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Flirting with a girl who's never had sex or a boyfriend.

She's 20, has never had a boyfriend or had sex. I, for that matter, am experienced.

Should I flirt with her differently to how I flirt with experienced girls?

Maybe she doesn't even have a clue I'm flirting with her, although I'm being pretty obvious.

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Original post by Anonymous
She's 20, has never had a boyfriend or had sex. I, for that matter, am experienced.

Should I flirt with her differently to how I flirt with experienced girls?

Maybe she doesn't even have a clue I'm flirting with her, although I'm being pretty obvious.


Honestly, most virgins in today's society are probably not as inexperienced as you'd think. I would imagine most girls had masturbated, watched porn or joked about sex, even if they hadn't necessarily taken part in a sex act.
Original post by Anonymous
She's 20, has never had a boyfriend or had sex. I, for that matter, am experienced.

Should I flirt with her differently to how I flirt with experienced girls?

Maybe she doesn't even have a clue I'm flirting with her, although I'm being pretty obvious.


Do what you feel is right, given the circumstances, as long as it is not offensive.
Reply 3
Original post by JamesH2017
Do what you feel is right, given the circumstances, as long as it is not offensive.


I've done some pretty touchy-feely things with her, and she doesn't seem to mind - well, it doesn't repulse her.

I'm a really big flirt around girls I like, I make it super obvious. I literally can't keep my hands away from her. I always put my hand on her lap when I speak to her, for example.

I dunno...
Reply 4
Original post by Anonymous
Honestly, most virgins in today's society are probably not as inexperienced as you'd think. I would imagine most girls had masturbated, watched porn or joked about sex, even if they hadn't necessarily taken part in a sex act.


Yeah, of course, wouldn't they act differently with a member of the opposite sex? Compared to a girl who has experience?
if youre gonna take her virginity and just leave her then leave her alone
Reply 6
Original post by futuresomething
if youre gonna take her virginity and just leave her then leave her alone


I'm not even thinking of having sex with her at the moment, I genuinely like her.
Original post by Anonymous
I've done some pretty touchy-feely things with her, and she doesn't seem to mind - well, it doesn't repulse her.

I'm a really big flirt around girls I like, I make it super obvious. I literally can't keep my hands away from her. I always put my hand on her lap when I speak to her, for example.

I dunno...


That is quite forward but if she is okay with it then fine.
Treat her as you would any other girl that you've dated but take things slower, or let her take the lead so she can decide what she's comfortable with and where to draw the line
Lol, it's clear you want to be 'the one'. :rofl:
Original post by Kanairee
Treat her as you would any other girl that you've dated but take things slower, or let her take the lead so she can decide what she's comfortable with and where to draw the line


Original post by Nirvana1989-1994
Lol, it's clear you want to be 'the one'. :rofl:


I'm a newbie on here but wonder if you know why people post on here Anon?
Original post by JamesH2017
I'm a newbie on here but wonder if you know why people post on here Anon?


Because they usually post a load of rubbish That's the general rule anyway. :lol:
Original post by JamesH2017
I'm a newbie on here but wonder if you know why people post on here Anon?



Embarassment maybe or don't want to repercussions of an unpopular opinion. Admittedley I've done it before myself
Original post by Nirvana1989-1994
Because they usually post a load of rubbish That's the general rule anyway. :lol:


Ah, okay, thanks for the information - I will keep that in mind in future!
Original post by JamesH2017
Ah, okay, thanks for the information - I will keep that in mind in future!


Okay :h:
Original post by Kanairee
Embarassment maybe or don't want to repercussions of an unpopular opinion. Admittedley I've done it before myself


Thanks for the info.
Flirt like normal? She's a virgin, not a nun.
Original post by Livvyxo
Flirt like normal? She's a virgin, not a nun.


Too funny - thanks, I nearly choked on my Ovaltine.
I was basically this girl a few months ago, I mean I have a boyfriend but I am still a virgin. Tbh it's not because she's inexperienced (which highly doubt it I mean it's not because she hasn't had sex or had a boyfriend that she hasn't done other things) that you must flirt with her differently to any other girl. She probably knows you're flirting with her (we're not that stupid) but maybe doesn't know how to act on it. Just give her time or idk, maybe ask her on a date? So then you'll know for sure.
Reply 19
Just flirt normally, she might be a virgin but it doesn't mean she doesn't know how sex works or hasn't thought about it. If she seems uncomfortable or doesn't answer much when you do, then yeah, maybe tone it down a bit. But the same can be said for girls who have lost their virginities

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