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( In response to Paul) Na I've never had it - (circumcised like most as a baby). But if I could remember, I assume it would have been vehemently painful.
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i can remember it. it was painful for a while, but you get over it relatively quickly.

that said, i hear the older you are, the worse it can be, but your penis will desensitise quite quickly.
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I've PM'd you about it
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I've PM'd you about it
If you're anon anyway then why didn't you just post about it?
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mate, just over a year ago I was the same as you - I would get it done, privately if you can.

if it stays too tight you can risk getting it all the way back and then not being able to push it over your 'bell end' (dont know the technical term) and then you will definately be in pain.

I got mine done and it was not that bad - everyone is different. I was given all types of painkillers and I didn't use them at all - the only ones I had were the ones I was given for the actual op.

On the plus sex still feels great plus you can last longer. Now I'm not saying to get it done for those reasons but my advice would be to soak it up and swallow your fear and see a doc.

he'll advise you on if you need to see a specialist. plus, better to get it done when you're younger if you need to.
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My ex had this problem and ignored it, sex was painful at first but his foreskin "loosened up" and was fine, until one day he tore the frenulum which then healed funny and sex was painful for months before he decided to do something. Like most paranoid men he was dead against being circumcised and eventually he went to see a private doctor who, £750 later, performed a frenuloplasty (to repair the damage) and a preputioplasty (to loosen the foreskin) and you know what? Things were fine after about 4 months but, not completely right.

I see absolutely no reason for all this paranoia about circumcision. I think he should have just gone for that and not faffed around so damn much.
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I was circumsised when I was about 6. I think it was so ridiculously tight that I couldn't piss properly, or something like that. I vaguely remember there was a procedure to try to loosen or stretch it and it didn't work so I was circumsised. I was young so I don't remember the exact details. Also, I don't remember it hurting, but it was done surgically under anaesthetic so wouldn't have hurt at the time. I don't really remember it hurting afterwards either. That said, like I said I was 6... and I do remember it taking a bit of time to heal... which isn't an issue at 6 years old, but I can't imagine at this age not even being able to **** for a few weeks :eek:. Also, there's nothing wrong with being foreskinless. Having had it done young, the whole idea of foreskin actually seems a bit odd to me. Finally - if you've heard any horror stories about "complications" - don't take too much notice. If you had it done it would be being done by a medical professional, not some dodgy rabbi. That's the only real worry - that you may be mistaken for a Jew - so be sure to explain that this is NOT the case! Can't have people thinking you're a bit jewwy.
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When I was younger I had phimosis because I had general ignorance of my own anatomy. One time in the bath I figured out that my foreskin was probably supposed to retract, and I went to see the doctor about it. He told me to stretch it but not to force it, on a regular basis and in in the bath. I did that and went from being unable to retract my foreskin when flaccid to being able to do it when erect, within a few weeks. It will probably be very painful and raw feeling at first, but with time it should become more comfortable. Just don't force it too much and do it a little at a time - you don't want to tear your foreskin as it will make the phimosis worse in the long run because of scar tissue.

Having regular sex also helps, by the way, as I found that it desensitised that general area and made retracting more easy.

Whatever you do, don't rush into having a circumcision, as that's only necessary if you have really bad phimosis. See your GP and ask for professional advice.

Oh, and I cannot emphasise enough that you should not under any circumstances force the foreskin beyond the corona of the penis if you think it's too tight to get back over! If that happens then you're being constantly stimulated so you stay erect and can't pull it back over, and then the blood supply to the glans is reduced or cut and you end up with necrosis occurring. You don't want a gangrenous willy now, do you? By the way - if that happens then call 999.
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(Original post by Sweyn Forkbeard)
Oh, and I cannot emphasise enough that you should not under any circumstances force the foreskin beyond the corona of the penis if you think it's too tight to get back over! If that happens then you're being constantly stimulated so you stay erect and can't pull it back over, and then the blood supply to the glans is reduced or cut and you end up with necrosis occurring. You don't want a gangrenous willy now, do you? By the way - if that happens then call 999.
Christ - that's seriously terrifying. You'd snip your own foreskin with a pair of rusty nailscissors before allowing THAT to happen, surely?
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Will catch up with this thread in a sec, but just quickly....

