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The Long Distance Relationship Society

Update: There is now an official LDR Society. Click here to join.

As threads on long distance relationships crop up on a semi-regular basis here... I was wondering if there was enough demand to create a LDR support group? Well, a society, I suppose, that's what you call these sort of things on TSR.

People in LDRs can have the most amazing moments with their partners, but the lows can be quite hard to deal with. Sometimes all you really want is a hug, and you can't get those on demand when your partner isn't close by.

Posted in H&R, because this is aimed at the people who post in H&R, and if enough people show an interest, this could help free up some space here.

If no one cares... just let this thread die. I just thought it was worth suggesting.

Shona x

Reply 1

Angelil

19

Some sort of support group would be nice. Would be better than millions of threads on the same subject cropping up every week at least :p:

And as someone who's in an LDR, I know I'd use it.

Reply 2

moshing-fairy

14

good idea

.

i am in one :frown:

. and my boyfriend is in africa for the next few months and already has been one n a bit. and it sucks. sometimes i feel like just ending it, but i am crazy about him and i know it's just the distance that bothers me.

luckily my best friend is in a similar situation, where her b/f now lives in australia (after they went to school together in england) and shes planning on going out there for a few years. however, it keeps getting put off due to him not finding work.

so yes...we could both do with it!. we already have an exclusive boyfriends in other continents club...which involves alot of alcohol!....

hows about u?>....

Reply 3

xBeccaxxGOKx

EDIT: Name list, if you don't want to be here, or want to be added, let me know.

xBeccaxxGOKx - Becca
xKTx - Katie
Kim08 - Kim
EvilSheep - Malin
TheLandOfNorwegia - Chris
Yoghurt - Robert
Southernlight - Lou
wtid - Chris
moshing-fairy - Lucia
ZanyZanny - Suzanne
suzie_h - Suzanne
Nina - Nina
SmilerNuts - Steve
Angelil - Bianca
Sugarlumps - Ruth
Me Myself I - Emily
guitargirl03 -Amy-Jane
missdaniil - Anna
katwin - Kate
hbandtr4eva - Katherine
the_satsuma_man - Sunil

Reply 4

Angelil

19

heh, my boyfriend's not in a different continent, but different countries is bad enough. We've been together for three years so I suppose we just sort of put up with the distance because we love one another. When you both live in the UK you can justify going to see one another just for a weekend (though maybe not if one of you lives in Devon and the other lives in Edinburgh!) as the time/expense involved is not so bad. As soon as flights and things become involved it all becomes more complicated.

For various reasons my boyfriend (in France) and I (in England) have not been able to see one another since September 12th :frown:

I'm going over there for 2 weeks on the 29th December, and I'm soooo excited about it but hoping to God that we won't have to deal with this kind of gap between visits again once we're on the other side of Christmas. Unfortunately he only knows what he's doing at very short notice at the moment (job interviews :s-smilie:

) which means he has to stay where he is...not exactly conducive to making or even planning visits :frown:

Still, just 17 more sleeps until I see him again :biggrin:

Reply 5

moshing-fairy

14

my boyfriend said he's trying to come back for feb.

instead of planned april.

but if it's april i wont see him til then :frown:

.

i planned to go visit him but im retaking an exam and working practically full time so not sure i can.

i feel very sorry for you Angelil!, because i know although i may not see him for another 4 months or so..at least he's not living there!. going to live in france will be amazing though :smile:

may i ask how u met?

ps. if this society is made i will so flood it with my woes!.

Reply 6

username47781

20

I am in one at the minute, my girlfriend is up in Manchester, but at the moment things are working well. Basically although we only see each other roughly every 2 weeks, it does make that time more special when we do see it each other. Plus it gives us something to look forward to.

I think also the key for us is that we have a lot of trust for each other, helps also having messenger and phone contact.

Reply 7

shona

OP

10

As you might have guessed from my original post, I'm in a LDR myself.

I'm very much in love with my wonderful boyfriend, but the fact that we are currently living 300 miles apart is hard for me to bear. I'm lucky in that we can usually manage every other weekend, and that my job can pay for this, but it's nowhere near as good as being able to wake up next to him every day.

I totally agree with you xBeccaxxGOKx... I called my boyfriend a few hours ago purely to complain that I wanted a hug. :p:

He puts up with a lot of my nonsense, bless.

