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:)ella
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I've been single for a few months now, and have started dating. Before that, I was sleeping with my housemate for a few months; we were never official but there were feelings. I still live with him and will do for the next year.
When should I tell new people about my ex/housemate? Is it something I should being up on the first date, the first time we sleep together or the first time they meet?
I don't want to unnecessarily cause worry in a new partner - me and ex no longer have feelings for each other and there should be nothing to worry about, but I don't want to appear as if I am concealing anything either.
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(Original post by :)ella)
I've been single for a few months now, and have started dating. Before that, I was sleeping with my housemate for a few months; we were never official but there were feelings. I still live with him and will do for the next year.
When should I tell new people about my ex/housemate? Is it something I should being up on the first date, the first time we sleep together or the first time they meet?
I don't want to unnecessarily cause worry in a new partner - me and ex no longer have feelings for each other and there should be nothing to worry about, but I don't want to appear as if I am concealing anything either.
Help!
I always think going with our 'gut feeling' serves us well and denying that, in my experience, leads to regret.

Good luck with your future quest(s).
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I don't think you can do anything in your situation without it being weird / looking like you're hiding something.

The real question is how you can still live with your housemate.
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Well as a guy i would say no unless he ask cuz as the saying saying say what you dont know won't hurt or worry you.
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(Original post by :)ella)
I've been single for a few months now, and have started dating. Before that, I was sleeping with my housemate for a few months; we were never official but there were feelings. I still live with him and will do for the next year.
When should I tell new people about my ex/housemate? Is it something I should being up on the first date, the first time we sleep together or the first time they meet?
I don't want to unnecessarily cause worry in a new partner - me and ex no longer have feelings for each other and there should be nothing to worry about, but I don't want to appear as if I am concealing anything either.
Help!
Ok. You should tell the people you're dating about this there's a high chance they won't approve as you live with the person. If you do get in a relationship with one I think it would be best to move out.
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