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diagnosed with schizophrenia....
I've recently been diagnosed with schizophrenia but my parents don't know anything about me having mental illness.
The psychiatrist recommended thinking about telling my parents.....
I don't really want to. I feel uncomfortable telling them, i don't think they'll understand, they live off the media mostly and seem kinda ignorant.
But the psychiatrist said it might be better telling them so I'm not keeping it a secret and so they can help. I don't see how they could help me. I'm 19 a live with my parents but I'm not very close to them so i don't feel like telling them.
I don't want to cause anyone any worry or distress, it's like everyone will be like"OMG Schizophrenia" cause the ****ing media exaggerates everything and adds some lies into it for good measure.
None of my friends know either.
most of my problems aren't will the illness, it's with peoples ignorant attitudes towards mental health.
I don't want people to look at me and think about schizophrenia, peoples perception of me will change, i don't want people to be like"have you took your meds" or trying to help me, i don't want to be treated like a ****ing idiot, I'm still the same person, i just have a few problems.
What do you think?
The psychiatrist recommended thinking about telling my parents.....
I don't really want to. I feel uncomfortable telling them, i don't think they'll understand, they live off the media mostly and seem kinda ignorant.
But the psychiatrist said it might be better telling them so I'm not keeping it a secret and so they can help. I don't see how they could help me. I'm 19 a live with my parents but I'm not very close to them so i don't feel like telling them.
I don't want to cause anyone any worry or distress, it's like everyone will be like"OMG Schizophrenia" cause the ****ing media exaggerates everything and adds some lies into it for good measure.
None of my friends know either.
most of my problems aren't will the illness, it's with peoples ignorant attitudes towards mental health.
I don't want people to look at me and think about schizophrenia, peoples perception of me will change, i don't want people to be like"have you took your meds" or trying to help me, i don't want to be treated like a ****ing idiot, I'm still the same person, i just have a few problems.
What do you think?
I can relate.
I don't have schizophrenia though....
But I know that my parents are extremely ignornat and closed mind and like support the stigma attached to mental illness.
I was seeing a psychiatrist, docotors and whatever else, but I never told them.
They have no idea, they dont understand and never would even if I tried.
For me I found it was best to not tell anyone. I'd had to suffer alone my whole life anyway, I guess we get used to holding it all inside.
But on the other hand, if you're just doing it so you don't worry them or so you don't get pity that's not a good enough reason. Anyway I'll contadict myself here but I don't care. Your parents love you, unconditionally. You are thier child. So if there is something 'wrong' with you I'm sure they'd want to know and they can help and support you. With mental illness we often feel that we are all alone, and often just need SOMEONE to talk to.
It's up to you whether or not you feel it would be a benefit to you if you told your parents. Don't rush into it though. Good luck
I don't have schizophrenia though....
But I know that my parents are extremely ignornat and closed mind and like support the stigma attached to mental illness.
I was seeing a psychiatrist, docotors and whatever else, but I never told them.
They have no idea, they dont understand and never would even if I tried.
For me I found it was best to not tell anyone. I'd had to suffer alone my whole life anyway, I guess we get used to holding it all inside.
But on the other hand, if you're just doing it so you don't worry them or so you don't get pity that's not a good enough reason. Anyway I'll contadict myself here but I don't care. Your parents love you, unconditionally. You are thier child. So if there is something 'wrong' with you I'm sure they'd want to know and they can help and support you. With mental illness we often feel that we are all alone, and often just need SOMEONE to talk to.
It's up to you whether or not you feel it would be a benefit to you if you told your parents. Don't rush into it though. Good luck
i've been to a psychiatrist before and stuff for depression and i never told them because i could deal with it myself.
But because schizophrenia is a severe mental illness i guess the psychiatists are encouraging me to tell my parents because they *think* it will help, like if i really lose touch with reality or i start acting a little weird and i don't notice then they could tell me or my mental health team.
I don't really know what to do......i don't see how my parents could help me, i think they'd just cause me more stress by trying to help me or watching me all the time because i like to be as independant as i can.
But because schizophrenia is a severe mental illness i guess the psychiatists are encouraging me to tell my parents because they *think* it will help, like if i really lose touch with reality or i start acting a little weird and i don't notice then they could tell me or my mental health team.
I don't really know what to do......i don't see how my parents could help me, i think they'd just cause me more stress by trying to help me or watching me all the time because i like to be as independant as i can.
