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Smoker/Non?

Amandeep_Psych07

2

Are you a smoker?
Would it bother you if you're partner smoked, even if you didn't?

Reply 1

The Solitary Reaper

9

Used to be.

Yes because smokers smell like absolute rotten **** and nobody told me.

Reply 2

cpj1987

15

I'm not a smoker; one of my past boyfriends was and I really didn't like it, but put up with it.

Reply 3

username47781

20

I couldn't go out with a smoker.

Reply 4

D-Day

10

I too was once a smoker. I've not smoked in about 6 months though. I can't say I'd want to be around her if she smoked.

Reply 5

D-Day

10

cpj1987

I'm not a smoker; one of my past boyfriends was and I really didn't like it, but put up with it.

Why?

Reply 6

Diachrom

10

I'm a smoker and I must say that non-smoking partners can be VERY annoying.
Of course, they're liable to complain if you give them a kiss post nicotine joy, which is why I carry gum, but if they're one of those militant 'you smell and you're killing yourself and I love you and I don't want to mourn you' types, then I think that's as fundamental a difference as saying you don't want children.

The trouble is there's no room for compromise. One cigarette makes you unattractive to those who don't like it and giving up completely is non negotiable (unless you're SUPER serious)

Reply 7

SuperDaz

13

No

Yes but if I liked her enough I would get over it

Reply 8

la fille danse

17

I don't smoke, I think it's disgusting, but I don't choose my partners based on whether they smoke or not.

Reply 9

cpj1987

15

D-Day

Why?

Because he was my boyfriend. It's not something I'd dump someone over, or not get with them for, even though I don't like it - as long as it wasn't TOO predominant (i.e. Chainsmoking that interrupts socialising too much, or a smell that they make NO effort at all to clear up).

Reply 10

Innuendo_anonymous

I think I could put up with it if I was incredibly attracted to the person. But if I wasn't I wouldn't go near them.

Reply 11

Dream_Catcher

1

It really is their choice and all you can do is accept it. Would you stop being friends or not go out with someone because they had a bad habit, as that's all it is.

Reply 12

~NC~

11

I wouldnt.... unless i was incredibly attracted to them, it would have to be a strong attraction....

Reply 13

ciara

13

I don't smoke. Smoking makes a person a lot less attractive to me, but I wouldn't rule a smoker out entirely. I probably would end up trying to get them to stop though...I just hate being around smoke. My ex was a smoker but he was down to 1 a day when he was with me - can't say I feel bad about it, it's hardly like cutting down that much was doing him any harm!

Reply 14

eyecandy

I could NEVER go out with a smoker, if my friends have even one cigarette the smell on their clothes almost makes me retch (wierd I know, but true) so if that was my boyfriend who I was around all the time I'd probably throw up on him lol.

Reply 15

eyecandy

Dream_Catcher

It really is their choice and all you can do is accept it. Would you stop being friends or not go out with someone because they had a bad habit, as that's all it is.

Thing is though, I see it as a choice that affects me. I don't think it's just a 'bad habit' because it has the potential to make them and those around them seriously ill- its not like bad table manners or a habit of leaving the loo seat up!

Reply 16

shona

10

Dream_Catcher

It really is their choice and all you can do is accept it. Would you stop being friends or not go out with someone because they had a bad habit, as that's all it is.

The difference is, you don't have sex with your friends.

I couldn't bear to kiss a smoker, let alone do anything else. The taste and the smell would be such a turn off for me.

If I was in a relationship with a smoker, I'd have to end it, because I'd find his habit far too selfish. Selfish that he didn't love me enough to want to be with me as long as possible, and as such, didn't love me enough to stop puffing away to an early grave... Selfish that he didn't care about my health enough to not kill me slowly through passive smoke...

Etc, etc.

I think non-smokers tend to be quite intolerant of smokers in terms of who they'd go out with... But I think people who used to smoke and have now quit, are probably worse.

At the end of the day, it's down to personal preference, isn't it? But mine is to not date a smoker.