Seeing my boyfriend again on the 21st. Dead excited. :biggrin:

Reply 8

StrangerthanEleven

12

I am just an hours distance away but not easy all the same :frown:

its especially doesn't help when one half decides to head off for a week during the Christmas hols and you already have little enough time together as it is. I suppose he can't be blamed it was booked ages before we were together and he feels as bad about it as I do but its still not easy.

But anyway back to the original post..its a great idea :smile:

Everybody must be getting excited about the holidays now as that usually means uni people in LDRs get to see each other :smile:

hooray for them!

Reply 9

xBeccaxxGOKx

I usually just add into some random text "I want a hug :frown:

" I usually get one back with the same thing, or similar. :smile:

At least I know he cares.

I can't imagine how difficult it would be if we were further away, or if it were more difficult to see each other. I.e in different countries.. I respect those of you that can cope :smile:

I wish luck to everyone in a LDR, its not nice to be in one. But makes time together oh so more special :biggrin:

Reply 10

shona

OP

10

hayles101

But anyway back to the original post..its a great idea :smile:

I'm glad a few of you seem to think so. Hoping a passing mod will take an interest and tell us what to do to get this off the ground, but in the meantime, I'm going to get some sleep so I wake up in time to go to the job that pays for all of my LDR related travel. :wink:

Really nice to hear all of your stories.

Reply 11

FlyingIsis

1

I'm living on another continent to my other half...possibly until may :frown:

Reply 12

xjemmax

i live in england, my boyfriend of 3 years lives in australia.

9 hours time difference :frown:

now that sucks!

love to all the other LDR people :smile:

Reply 13

Sweyn Forkbeard

19

That's a really good idea. 2 months ago I would have joined. :rolleyes:

I think it could help a lot of other people though - let them know that they're not alone and all that. It's one of the things the Internet is renowned for.

Also, good luck to all those in an LDR who haven't split up - I hope it's all going well for you, or if not - that you're coping.

Reply 14

thebarmaidsmiles

great idea, we should all stick toether :biggrin:

Reply 15

Angelil

19

moshing-fairy

i feel very sorry for you Angelil!, because i know although i may not see him for another 4 months or so..at least he's not living there!. going to live in france will be amazing though :smile:

may i ask how u met?

Internet

We were both at the same uni...but not at the same time...and we met through the uni message boards. We were both going through a bit of a hard time and needed someone to chat to. So we started off just emailing 'as friends'... :redface:

In the December of my first year it kind of came out that we both had feelings for one another and I flew to France to meet him in the February. We tend to count our relationship as starting in that December but lots of people can't accept that. Still, we've been together nearly 3 years for most people's intents and purposes :biggrin:

Reply 16

wtid

I'm in one too. I'm in England, my Girlfriend in Germany. We've been together a year and 3 months and these days it's about once a month we get to meet, but at first it was every 2 or 2 and a half months which was hard to deal with, especially when the realtionship was all new and exciting etc.

I have a friend who lives in Germany and her ex lived in Peru - they did that for 4 years until he moved to Germany!! I don't think I could manage that personally.

Reply 17

thebarmaidsmiles

wtid

I'm in one too. I'm in England, my Girlfriend in Germany. We've been together a year and 3 months and these days it's about once a month we get to meet, but at first it was every 2 or 2 and a half months which was hard to deal with, especially when the realtionship was all new and exciting etc.

I have a friend who lives in Germany and her ex lived in Peru - they did that for 4 years until he moved to Germany!! I don't think I could manage that personally.

My bf's in Germany! Feels like a bloody long way at the moment...

Reply 18

wtid

galleta87

My bf's in Germany! Feels like a bloody long way at the moment...

Where abouts? My girlfriend is from Hannover so it's not that bad. ten quid to get to Manchester Airport, £16 return flight to Hannover and that's it! It's just getting the time off work that's the problem, since I work full time and obviously only get a certain amount of days per year holiday. She's over here next, coming boxing day for 2 weeks :smile:

Reply 19

Helenia

20

shona

I'm glad a few of you seem to think so. Hoping a passing mod will take an interest and tell us what to do to get this off the ground, but in the meantime, I'm going to get some sleep so I wake up in time to go to the job that pays for all of my LDR related travel. :wink:

Really nice to hear all of your stories.

Well, change the name of the thread to "The LDR Society" or something, keep it going for a few weeks and then fill in a society application form. All the info is in this thread in the societies forum.

For reference, I'm in a semi-LDR, which probably doesn't really count.

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