Although i have never had to make a choice like this, and i feel i have very little right to give advice, i still want to help you if i can.
I trust my parents and i get along well with them, so last year after struggling with depression for nearly 6 months straight, i told them about it so i am obviously biased towards that option.
However if you feel they will over react and not take it the right way, perhaps you could arrange to tell them with your psychiatrist. You and your psychiatrist could paint a realistic picture of what is actually wrong, and dispel the over hyped media version.
If your parents were given the proper information and they felt they were given your trust, maybe they would change their attitude and step up to the challenge that you feel that they wont be able to handle.
I trust my parents and i get along well with them, so last year after struggling with depression for nearly 6 months straight, i told them about it so i am obviously biased towards that option.
However if you feel they will over react and not take it the right way, perhaps you could arrange to tell them with your psychiatrist. You and your psychiatrist could paint a realistic picture of what is actually wrong, and dispel the over hyped media version.
If your parents were given the proper information and they felt they were given your trust, maybe they would change their attitude and step up to the challenge that you feel that they wont be able to handle.
mynameisscott
i've been to a psychiatrist before and stuff for depression and i never told them because i could deal with it myself.
But because schizophrenia is a severe mental illness i guess the psychiatists are encouraging me to tell my parents because they *think* it will help, like if i really lose touch with reality or i start acting a little weird and i don't notice then they could tell me or my mental health team.
I don't really know what to do......i don't see how my parents could help me, i think they'd just cause me more stress by trying to help me or watching me all the time because i like to be as independant as i can.
But because schizophrenia is a severe mental illness i guess the psychiatists are encouraging me to tell my parents because they *think* it will help, like if i really lose touch with reality or i start acting a little weird and i don't notice then they could tell me or my mental health team.
I don't really know what to do......i don't see how my parents could help me, i think they'd just cause me more stress by trying to help me or watching me all the time because i like to be as independant as i can.
I don't think it's so much a case of them actively helping you. I think it's more a case of you allowing them to realise why you are the way you are, and if you behave abnormally, for them to understand and sympathise rather than misunderstand and be judgemental. If you have to live with them, then it's best for them to have some idea of who you are.
What pisses me off is that parents should have some idea that there is some up with their child. My parents are ****ing idiots and thats what angers me the most. I sure hope urs are different.
generalebriety
I don't think it's so much a case of them actively helping you. I think it's more a case of you allowing them to realise why you are the way you are, and if you behave abnormally, for them to understand and sympathise rather than misunderstand and be judgemental. If you have to live with them, then it's best for them to have some idea of who you are.
I agree with this. You're an adult, so if you're willing to take your medication there's no reason why anyone else should have to interfere - and you can make that clear to them. However, schizophrenia is a big deal, and if you have another episode, or if your drugs give you side effects or whatever, it's helpful to have people around who know what's going on.
I believe Mind and other charities produce lots of helpful leaflets for relatives of people with mental illnesses; you might want to see if you can get hold of some of them so that they can understand your condition a bit more.
Thomas McDowall
perhaps you could arrange to tell them with your psychiatrist. You and your psychiatrist could paint a realistic picture of what is actually wrong, and dispel the over hyped media version.
What he said.
I'm sure it wouldn't be the first time the psychiatrist has had to do it, and will no doubt be the last.
It can help to have someone for support, especially in scenarios like this.
Just to point out - perhaps the people asking how did you keep it from your parents etc, are informed by some of the bias the original poster is concerned about.
Schizophrenia presents very differently in different people, it doesn't have to be a 'big deal' or make you behave like you are running round carrying a big arrow saying 'Schizophrenia here!!!!'
To the original poster. I can understand you being uncomfortable telling your parents, and there are no rules that say you have to, but having someone else in your life - a friend, relative or maybe someone from a mental health advocacy service, who knows about your problems is a good idea. It's a good thing for anyone with any mental health problem not to have to deal with it alone.
Schizophrenia presents very differently in different people, it doesn't have to be a 'big deal' or make you behave like you are running round carrying a big arrow saying 'Schizophrenia here!!!!'
To the original poster. I can understand you being uncomfortable telling your parents, and there are no rules that say you have to, but having someone else in your life - a friend, relative or maybe someone from a mental health advocacy service, who knows about your problems is a good idea. It's a good thing for anyone with any mental health problem not to have to deal with it alone.
