Okay so, I don’t know if anybody else has already had this idea before… I can’t find anything similar, so I’d like to make a little guide for the H&R worriers as there seem to be a lot of thread about this. I’m not claiming to be an expert, this is all open to discussion and debate, and this is not from any religious viewpoint.
So, I'll jump right in...
Whether you’re male/female in a relationship that’s about to get sexual or you’re just thinking in advance, it’s important to remember that nerves can get the better of anyone. The key is to be involved with somebody you feel comfortable around, can discuss sex openly with and, above all, don’t treat sex too seriously.
Sex is nothing like the flawless, emotionally charged rubbish that you see in films and on the TV. It is, in fact, better. Who wants perfection, I mean really? When, instead, you can make mistakes, embarrass yourself, laugh it off and feel a whole lot closer to your partner for it. Another thing to remember is that what works for one person is not going to work for another, the great thing about sex is, like I said before, making mistakes and learning what works.
It shouldn’t be a chore or a sentence or something that makes you feel uncomfortable, It should be something you take a lot from and enjoy. I’m not saying that sometimes your arm won’t fall asleep, your tongue won’t feel numb or your jaw won’t lock up and you’ll be completely fed up of trying to bring your partner to orgasm because you almost certainly will but, so long as you can laugh about it and not feel complete hatred for their inability to orgasm in a time scale that suits you then you’re on to a good thing.
Men will lose their erections, climax too soon, not climax at all and frenulums will, invariably, tear. Women will tense up, not be wet enough, hymens will rip, air will get trapped and make hilarious noises… these are the facts. These things won’t happen to everyone, and they will happen to some much more than others. Repeated problems will either be down to psychological pressure or a medical issue. More often than not, though, it will be the former. Relax, talk to your partner, and let go.
Anything to add? Feel free...