MUSLIM men - would you care if your wife is not a virgin? Watch

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So I had premarital sex many times with a ex bf before but I ended the relationship because I felt I had lost myself and I wanted to be a better muslim instead so we brokeup. Since then I haven't slept with anyone and I don't plan to till I get married.
I regretted it alot and I have forgiven myself since then. I have become a much better muslim, started praying more and adhering to Islam better.
I want to marry someone I choose so, of course, I want to be honest with that person about my past relationship.

Would it bother you if your future wife was not a virgin?
Would it bother you if you were a virgin and she were not?
Or that she had comitted one of the greatest sins in Islam (but then turned over a new leaf)?
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Me personally, I wouldn't care. I'd be nice to marry a virgin, but its not something I really care about that much.

Edit: If I was a virgin, maybe I would want a virgin wife more however.

Edit: She can't have sucked **** though, can't be kissing a woman with sperm-breath.
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Would it bother you if your future wife was not a virgin?
Yes
[/quote] Would it bother you if you were a virgin and she were not?[/quote]
Yes
[/quote]Or that she had comitted one of the greatest sins in Islam (but then turned over a new leaf)?[/quote]
Yes

I wouldn't marry a woman who I knew was not a virgin.
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(Original post by HabibSyed)
Edit: She can't have sucked **** though, can't be kissing a woman with sperm-breath.
:lolwut:
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Sense some immaturity here but thanks for the reply XD
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(Original post by Anonymous)
So I had premarital sex many times with a ex bf before but I ended the relationship because I felt I had lost myself and I wanted to be a better muslim instead so we brokeup. Since then I haven't slept with anyone and I don't plan to till I get married.
I regretted it alot and I have forgiven myself since then. I have become a much better muslim, started praying more and adhering to Islam better.
I want to marry someone I choose so, of course, I want to be honest with that person about my past relationship.

Would it bother you if your future wife was not a virgin?
Would it bother you if you were a virgin and she were not?
Or that she had comitted one of the greatest sins in Islam (but then turned over a new leaf)?
You do you. I wouldn't mind at all. If someone does mind and doesn't want you because of it, then you shouldn't want them either.

I feel like Islam/religion is a very personal thing. Even if you committed a sin or whatever, it's personal to you - relationship with Allah/God is your own. If anyone judges you for your religion or your relationship with Allah, then they can get lost.
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(Original post by HabibSyed)
Me personally, I wouldn't care. I'd be nice to marry a virgin, but its not something I really care about that much.

Edit: If I was a virgin, maybe I would want a virgin wife more however.

Edit: She can't have sucked **** though, can't be kissing a woman with sperm-breath.
Sorry I was trying to read this seriously, but "sperm-breath" hahahahaha *dead*.
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Honey, if the guy is not a virgin either, he has no write to judge and be hypocritical.
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If i am chaste, i'd like her to be chaste too.
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As for the one who fornicates....

Sincerely repent and you will find your Lord to be forgiving

We shouldnt forget that some of the greatest companions and figures in our faith were at first enemies of Islam

If they can turn themselves around, so can you.
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Just in case you didn't know, you don't have to tell your future partner. You can conceal it, but, if you want to be open about it there is no wrong in that either.
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I'm not a virgin and I don't have time for self righteous Muslim guys who demand one when they aren't Muslims themselves. There's no way they'd be able to tell anyway as many virgins do not bleed the first time they have sex, I didn't.

And as for HabibSyed's comment about blowjobs, are you never going to kiss her then after she sucks you off? And lmao, how would you even know whether your girlfriend has given blowjobs before? She could easily lie and say she hasn't.
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100% yes
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I used to question the logic behind the "dont have sex before marriage" but it makes perfect sense now. If everyone has sex with one partner, it drastically reduces the spread of STDs. Even if one person had an STD, only them and their partner would be affected by it whereas if they didn't have one sex partner, they could spread it across hundreds if not thousands of people.
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just an opinion, but it's funny how a few minority of men have certain expectations of women regarding chastity and then double standards themselves
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(Original post by calsmith12)
I used to question the logic behind the "dont have sex before marriage" but it makes perfect sense now. If everyone has sex with one partner, it drastically reduces the spread of STDs. Even if one person had an STD, only them and their partner would be affected by it whereas if they didn't have one sex partner, they could spread it across hundreds if not thousands of people.

or you could you know use protection?
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(Original post by Robby2312)
or you could you know use protection?
1.) Where's the fun in using condoms?
2.) How you gonna have kids?
3.) You can still contract STD's through condoms
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Being completely sadiq, it would be a deal breaker for me.

If I waited until marriage I would want to marry someone who also waited. I would always be thinking about the other guy she was with when I was with her if I knew she had a previous relationship.

On the other hand I do know some guys who wont care as long as your honest and explain that was your past and your a different person now
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It's a deal-breaker for many insecure muslim men. Lucky you!
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(Original post by calsmith12)
I used to question the logic behind the "dont have sex before marriage" but it makes perfect sense now. If everyone has sex with one partner, it drastically reduces the spread of STDs. Even if one person had an STD, only them and their partner would be affected by it whereas if they didn't have one sex partner, they could spread it across hundreds if not thousands of people.
And you would have a very boring world.

The kind of world where sexually frustrated men are quick to molest women if they get the chance or even dabble in homosexuality to release the sexual pressure.

Sex after marriage, is man-made nonsense. It is not natural.
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