(Sorry to go in-depth into my relationship problems, but I feel that it is necessary in order for the whole big picture to make sense.)
My boyfriend dumped me in late July, and I've basically been a wreck ever since. We weren't really dating for very long - 1 month exactly. But he was my first boyfriend, I had the biggest crush on him ever and I liked him A LOT. I still like him a lot. But no matter how much I try, I can't get over him.
He dumped me over message and didn't give me an actual reason as to why he wanted to dump me. I tried to talk to him in the week following, but he avoided me. I even was a bit creepy and waited for him at his bus after school, but that didn't work. Then, a few days later, he messaged me and asked me to take him back. I thought, "Oh wow! This is the best day ever!" He then changed his mind though, and he asked if we could actually be "Friends with benefits" instead of being in a serious relationship. But then he changed his mind, and did not even want that. He had gotten my hopes up for nothing. I was pretty annoyed, to be honest. :/
I haven't spoken to him since July, but not contacting him hasn't made me get over him one bit at all. Every day I think about this and get quite upset. It gets into my head when I am in the middle of class, when I am with my mates, when I am listening to music and even when I am at home relaxing.
The worst part is, I have nobody to talk to about this. All of my friends don't understand how I feel. When I try to tell them about how depressed I am over my ex, they say things like "oh my God, get over him already, he is a [insert bad word here]". They tell me I should "just get over him" and I can tell that they think that I am pretty pathetic because of this.
Sometimes, I can make myself feel a little better about it by talking to people about the negatives of this guy. Like, this guy was horny 24/7 and always tried to be kinky with me, he had forced the first kiss upon me, he tried to touch me in 'places', he always asked if we could have sex by the end of this year (in which I always replied "no" to), etc. But talking about the negatives about him only works for a little while. Then when the conversation ends with my friends I get upset again. I feel like I can't discuss my problems with (the very few friends of mine who do slightly understand my situation) forever.
I have tried "doing things I love" and "going to bed at a reasonable hour" and "just not thinking about it", but all of that stuff just does not work.
So, yeah. I feel pretty pathetic, being so hung up over this for all of this time. It kills me inside. I'd do anything to get him back. I KNOW that I should not have that attitude and that this is unhealthy. But there is nothing that I can do to change my thoughts. I am pretty insane.