Chronically single and never had a serious relationship ... WHAt is wrong with me?

I'm 20 and this is the case.

For YEARS now I have wondered what my issue is and all the time people have told me someone will come. But that hasn't been true.

I thought I'd met someone about a year ago but that only lasted a few months!!!

Literally EVERYONE i went to school with is in a relationship. Even the really fat ugly ones who everyone thought would die alone. It sounds awful but I actually feel angry when I see people that ugly in relationships and I'm still single.

Anyone else experiencing similar?,

Reply 1

Anonymous #2

yes but im a few years younger (19 in December).....

Reply 2

Golyhawhaw

8

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and this is the case.

For YEARS now I have wondered what my issue is and all the time people have told me someone will come. But that hasn't been true.

I thought I'd met someone about a year ago but that only lasted a few months!!!

Literally EVERYONE i went to school with is in a relationship. Even the really fat ugly ones who everyone thought would die alone. It sounds awful but I actually feel angry when I see people that ugly in relationships and I'm still single.

Anyone else experiencing similar?,

19 and single. Also haven't been in a relationship. Your mentality could also be why you're single. Even if you think someone is ugly, people don't date someone for just their looks. Nothing is wrong with you. Plenty of other people are in your situation.

Reply 3

Anonymous #3

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and this is the case.

For YEARS now I have wondered what my issue is and all the time people have told me someone will come. But that hasn't been true.

I thought I'd met someone about a year ago but that only lasted a few months!!!

Literally EVERYONE i went to school with is in a relationship. Even the really fat ugly ones who everyone thought would die alone. It sounds awful but I actually feel angry when I see people that ugly in relationships and I'm still single.

Anyone else experiencing similar?,

omg you must be me in a parallel universe!!!

im 21 and turning 22 this year, and ive never been in a serious relationship either! my first bf was a guy i met at my first year of uni and it was like 4 months! i keep thinking theres something wrong with me too dont worry! i personally think its because im depressed and maybe i give off bad vibes idk? not to sound weird but everyone tells me im like the nicest person theyve ever met, and i just dont understand why guys arent really attracted to me? i am shy and im only really myself when i know someone well? maybe its that idk? but its starting to get annoying! all myfriends around me are in either serious relationships or talking to someone! i mean my some of my friends are engaged!! that makes me feel so awful

Reply 4

Chicken.M.

20

I'm 22.

Had 2 serious relationships. A bunch of flirtationships.

Don't have any advice.

Cheesecake.

Reply 5

username1439610

18

Don't worry about it. I'm almost 21 and I've never had a relationship. Just focus on living your own life and getting a career. Don't just try and force one. When the time is right you'll find someone. Go with the flow.

Reply 6

eden3

19

Maybe you're just clapped

Reply 7

Cubone-r

21

Original post by Anonymous

I'm 20 and this is the case.

For YEARS now I have wondered what my issue is and all the time people have told me someone will come. But that hasn't been true.

I thought I'd met someone about a year ago but that only lasted a few months!!!

Literally EVERYONE i went to school with is in a relationship. Even the really fat ugly ones who everyone thought would die alone. It sounds awful but I actually feel angry when I see people that ugly in relationships and I'm still single.

Anyone else experiencing similar?,

The reason why you are still single and lacking relationships is because you are sat here typing out your problems on TSR rather than being active and socialising with people.

A relationship does not come out of thin air - you need to be active and getting to know people and essentially putting yourself out there. Mr or Mrs Right is not going to come knocking at your door.

Reply 8

MatiCastillo

4

People can smell insecurities and lack of confidence a mile away and it's not a very fragrant odour. It could be that, but the best advice is, and in no disrespect - buy more tickets and increase your chances of winning the lottery. Meet more people, do that in whatever way you deem fit. Talking to more people, going to parties or places you normally wouldn't go to, try things you have never done etc. I have a feeling you might have a fear of rejection or perhaps have a defeatist attitude? Like, oh no point trying, she's out of my league it'll never work etc.. either way, cut that out and chase people up! Say hi on facebook, be flirty and stuff, just don't be creepy but be prepared for things to just not always work out for you. Good luck!

Reply 9

fallen_acorns

20

yes something is definitely wrong with you.

No one is going to be able to tell you what it is, or help you solve it if you don't tell us about yourself/past experiences with girls.

It could be anything for all we know.

Reply 10

Salma26

9

Nothing is wrong with you.

Just hasn't happened for you, yet.

You got the rest of your life to find someone if thats what you want...

In regards, jealously, tone it down, people aren't as happy as you think in relationships.