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    I had to drop out of the 1st year uni aged 22 due to ongoing illness.

    After some pretty horrific years in my 20s I'll be looking to start uni again but this time aged 32. On the bright side while I'm not as handsome as I used to be as a young man I look younger than my age (can get away with 26-27) and I'll have enough money that I could pretty much retire as well, although I do not wish to.

    My reasons for getting a degree are actually secondary, my primary reasons would be to force myself to take much needed time out (since there is so much free time at uni) and most importantly for the social experience.

    Yes I mean clubbing, partying, making friends, hooking up etc. all the things my peers experienced while I languished.

    Is this going to be possible or is this just a pipe dream? Will I just be ostracized owing to my age? In truth I still feel no different to that 22 year old who had to drop out and I'm not really interested in the "mature" student scene..
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    (Original post by Arhat)
    I had to drop out of the 1st year uni aged 22 due to ongoing illness.

    After some pretty horrific years in my 20s I'll be looking to start Edinburgh uni again but this time aged 32. On the bright side while I'm not as handsome as I used to be as a young man I look younger than my age (can get away with 26-27) and I'll have enough money that I could pretty much retire as well, although I do not wish to.

    My reasons for getting a degree are actually secondary, my primary reasons would be to force myself to take much needed time out (since there is so much free time at uni) and most importantly for the social experience.

    Yes I mean clubbing, partying, making friends, hooking up etc. all the things my peers experienced while I languished.

    Is this going to be possible or is this just a pipe dream? Will I just be ostracized owing to my age? In truth I still feel no different to that 22 year old who had to drop out and I'm not really interested in the "mature" student scene..
    Its how you act rather than your age that people will be bothered about.
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    (Original post by Arhat)
    I had to drop out of the 1st year uni aged 22 due to ongoing illness.

    After some pretty horrific years in my 20s I'll be looking to start Edinburgh uni again but this time aged 32. On the bright side while I'm not as handsome as I used to be as a young man I look younger than my age (can get away with 26-27) and I'll have enough money that I could pretty much retire as well, although I do not wish to.

    My reasons for getting a degree are actually secondary, my primary reasons would be to force myself to take much needed time out (since there is so much free time at uni) and most importantly for the social experience.

    Yes I mean clubbing, partying, making friends, hooking up etc. all the things my peers experienced while I languished.

    Is this going to be possible or is this just a pipe dream? Will I just be ostracized owing to my age? In truth I still feel no different to that 22 year old who had to drop out and I'm not really interested in the "mature" student scene..




    depends to be honest...

    how well can you relate to them? are you on a similar wavelength?
    If they see you as "past it" or that "old guy" ....then it's probably not gonna be that fun for you in terms of socializing and you'll probably be left out. Then again trying too hard to fit in will probably make you seem out of place too if they can see though it....

    without knowing you, or knowing the students your question is a bit hard to answer...


    and do you really look 26-27?
    if you say you are not as handsome as you were when you were a "young man" then this implies aging has taken it's toll somewhat ..and you look older than this.
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    What I meant to infer is that as a young man I literally had girls throwing themselves at me but was so unwell I had to exit the scene, now although I still have my looks at 32 yea I look around 27 which is still old for most 18-20 year olds and I'm not sure I have that same natural draw as I used to being a young man.

    As for wavelength I am no different to my 22 year old self, and when I arrived there back then yea there were immature people who while I was ok with I did not regret not getting involved with, on the other hand there are places with people where I'd still want to frequent but I might end up feeling a little self conscious to be in to be honest despite wanting to be there.
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    (Original post by Arhat)
    I had to drop out of the 1st year uni aged 22 due to ongoing illness.

    After some pretty horrific years in my 20s I'll be looking to start Edinburgh uni again but this time aged 32. On the bright side while I'm not as handsome as I used to be as a young man I look younger than my age (can get away with 26-27) and I'll have enough money that I could pretty much retire as well, although I do not wish to.

    My reasons for getting a degree are actually secondary, my primary reasons would be to force myself to take much needed time out (since there is so much free time at uni) and most importantly for the social experience.

    Yes I mean clubbing, partying, making friends, hooking up etc. all the things my peers experienced while I languished.

    Is this going to be possible or is this just a pipe dream? Will I just be ostracized owing to my age? In truth I still feel no different to that 22 year old who had to drop out and I'm not really interested in the "mature" student scene..
    Wow, your primary reason for going is socializing? What a model student for the younger students you'll be. Also the fact that one of your reasons for going is "hooking up" is quite creepy, maybe find someone closer your age?
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    Yep I don't actually need a degree anymore to be succesful although I am genuinely interested in what I'm going to be studying.

    Why is it creepy? Is it creepy for a 22 year old to go to uni to socialize and maybe hook up? I can tell you plenty of people do just that and I would not call them creepy.

    It's not like I'm my age having done it all and still doing it;. Maturity wise in that department due to what happened to me I am in stunted development, so although my numerical age is 32 I may as well be 22 in reality.


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    Well if that's you in your avatar you already look older than me and I'm a decade older than you, so I suppose you are a creep as well right?
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    (Original post by Arhat)
    Yep I don't actually need a degree anymore to be succesful although I am genuinely interested in what I'm going to be studying.

