so that when it matters, you'll have more confidence.

Reply 3

HJV

16

When the bus is a bit full, just sit next to her some time and say something like "Hi, you seem to take the same bus as me in the mornings. What's your name? Mine's blahblahblah". And the rest is history.

Reply 4

Profesh

20

Anonymous

Ok there is a girl that i like on the bus from the park and ride car park into town that i see in the mornings going to uni and im sure i have noticed here glancing at me now im not sure if she was just looking around or what, im not very good at these things. So i could just speak to her like a normal person but im too shy and would totally freeze if i tried so i have been thinking of other way's to get in touch with her and the best one so far is to leave my email address or something on a note and put it on her car windscreen.

So is this a rubbish idea or should i give it a go?

I've probably misread things completely but it would be nice to finally meet a nice girl now im at uni as im 20 and still have never had a girlfriend.

Good point. What you ought instead to do is add her on Messenger (under some plausibly accidental pretext, e.g. "Whilst searching for your exact name on Google I just happened to stumble across your e-mail address: co-incidence, or what?"), strike up a fantastic rapport (whereupon she commends your rakish charm and 'Victorian' wit, and you, her classical good-looks; all the while thanking providence that she appears to think 'Oscar Wilde' is a brand of cologne), arrange to meet up several months down the line (once you've become sufficiently infatuated that cowardice is superseded by desperation) and then freeze-up entirely.

So; see you back here in, say, four months?

Reply 5

Sweyn Forkbeard

19

Anonymous

Ok there is a girl that i like on the bus from the park and ride car park into town that i see in the mornings going to uni and im sure i have noticed here glancing at me now im not sure if she was just looking around or what, im not very good at these things. So i could just speak to her like a normal person but im too shy and would totally freeze if i tried so i have been thinking of other way's to get in touch with her and the best one so far is to leave my email address or something on a note and put it on her car windscreen.

So is this a rubbish idea or should i give it a go?

I've probably misread things completely but it would be nice to finally meet a nice girl now im at uni as im 20 and still have never had a girlfriend.

That's a bit creepy, to be honest. Are you going to write it in blood?

Seriously though, I would mark it down as a loss - a bus is not a great place to meet new people and if someone I didn't know sat down next to me and started talking to me I'd think it was a bit odd. If it was a long journey I wouldn't think it was strange though. If your journey is a long one then the best thing I can think of which doesn't involve anything creepy is facing your fear of talking to her. Find an excuse to sit next to her and then start a conversation, but try not to sound too forced or make it too obvious that you're interested in her. Depending on your prior experiences and lifestyle, you may find it difficult to maintain a conversation - I know I can find it bloody hard sometimes, depending on how comfortable I feel with a particular person.

Maybe some other people can suggest some good conversation skills or topics.

Reply 6

Y'anami!

12

Personally I think it's okay if you freeze up if you manage to melt (melt?) after like 5 seconds lol, I mean it's just honesty :P BUT that's just me. No windshield though. Too wussy :P

Reply 7

london07

thats such a sweet idea.

but i think you should just strike up some random chitchat ..
maybe sit next to her and ask her something to get a conversating going.. like whats the time?,cor busy this morning isnt it..,etc etc.

or you could just sit and introduce yourself but to me that sounds more nerve racking..?

good luck!

Reply 8

untelena

I think you should talk to her, but don´t rush. I´m shy too so I know how hard it is. so start with a normal "hi". after a few times you can start with something like "nice to see you again" or "haven´t seen in a while". than after you find out her name and what she studies, you can guide her a little. and after that you will know if she is interested.

Reply 9

imhiya

15

I myself am a shy guy, i agree with people say but it can sometimes be hard to put in to work. Give it your all.

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