Feeling lonely at Uni.. Already

I notice that far more students staying at halls are way more depressed/miserable than commuting students staying home...🤔

My friend felt the same way and she moved flats, if you do it earlier it will be less awkward

tell them... the only way u would know if they'll brush u off is by trying...or maybe u could make the plans and invite them...but if they are still not responding, don't give them ur time or attention, look for ppl near ur flat that r willing socialize with u and ask ur flat mates if they r alright with ppl coming into ur room, so that person that is willing to socialize could pop in at any moment or u could pop in at their room , that way u know someone near u is ur friend and u wouldn't feel lonely anymore

I'm seeing that more too.. I should have listened to my mam this once and stayed a home!! aaaggh

i'm on a list for if any rooms come available.. fingers crossed!!!!

Hey guys,So like many others I had such high hopes about coming to university but unfortunately it's fallen short of that already. I know it's only been a week, and I'm lucky to enough to have made a few friends, and expect to hopefully make more once my course starts and I go to the society meet-ups, however my flatmates constantly leave me out and I feel like it's always awkward when I'm around. Granted, on the first few nights I went out and was with different people so I didn't get proper bonding time with them but I enjoy being sociable and not sticking to two other people. That said, I've always made an effort to say hello and talk but nothing is changing and one flatmate in particular makes this worse/seems to be judging me. This makes me feel increasingly more isolated and depressed and I constantly want to be back at home. I listen to everyone talk about how amazing their flatmates are and just can't relate. It's at a point now where if I'm out during the day I dread coming back and I always wake up unhappy/anxious and can't stomach food rn (bit of a problem, as this is making me ill and obviously drunk a LOT faster). I want to tell them how I feel but I feel like they'll just brush it off and will continue to leave and make plans without me which upsets me a lot. I'm sorry for the huge body of text, but I don't know what to do as there are no rooms I can swap to as of yet and would be liable for my rent still even if I did move back home and that's not something I want to do anyway. Thanks for any help in advance.

i'm already spending more time out with other people and at their flats because mine is so uncomfortable, i just get really bad anxiety when i think about talking to them about it so wish me luck - any tips on how to go about it/what to say?

I notice that far more students staying at halls are way more depressed/miserable than commuting students staying home...🤔

Interesting perspective. At the moment I'm deciding between renting private accommodation and living at home which would mean 3 trains away (2hrs) from uni. Do you think commuting would be a really bad idea in my case?

Interesting perspective. At the moment I'm deciding between renting private accommodation and living at home which would mean 3 trains away (2hrs) from uni. Do you think commuting would be a really bad idea in my case?

I think you should go ahead with your idea and rent private accommodation because if you're saying that the university is 2 hours away, and it'll take you three train changes to get there, it seems very unreasonable for you to travel all that distance every single day back and forth (assuming that the timetable requires you go in for lectures/seminars every day).. you'll be wasting 4 hours of your day purely by commuting.

I think if the university is maximum 45 mins away from home (by car), then you can live at home and commute because that's justifiable, but any more, and it'll be too much to travel every morning and back every afternoon/evening.

Personally, in your case it'll be a bad idea, but if you choose to stay at home and commute, that's also cool, but just be aware that you'll be spending a lot of time on travel to university (and not to mention you'll be knackered).

Hey guys,So like many others I had such high hopes about coming to university but unfortunately it's fallen short of that already. I know it's only been a week, and I'm lucky to enough to have made a few friends, and expect to hopefully make more once my course starts and I go to the society meet-ups, however my flatmates constantly leave me out and I feel like it's always awkward when I'm around. Granted, on the first few nights I went out and was with different people so I didn't get proper bonding time with them but I enjoy being sociable and not sticking to two other people. That said, I've always made an effort to say hello and talk but nothing is changing and one flatmate in particular makes this worse/seems to be judging me. This makes me feel increasingly more isolated and depressed and I constantly want to be back at home. I listen to everyone talk about how amazing their flatmates are and just can't relate. It's at a point now where if I'm out during the day I dread coming back and I always wake up unhappy/anxious and can't stomach food rn (bit of a problem, as this is making me ill and obviously drunk a LOT faster). I want to tell them how I feel but I feel like they'll just brush it off and will continue to leave and make plans without me which upsets me a lot. I'm sorry for the huge body of text, but I don't know what to do as there are no rooms I can swap to as of yet and would be liable for my rent still even if I did move back home and that's not something I want to do anyway. Thanks for any help in advance.

Hey guys,So like many others I had such high hopes about coming to university but unfortunately it's fallen short of that already. I know it's only been a week, and I'm lucky to enough to have made a few friends, and expect to hopefully make more once my course starts and I go to the society meet-ups, however my flatmates constantly leave me out and I feel like it's always awkward when I'm around. Granted, on the first few nights I went out and was with different people so I didn't get proper bonding time with them but I enjoy being sociable and not sticking to two other people. That said, I've always made an effort to say hello and talk but nothing is changing and one flatmate in particular makes this worse/seems to be judging me. This makes me feel increasingly more isolated and depressed and I constantly want to be back at home. I listen to everyone talk about how amazing their flatmates are and just can't relate. It's at a point now where if I'm out during the day I dread coming back and I always wake up unhappy/anxious and can't stomach food rn (bit of a problem, as this is making me ill and obviously drunk a LOT faster). I want to tell them how I feel but I feel like they'll just brush it off and will continue to leave and make plans without me which upsets me a lot. I'm sorry for the huge body of text, but I don't know what to do as there are no rooms I can swap to as of yet and would be liable for my rent still even if I did move back home and that's not something I want to do anyway. Thanks for any help in advance.