I am flat-chested and I don't really like it :/

Hello!

This is a pretty stupid topic to be stressing about, I know. But I am really unhappy with my chest size! There have been nights where I would cry in bed and in the shower because everybody has cleavage and big boobs and I don't. It's really quite embarrassing actually! I'm barely an A cup, but I can fit into some AA size bras also.

It's quite difficult not to stress about this, when most guys are visual creatures. My boyfriend recently dumped me and I think that it might have been because I wouldn't let him touch my chest when he kept trying to, but how could I when I am uncomfortable with it?

I would do anything to get bigger boobs! I am 16 years old, and I am so tempted to get a boob job when I turn 18! My mother says that boob jobs can cause cancer, which is really the only thing that might stop me from getting one.

Anyway, I am really depressed about this and just find it so unfair! My mates often make jokes about how the guy I dated had "bigger" boobs than me. They say it in front of everyone and it is really quite embarrassing. It means that my chest size is obviously noticeably too small, as it is always on their minds for them to think about.

Hi!

I'm Natalie, going to be 21 in about a week and I'm here to tell you that chest size doesn't matter. It is something that you yourself will notice, but to other people the most important thing is confidence. Nothing is more important than confidence in yourself, and if you believe it then others will too. it's easy to feel like the odd one out, especially when there's a random jerk who only cares about physical features of people... TRUST ME, they are no man at all and you should brush their minute opinions off your shoulders.

Partially because that means they either have a tiny thing themselves, or just have nothing going for them so they judge everything they possibly can.

You have way more to love about yourself than just your chest. Plus, you can totally not wear a bra all the time making life a little nicer not having to worry about it in the morning haha. I know sometimes there will still be days where you feel insecure about them, but those are days that everyone has about something to do with their body. I've learned to wear bras that make me feel confident and cute, and thats really helped me and I think it will help you.

Plus, remember you're 16... you still have time for them to grow. And if they don't, DON'T constantly look at them like a problem because the only person that truly notices is you. ANY guy, girl, human being, but especially guy (because I know how it feels myself) that puts you down about your chest size... don't give them any second thought except for that they must be insecure about something themselves. Chest size doesn't matter. I promise. It's all about how you see yourself and the confidence you possess in yourself. <3You'll be alright, just know it's not something to worry about at all.

I also just want to add that you'll find it funny growing up... some guys are like "why can't girls just not care" yet are also the ones to be picky and say "I like curly hair, blue eyes, and the biggest smile" what have you; then there's the guys that say 'why can't People just not care as much" or even "why can't Guys just not care" about girls appearances, and those are the people you want to be around. It's about trial and error-- it's just a matter of meeting new people and realizing old ones with negative connotations were soooo wrong and not needed in your life. Majority of the world isn't ****... there's just few who really make it seem like they might be.

Also please don't just let your boyfriend or whoever touch your chest simply because they're your boyfriend or whoever... like I noticed another comment suggested. Psh. No, you do what YOU feel is right in your heart, don't ever let anything besides that little feeling in your gut and soul dictate who you see or what you do.

Okay, promise I'm done. And if you're having a rough day I'm here always

Late bloomes such as yourself usally gorw bigger boobs in the end

My friends honestly think my ex was only using me to try and get in my pants, though.

1, Pretty normal for teens....
2. If he wanted to "get in your pants" and to touch your chest, doesn't it mean you ARE attractive?

You are still growing and changing. I was really flat chested in my teens, got a AA bra at 14 and until 17 I was something between AA and A. Now I am something between A and B. Not a huge difference.,,,
Teens are making fun of everyone for everything. You have to work on your self esteem. It is not your boobs' size, the problem is how you see yourself, and maybe even how you treat yourself.

If you want you can talk to me in privet. I've been through stuff like that when I was your age (I'm almost 28 now).

Thank you. I appreciate the offer. :3

I hope that you weren't too upset when you were my age, because it really sucks!

Looking back, I miss that age sometimes. Although I was bullied and made fun of a lot I miss the other things in high school. I hated high school, but still miss it.

I'm really sorry to hear. Bullying sucks! :'(

Sure, there are some guys who aren't interested in flat-chested girls or girls with small breasts -- but the reality is that guys for whom it's a deal-breaker are few and far between. There are actually more guys who prefer girls who have little or no breasts than there are guys for whom absence of breasts is a deal-breaker.Remember that though you may have very little breast tissue, you've got nipples and nipples are the interesting bit anyway. Use your nipples in the same sort of way as other girls use their breasts and you'll find guys are fascinated.

You should take advantage of what you have (or haven't). You can probably go braless more comfortably than other girls and you probably have a really nice back as well. I bet you do. Tell me if you do. There was this makeover show my mum used to watch called Trinny and Susannah and Trinny was the flat- chested one. She still found ways to make herself look good and feeL FAB! and has many tips so look her up if you think it might be helpful.
Anyway, about your boyfriend, insecurity can be off-putting, no matter what One Direction would have you believe. Small boobs are not such a problem. If you feel comfortable, don't be afraid to let partners touch your boobs because boobs are boobs and they probably won't mind unless they're terrible people.
I would advise against a boob job unless you're rich. But at any rate, would you be doing it for the right reasons? Are there any? I don't believe you should pay to have yourself cut open and random shizzle inserted just to conform to other people's ideals. Become your own ideal and know that any lad would be lucky to have you.
Best wishes old love

Hello!

This is a pretty stupid topic to be stressing about, I know. But I am really unhappy with my chest size! There have been nights where I would cry in bed and in the shower because everybody has cleavage and big boobs and I don't. It's really quite embarrassing actually! I'm barely an A cup, but I can fit into some AA size bras also.

It's quite difficult not to stress about this, when most guys are visual creatures. My boyfriend recently dumped me and I think that it might have been because I wouldn't let him touch my chest when he kept trying to, but how could I when I am uncomfortable with it?

I would do anything to get bigger boobs! I am 16 years old, and I am so tempted to get a boob job when I turn 18! My mother says that boob jobs can cause cancer, which is really the only thing that might stop me from getting one.

Anyway, I am really depressed about this and just find it so unfair! My mates often make jokes about how the guy I dated had "bigger" boobs than me. They say it in front of everyone and it is really quite embarrassing. It means that my chest size is obviously noticeably too small, as it is always on their minds for them to think about.

And i'm going to share this so you can take advice from it too - each time I look in the mirror, i smile at myself, when i have a shower, i call myself sexy.
Yes its weird but its an act of self - love and we all need to share ourselves and our love and it really does work!!