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Basically, I leave for Uni on the 25th September, off to Sussex and looking forward to it (kinda). I've got the usual pre-Uni nerves (so I'm told), and was thinking about having a mate up to stay over on Arrival weekend. Anyone else done this? Has anyone had mates to stay over at any other point?
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you might not want to in the first week you are there, everyone else will be feeling just as nervous as you and you are all in the same boat, and if you have an old friend there it might cut you off from the rest of the group. you will all talk to eachother eventually and probably get on fantastically and make new friends for life. the friend that you are planning to take up was a stranger once, after all. i think you should stay on your own and mingle with the people you are gonna be living with, it will force you to come out of your shell rather than staying with the safe option of someone you already know. my flatmates and I had friends come to stay later on in the year, no problem, but i dont think i would have liked to have done it in the very first week before i had got to know anyone, i would have felt left behind after everyone else had met eachother. maybe have a friend up to help you move your stuff in and keep yo company on the journey, but wave them off with your parents, dont have them stay for the weekend.
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Oh I wouldn't do it the first weekend, they'll hold you back. You need to be forced into a situation of making friends and as quickly as possible I reckon. I'm gonna have my best friends come up about a month or so into it so I've got myself sorted out
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(Original post by Elementalism)
Basically, I leave for Uni on the 25th September, off to Sussex and looking forward to it (kinda). I've got the usual pre-Uni nerves (so I'm told), and was thinking about having a mate up to stay over on Arrival weekend. Anyone else done this? Has anyone had mates to stay over at any other point?
I really really wouldn't have mates to stay on the first weekend. As someone else says, it will hold you back. You really have to force yourself to be on your own. Remember that everyone else is going to be new and in the same situation and most people will be very friendly.

A lot of people have friends to visit a few weeks into term (perhaps when the novelty has worn off but before you're really settled in, when it might be nice to see a friendly face again).
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I'd say don't take anyone - when I moved in last year, my boyfriend turned up at the last minute to come down with me - he didnt stay over but it was quite late and once he'd gone I didn't feel like socialising.

It's best to go it alone, everyone is wanting to make friends cos you'll be together for a year, possibly more.

Make sure you have friends down during the year though, its cool to meet all the people in those photos you see on everyone's pinboards lol
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I will only have one photo on my pinboard. I only have one photo of one of my mates and none of any other.
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Yup had an inkling I shouldn't. I could picture myself just sitting there with him talking about the regular stuff, while everyone else makes friends

Later on in the year it is, thanks a lot peeps
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(Original post by Elementalism)
Basically, I leave for Uni on the 25th September, off to Sussex and looking forward to it (kinda). I've got the usual pre-Uni nerves (so I'm told), and was thinking about having a mate up to stay over on Arrival weekend. Anyone else done this? Has anyone had mates to stay over at any other point?
first, i'm going to sussex! but i'm having a gap year so not til next year.

Personally, i wouldn't want someone there when i arrive - it would make me feel a bit inhibited whilst trying to meet people. everyone there will be in the same boat and you'll meet people really quickly - are you in halls? my friend is going to sussex this year...maybe you'll meet her!

i went to stay with my boyfriend at his uni a fair few times last year, and have been to stay with other friends. when you're settled in, i think it would be more fun to have people to stay - you'll know the best places to go and can introduce them to lots of new friends!
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