(Original post by Sweyn Forkbeard)
Oh, and I cannot emphasise enough that you should not under any circumstances force the foreskin beyond the corona of the penis if you think it's too tight to get back over! If that happens then you're being constantly stimulated so you stay erect and can't pull it back over, and then the blood supply to the glans is reduced or cut and you end up with necrosis occurring. You don't want a gangrenous willy now, do you? By the way - if that happens then call 999.
What you are describing is known as paraphimosis, and you need to stop scaremongering :rolleyes:. It can be dealt with by squeezing the glans - this makes it shrink, allowing the foreskin to come forwards again. Happened to me once in the early stages of stretching, no big deal. If for whatever reason, it gets truly stuck, then do go to A&E, but the odds of that are small.
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I have the problem where I can't pull it back.. lets just say I was a really shy kid and never knew much as i didnt speak to anyone bout this.. then my mates started saying about pullin it back and i never did.. i was like :O Wtf!

But even now I can't do it.. im 17 so I guess the age doesnt help.. and it wont pull back.. being a small hole there i dont see how it will stretch!! But yeah, like when I urinate the head of my penis like goes into a ball because the sorta "japs eye" and hole arent lined up properly.. I know I should probably have a circumcision but I feel REALLY wierd about it.. And plus my family take the piss out of me as it is for stupid reasons because they think they are funny.. (I am the younger brother of 4) So this would never die down.
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Okay, I thought I'd just set out my advice in a fairly long post - it seems to come up often enough that I figured I'll do a good job on this once and then can cite as appropriate. Could even go in the Wiki, perhaps?

Tight Foreskins

A tight foreskin (phimosis) is defined as the inability to retract the foreskin fully. If retraction when flaccid is possible, it is termed partial phimosis; if retraction isn't at all possible, it is termed full phimosis. Phimosis is caused by tightness of a part of the foreskin called the frenar band; or, a phimotic ring in this case.

A related condition is frenulum breve - colloquially, a short banjo string. Here, the foreskin can be mobile, but cannot retract due to insufficient slack in the frenulum. Occasionally, this can lead to it tearing during intercourse. Further, it is entirely possible to have phimosis and frenulum breve; indeed, most men with full phimosis have a certain element of frenulum brevity.

If it's not causing you any problems, read no further - don't let someone else tell you it's a problem when it isn't. It isn't necessary to retract the foreskin before applying a condom, if that is your only concern.

These two conditions be dealt with in four ways:

1) Stretching
2) Stretching with a Steroid Ointment (typically Diprosone)
3) Minor surgery (preputioplasty)
4) Circumcision

Which of these you go for is entirely down to your preference. I'll go through them in this order.

Stretching

The basic principle is to apply pressure to the frenar band, much as one would do to stretch an elastic band. I'll detail two exercises for phimosis, and one for frenulum breve. If you spend 5 minutes twice a day on stretching, that should be adequate. Once it's sorted, carry on for another 4 weeks afterwards to ensure it stays permanent.

The advantage of stretching is that you don't need to show your tackle to any medical professionals, and you can start doing it right now; okay, not right now if you're in an internet café or at work....

Phimosis Exercise 1

This is appropriate if you cannot get two fingers into the foreskin at the end. If you can get two fingers in, skip to exercise 2 - it's more efficient.

i) Attempt to retract the foreskin until there is some discomfort - as much as you can tolerate without being in agony.
ii) Hold for 30 seconds, then pull forwards again.
iii) Relax

Repeat this for 5 minutes. It can help to do it in the bath - the heat helps loosen things up a bit.