    Why is it creepy? Is it creepy for a 22 year old to go to uni to socialize and maybe hook up? I can tell you plenty of people do just that and I would not call them creepy.





    you're actually going purely to hook up and socialize?

    you've been watching far too much American movies mate

    I'm sure if you really sat down and thought about it you could think of other ways to meet/interact and hook up with 18-21 years olds than wasting 3 years and all that money studying something you don't even need.
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    (Original post by ANM775)


    you're actually going purely to hook up and socialize?
    Primarily socialize yes, I said "and" hook up well yes that occurs naturally anyhow when both sexes mix.

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    you've been watching far too much American movies mate
    No I have not, I don't watch movies, wouldn't even know the ones you are referring to.

    (Original post by ANM775)
    I'm sure if you really sat down and thought about it you could think of other ways to meet/interact and hook up with 18-21 years olds than wasting 3 years and all that money studying something you don't even need.
    I'm sure I could but it would not be a university experience, notice I said primarily to socialize. You do realize loads of people I knew went for just that reason, not to get a degree, I did start a degree for a couple of months before I had to leave so I know what it was all about.

    I live in the same city I'd like to go to and as I need to take much needed time out anyhow, going to uni would be a piece of piss to be honest and a lot of fun, especially since this time around I have no present or future financial concerns whatsoever.
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    (Original post by Arhat)
    Deafening silence!
    You seem to be answering all your questions all by yourself!

    Why would you want to socialise with a bunch of, in some circles, 18-20 year olds.

    You say you don't want the mature scene, but you are or would be a mature student.
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    Why do you think university would be "a piece of piss"?
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    (Original post by 360...)
    Why would you want to socialise with a bunch of, in some circles, 18-20 year olds.
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    peter-pan syndrome, he wants to recapture part of his lost youth, that he feels he missed out on......
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    (Original post by SomeWelshGuy123)
    Also the fact that one of your reasons for going is "hooking up" is quite creepy, maybe find someone closer your age?
    I agree with this to be honest, it sounds a bit worrying.
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    You're 32 but have a mentality of a 15 year old. If you want to go clubbing and meet people get tinder and dating sites and go to nightclubs and bars.. No need to go to university for 3 years or more, be stuck studying, when you say you dont even need it. If you have a job and money and your soul purpose for university is meeting people, then dont bother. Loads of people don't go to university and its not essential for you to go to have a Uni Experience.
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    (Original post by 360...)
    You seem to be answering all your questions all by yourself!

    Why would you want to socialise with a bunch of, in some circles, 18-20 year olds.

    You say you don't want the mature scene, but you are or would be a mature student.
    (Original post by Arhat)
    I had to drop out of the 1st year uni aged 22 due to ongoing illness.

    After some pretty horrific years in my 20s I'll be looking to start uni again but this time aged 32.
    I would have thought that was self evident from what I've written already, because it is an experience I missed that I would like to experience in this life, I ended up alone in and out of hospital throughout my late teens-early 20s. Btw I still think I can do it, maybe if I was 35 I'd really be visibly too old.

    Why do you think university would be "a piece of piss"?
    Because I recall the work loads my friends were doing i.e. too much free time, I also remember looking through their 2nd year materials and exam papers and to be frank you could do a UK undergrad in 1 year if you wanted to, many of my peers agreed (I would not say the same about a masters though that is an intense year).

    Given that I was working 12-14 hours daily, weekends included with no holidays for about 2-3 years in my late 20s, a degree is and will be a doddle, a 3 year holiday, and one that I much need (the holiday that is).
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    I think it would be a massive risk on your part, to assume that the 18,19 and 20 year olds are going to want to socialise with you. I'm not saying they definitely won't, but taking the chance that it is going to work out this way seems quite risky. And expensive, even if you CAN afford it. Are you really that desperate for friends that you are going to spend thousands of pounds on tuition, in the hope you might make some friends?
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    (Original post by ANM775)
    peter-pan syndrome, he wants to recapture part of his lost youth, that he feels he missed out on......
    Peter pan would indicate I'm hanging on to something I experienced, I did not experience it, it would be the first time for me.
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    Why would anyone pay nine thousand poundand just to have the 'social experience'...
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    (Original post by Linalolo)
    You're 32 but have a mentality of a 15 year old. If you want to go clubbing and meet people get tinder and dating sites and go to nightclubs and bars.. No need to go to university for 3 years or more, be stuck studying, when you say you dont even need it. If you have a job and money and your soul purpose for university is meeting people, then dont bother. Loads of people don't go to university and its not essential for you to go to have a Uni Experience.
    Correction mentality of a 22 year old. 15 year olds don't go clubbing. Look I was at uni at 22 before I had to drop out due to illness I do know what I missed.

    (Original post by Wolfram Alpha)
    Why would anyone pay nine thousand poundand just to have the 'social experience'...
    Actually most of my peers went to uni because that was just the thing you did, mainly to socialize, meet the opposite sex etc. getting a degree was just a btw. For me too it can now be just a btw.
 
 
 
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