I have a friend, a former colleague, who has Asperger's. He is nice and funny but very very annoying.
- He has no real friends, and when we used to work together we talked a lot, even personal things.
- He is obsessed with finding a girlfriend or a girl to have sex with. I made it very clear that I am not interested in him that way, even though I am polyamorous (a great mistake was telling him that thing).
- We used to go out together (as friends, with other friends of ours). Now when we live in different cities, not too far away he keeps nugging me about meeting and going somewhere. I really don't want to. It is hard for me.
Don't get me wrong, I have friends with Asperger's I understand he is different and he may not see signs, I don't want to upset him or hurt him by saying I don't want to talk with him anymore, but it is very hard communicating with him. He has no tact (understandable), he can't accept no as an answer, he knows that I don't want to go out with him to the movie, so he asks if something else perhaps would be good. Sometimes I end up saying ok, then have to suffer communicating with him. He keeps talking about his failure in dates and etc. He is smart, but very socially awkward.
How do I get rid of him in a nice way? I'd like to help him, I'd like to make him happy, but now I am not there emotionally to even talk with him. I can't say that to him because it will make him feel worse. I am not in a bad situation emotionally, just tired of a lot of things going on, good things, but still I am too tired for him. I feel he feels I'm sort of ignoring him, and I feel guilty....
What should I do?