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Longing
I can't stop this kind of unspecific longing. I say unspecific because it's longing for people I dont see in a social context, but I long for them after the impression they made on me, such was their magic and charisma. It's almost a pain in the heart. How can I deal with this, I mean to say find a way not to long for what I can't have?
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Reply 2
Maybe the longing for their charm is what you wish was a part of yourself.
Reply 3
hannah_dru
Maybe the longing for their charm is what you wish was a part of yourself.
Nah its just longing for them. Kind of a painful but tender feeling. Someone can be so captivating that they haunt you.
Reply 4
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Reply 5
Yeah thats it. Someone can be hauntingly, fascinatingly beautiful and charismatic. It's the emotional intensity of longing that is moving but unsatisfying.
Reply 6
Erm... I swear some people lie awake at night dreaming up problems.
You know wha? You're a bit emo, that's all. Write a poem about them or something... jeez.
You know wha? You're a bit emo, that's all. Write a poem about them or something... jeez.
Reply 7
It's not so much the problem as how to define the feeling, if I could recognise that then I could control it
Anonymous
It's not so much the problem as how to define the feeling, if I could recognise that then I could control it
I understand this feeling. I had a friend who struck me so much, changed me so much as a person, I feel lesser without him as a buddy. He saved my academic career, made me who I am today. I haven't seen him in a long time, but I know exactly what you mean.
It's very odd.
Reply 9
CJPT89
I understand this feeling. I had a friend who struck me so much, changed me so much as a person, I feel lesser without him as a buddy. He saved my academic career, made me who I am today. I haven't seen him in a long time, but I know exactly what you mean.
It's very odd.
It's very odd.
Thankyou my friend. It really is a mysterious matter of the soul.
Reply 10
I agree with whoever said it.. E M O!
Reply 11
Why would you want to be rid of it, OP? Although painful, it is a beautiful thing to feel - Romantic and Decadent verse wouldn't be the same without this ineffable longing.
Reply 12
Cos I cant gratify the urge to have them, experience them more I guess.
Reply 13
That's why it's so intense, surely? For me, the impossibility of satiation is inherent in this peculiar longing. It's what gives it both pain and beauty.
Reply 14
Yes,and the beauty is induced by their emotional intensity and mystery.
Reply 15
Satisfying the need to see them would remove the longing and remove the feelings (good/bad) which it brings.
Reply 16
And what's so sad (in my experience, anyway) is that if you do get closer to them, that 'emotional intensity and mystery' might disappear, or they might turn out to be far more mundane than you had anticipated. I guess that's how it is though. You either keep the pain and beauty of being distanced from them, or risk shattering it altogether by getting to know them and thus destroying the beautiful image. Surely part of this poignant beauty is in the fact that it can never be fulfilled?
Reply 17
I have seen one of them quite a bit more and it hasn't made the longing wane.
She's captivating.
She's captivating.
Reply 18
thefaeriequeen
And what's so sad (in my experience, anyway) is that if you do get closer to them, that 'emotional intensity and mystery' might disappear, or they might turn out to be far more mundane than you had anticipated. I guess that's how it is though. You either keep the pain and beauty of being distanced from them, or risk shattering it altogether by getting to know them and thus destroying the beautiful image. Surely part of this poignant beauty is in the fact that it can never be fulfilled?
Oh I've found so much intensity in the object of my affections that my longing hasn't waned too much after knowing them more. Still can't have them
Reply 19
Is there any way of channeling it into something positive, as Dante did with Beatrice? What do you think you would gain by having all that you desire from her? So often the reality cannot live up to anticipation.
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