Phimosis Exercise 2

This assumes you can get two fingers in - if not, follow the previous exercise.

i) Insert your two index fingers into the opening of the foreskin and feel around for the phimotic ring. If you can't find it, try and retract and see which bit snags on the glans - that's the bit you want.
ii) Pull your fingers in opposing directions. Again, discomfort is okay, but not agony.
iii) Hold for 30 seconds, then pull forwards again.

As above, repeat for 5 minutes, and doing it in the bath can help.

Frenulum Stretching

The frenulum is a slippery little blighter, but it can be stretched. If you have tore your frenulum through sexual activity, let it heal before following these instructions (also, consider using a lubricant to reduce the tugging on it during sex).

i) Locate the phimotic ring (as in phimosis exercise 2)
ii) Grip the end of the frenulum which joins onto the phimotic ring between your thumb and forefinger
iii) Pull away from the body (away from the glans) until taut, and a mite uncomfortable.
iv) Hold for 30 seconds, then let go

You might need to hook your thumb around to stop the frenulum slipping away. Again, doing it in the bath can help.

Stretching with a Steroid Ointment

Steroid ointment (or cream) serves to speed up the effects of stretching. They work by thinning the skin, so it stretches more easily; and then, when you stop applying the steroid, the skin builds back up again. Typically, Diprosone ointment is used (betamethasone 0.05%).

Whether you want to use a steroid ointment from the outset is up to you. It's a prescription item, so you would need to see your GP; but you will get results faster this way, so it's a trade-off. Use it as follows

i) Stretch as described above
ii) Apply a thin coating of the steroid to the phimotic ring/frenulum as appropriate

That's about it - the steroid cream on its own won't do a thing, it needs the stretching.

Minor Surgery

So, stretching didn't work, or you can't be bothered?

For phimosis, the minor surgical procedure available is called a preputioplasty. A surgeon will make two small incisions in the phimotic ring, and stitch it together so it is bigger than it was before. This can be done under local anæsthetic. Recovery time is four weeks.

For frenulum breve, the minor surgical procedure available is called a frenuloplasty. It's quite similar to the preputioplasty: make an incision or two, stitch it back together slightly longer. One can have both a preputioplasty and a frenuloplasty done at the same time; if you just opt for the frenuloplasty, and do have phimosis, make sure you tell your surgeon as they tend to leave the foreskin behind the glans after the op. Again, local anæsthesia, and four weeks or so to recover.

Circumcision

Circumcision is an option for the treatment of phimosis/frenulum breve. Essentially, by removing the foreskin, it can't cause any more problems. People in general seem quite polarised as to whether circumcision is a good idea or not, it depends on which country the person is in, and of course whether the person is circumcised themselves (or if their boyfriend is circumcised). Looking at the science, a recent study specifically focusing on the effects of adult circumcision on ones sex life indicates that a significant percentage of men circumcised in adulthood experience a worse sex life afterwards, and nearly 1 in 10 experienced severe scarring or uncomfortable erections:

http://www.urotoday.com/42/browse_ca...sexuality.html

Remember, of course, circumcision is final, once you've had it, there's no going back. Hence, I would always advocate trying stretching (with Diprosone) first - if you never try, you'd never know, and might regret it. If you do want surgery, the decision to remove it entirely or just address the phimotic ring or short frenulum comes down to your opinion of your foreskin. I'll highlight a few points, then leave this issue to one side.

The drawbacks of circumcision is that the foreskin is lost, which contains many nerve endings, and which acts as a bearing during intercourse to reduce friction from the woman's point of view. The foreskin also helps prevent urinary tract infections, as the urethral opening is protected.

The advantages of circumcision in general, aren't clear - better hygiene is often mentioned, but it takes all of two seconds to retract and rinse out the foreskin in the shower. There is also a reduction of risk of cancer of the foreskin - having a cigarette and then touching the foreskin greatly increases the risk of developing a cancer there, so the solution is either to wash one's hands or remove the foreskin.

