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What is an acceptable amount of time to see your partner in a LD relationship?

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What is an acceptable amount of time to see your partner in a LD relationship?

Hey,

Just wondered your opinions on this. What do you think would be a reasonable amount of time to see your partner in a long distance relationship?

You could also comment on if you find it hard, how you cope etc.

Thanks!

Reply 1

Zoecb

11

Mine's not very long distance (couple of hours) - if I go more than 2 weeks without seeing him I get pretty restless and pining...

Reply 2

peninsula

OP

2

Zoecb

Mine's not very long distance (couple of hours) - if I go more than 2 weeks without seeing him I get pretty restless and pining...

Aww

Reply 3

FyreFight

14

If it's no more than every couple of weeks I don't really see the point in it.

Reply 4

Jxhn

13

mmmm I can barely go a week without getting melancholy :frown:

Reply 5

Zoecb

11

Anything up to once or twice a month I suppose would be just about copeable with - but preferably weekly or something like that! Think about it, if you visit each other every week and alternate, you only have to travel once every two weeks, and if you're particularly busy you can always miss out a weekend. That's more or less how I do it during term time, anyway.

Reply 6

Hygeia

14

as often as is feasible... depends how far, other committments etc. Sometimes i'll see my fiance every other week but it's 4hr30 at the least travelling time, he has a job and i have uni so at times it's been 5 weeks. didn't enjoy it too much but was unavoidable

Reply 7

hannah_dru

2

I saw my ex about once a month, although when it got to exam times sometimes it was between 2-3 months. That was tough.

Reply 8

graemematt

12

I travelled 5 and a half hours every fortnight for a year to keep my relationship going :biggrin:

And she travelled the other weeks so we saw each other every weekend. It was good, although maybe in retrospect a bit excessive. I'd say seeing your other half for a weekend per fortnight would be fine.

Reply 9

h82think

14

I see my bf on the weekends, he is at university (so once a week). If I don't see him once a week, I totally freak. I don't know how some couples only see eachother once a month/ every 2-3 months!

Reply 10

suzie_h

1

I see mine generally every other weekend, but have gone a month without seeing him and it was really too long for me. Good on all the people who can go months without seeing their partners :smile:

Reply 11

wtid

Used to be every 2 or 3 months, now every month. But we do talk on msn and use skype for cam/microphone every day (which could be argued makes it harder)

Reply 12

Mr. Giblet

every other week is the best sort of time I think. any more is too long, really. Depends how much you can afford.

Reply 13

Sweyn Forkbeard

19

Every other week suited me just fine, though I preferred it when my ex and I could see each other every week.

Reply 14

suicidal_dream

1

my ldr is only 1hr 30, im at uni, he's working fulltime.

i go crazy if i dont get to see him every weekend. we managed 16 days once and we were absolutely ko'd, we wouldnt have been able to cope much longer.
we are a very physical couple though - whenever we're together we're always holding hands or have our legs over each other etc etc.

Reply 15

nterry242

13

I think sometimes seeing eachother say every week makes it a bit harder! When i first got to uni I was miserable and so my bf came down a week after I'd been here. Then I went home for my birthday 3 weeks later and they went quite quick.....in last 4 weeks I've been home every weekend at some point cause of birthdays/events etc but hardly had any time to see my fella, so leaving and coming back here is hard! It does make you appreciate what time you do get together though :redface:

) x x

Reply 16

StrangerthanEleven

12

Every weekend..and that nearly the whole weekend.l def couldn't cope which much less or I would just miss him too much :frown:

but well done to those who can!

Reply 17

Atomic Dave

8

I said once a month, the relationships I was in though, it'd be more like once every 2 - 3 months. It's just something I learned to deal with, I think I could probably do it again fairly easily.

Reply 18

Profesh

20

Once a week, I should think.

Reply 19

Angelil

19

kate0904

as often as is feasible... depends how far, other committments etc. Sometimes i'll see my fiance every other week but it's 4hr30 at the least travelling time, he has a job and i have uni so at times it's been 5 weeks. didn't enjoy it too much but was unavoidable

Basically acceptable = whatever is pragmatically feasible. My boyfriend and I have had anything from 2 weeks to 12 weeks in between visits before :frown:

suicidal_dream

we are a very physical couple though - whenever we're together we're always holding hands or have our legs over each other etc etc.

Great - I bet that's really nice for all the people around you to see :s-smilie:

As has already been said, you learn to deal with it. I'm moving to France in 6 months' time to live with my boyfriend permanently so the end is in sight. We've always known we were thinking long-term, so the amount of time we've been together so far (3 years) is relatively little in the grand scheme of things. We see the distance as being difficult but an inconvenience that has to be put up with for the time being.

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