Further Reading

For further reading, be wary of the Internet: as I mentioned above, people are polarised on this issue, and bias is rampant. For instance, there are lots of sites from the USA (where circumcision is relatively common) that will tell you you definitely need a circumcision.

I got a lot of good advice from a forum whose sole purpose is to discuss tight foreskins and phimosis. I can't post the link here due to TSR rules, but PM me for it (obviously, I will maintain confidentiality if that's a worry). Otherwise, have a look at http://www.norm-uk.org/ - it has more details on this topic.

...and finally

If in doubt, go to see your GP or a urologist. The above constitutes a mixture of good advice I've gathered from various sources, including GPs during consultations about myself, but I am not a (medical) doctor. But, it always helps to be clued up, so you know what the options are and so you can express a preference.
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I toiled with the idea for ages but after trying to loosen the foreskin with the cream my doctor prescribed, I eventually caved in to the idea of circumcision at age 16. I'm so glad I had it done now. It's a lot cleaner, sex lasts longer and personally I think it looks better.

Good luck in whatver you decide to do anyway
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Go to the docs about it. Good luck and may the fore(skin) be with you, or not in this case.

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My friend had this problem, so he went to the doctors and now hes gonna be circumcised.
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Go to the doctor, I thought I had a tight foreskin and posted about it on here myself and the majority of the advice was: 'OMG! You need a circumsicion, it sounds like phimosis etc'. Nobody on here is a doctor, and even if they are, they can't say what is definitely is without looking at it - which is why you need to go and see a doctor who will then refer you onto a urologist more than likely.

I went to the doctor and had an inspection, he told me there was no problem (when there clearly was), so I asked him to refer me to a urologist who told me that it wasn't a tight foreskin, it's frenulm breve and I needed to have a frenuloplasty. If you do need to have a frenuloplasty it only takes a day, I went in (but because my op was delayed I had to stay in overnight to fully wake up from the anaesthetic) and was out the next day.

Please do not put off going the doctor, they've seen it all before.
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Stretching worked for me and now I'm fine. I was also worried I have frenulum breave and went to the doc, he said I'm fine and just stretch and it'll work. I can now have pain free sex, so it worked

Oh and:

If that happens then you're being constantly stimulated so you stay erect and can't pull it back over, and then the blood supply to the glans is reduced or cut and you end up with necrosis occurring. You don't want a gangrenous willy now, do you? By the way - if that happens then call 999.
Try looking at a picture of Margaret Thatcher or Anne Widicome for a few minutes and it'll be fine
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Sorry, but if your foreskin doesn't 'go back' when you're erect, it is definitely too tight and needs operating on.
That is absolutely not true.
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I went to the doctor and had an inspection, he told me there was no problem (when there clearly was)...
I can sympathise with that - the first doc I saw said it 'didn't look like a phimosis' as it was just that the adhesions between the glans and the foreskin hadn't separated (the foreskin isn't always retractable in infants for this reason) and I just needed to retract gently to gradually do this. Which, to be frank, was twaddle - the 'balloon test', which found out about later that day after going home, indicated they had separated (hold foreskin closed, try to urinate - if the adhesions have separated, the foreskin will swell up like a balloon).

...so I asked him to refer me to a urologist who told me that it wasn't a tight foreskin, it's frenulm breve and I needed to have a frenuloplasty. If you do need to have a frenuloplasty it only takes a day, I went in (but because my op was delayed I had to stay in overnight to fully wake up from the anaesthetic) and was out the next day.
Good . Frenuloplasties (and preputioplasties) aren't a big op, and I was all prepared to have one done in case the stretching didn't work. Did you have a general anæsthetic, BTW?

Please do not put off going the doctor, they've seen it all before.
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whoever was sad enough to neg rep me for giving advice in this, at least have the balls to say who you are and why you did it. *sigh*

plus your negging did no damage so what was the point if you aren't going to give a good reason or at least ***** about in the thread.
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