I do know what you mean - I mean I've seen the really worst bits of schizophrenia having an ex who had it really really badly and I still wouldn't judge somebody for being diagnosed. Although maybe that's WHY I wouldn't.... hmmm....
Anyway what I was going to say was that when I went through a rough patch and had to go see a psych, my mum really tried to put me off it in a do-you-want-to-have-to-declare-that-to-future-employers? sort of way. And I really understand about not wanting to tell your parents. If you're not close to them then what's the point right? But I think the key is will you feel comfortable effectively lying to them? They might not be able to do anything to help but it might be a weight off y'know?
Anyway what I was going to say was that when I went through a rough patch and had to go see a psych, my mum really tried to put me off it in a do-you-want-to-have-to-declare-that-to-future-employers? sort of way. And I really understand about not wanting to tell your parents. If you're not close to them then what's the point right? But I think the key is will you feel comfortable effectively lying to them? They might not be able to do anything to help but it might be a weight off y'know?
Maybe don't tell them for a while, then when you do tell them they will see that you have been acting 'normal' for the last however long, months or whatever...? Just to knock out any misconceptions they might have or prove to them that they notice anything was wrong when they didn't know about it so they shouldn't treat you any different now just because they know.
i dont have any experience of schizophrenia, though my mum was diagnosed as depressed last year and one of my friends is bi-polar.
I agree that a lot of mental issues are stigmatised BUT knowing what causes the moods n what-not does help to understand the person. It definitely helped me understand why my mum was reacting in the way she was, and why I felt she was neglecting stuff that needed to be done.
For my friend, knowing he was bi-polar helped me realise his moods werent my fault and thus i knew how to react when he was suicidal etc etc.
I'm sure your parents will want to help you but perhaps if you told them how to (or how not to, perhaps in your case) help, it would in turn help you.
Perhaps if you decided to tell them, why not have them come to the psychiatrists with you? Because then they'd be fully informed about it all and hopefully learn how to 'help' you.
I agree that a lot of mental issues are stigmatised BUT knowing what causes the moods n what-not does help to understand the person. It definitely helped me understand why my mum was reacting in the way she was, and why I felt she was neglecting stuff that needed to be done.
For my friend, knowing he was bi-polar helped me realise his moods werent my fault and thus i knew how to react when he was suicidal etc etc.
I'm sure your parents will want to help you but perhaps if you told them how to (or how not to, perhaps in your case) help, it would in turn help you.
Perhaps if you decided to tell them, why not have them come to the psychiatrists with you? Because then they'd be fully informed about it all and hopefully learn how to 'help' you.
mynameisscott
I've recently been diagnosed with schizophrenia but my parents don't know anything about me having mental illness.
The psychiatrist recommended thinking about telling my parents.....
I don't really want to. I feel uncomfortable telling them, i don't think they'll understand, they live off the media mostly and seem kinda ignorant.
But the psychiatrist said it might be better telling them so I'm not keeping it a secret and so they can help. I don't see how they could help me. I'm 19 a live with my parents but I'm not very close to them so i don't feel like telling them.
I don't want to cause anyone any worry or distress, it's like everyone will be like"OMG Schizophrenia" cause the ****ing media exaggerates everything and adds some lies into it for good measure.
None of my friends know either.
most of my problems aren't will the illness, it's with peoples ignorant attitudes towards mental health.
I don't want people to look at me and think about schizophrenia, peoples perception of me will change, i don't want people to be like"have you took your meds" or trying to help me, i don't want to be treated like a ****ing idiot, I'm still the same person, i just have a few problems.
What do you think?
The psychiatrist recommended thinking about telling my parents.....
I don't really want to. I feel uncomfortable telling them, i don't think they'll understand, they live off the media mostly and seem kinda ignorant.
But the psychiatrist said it might be better telling them so I'm not keeping it a secret and so they can help. I don't see how they could help me. I'm 19 a live with my parents but I'm not very close to them so i don't feel like telling them.
I don't want to cause anyone any worry or distress, it's like everyone will be like"OMG Schizophrenia" cause the ****ing media exaggerates everything and adds some lies into it for good measure.
None of my friends know either.
most of my problems aren't will the illness, it's with peoples ignorant attitudes towards mental health.
I don't want people to look at me and think about schizophrenia, peoples perception of me will change, i don't want people to be like"have you took your meds" or trying to help me, i don't want to be treated like a ****ing idiot, I'm still the same person, i just have a few problems.
What do you think?
well its quite wierd how my parents found out cause it actually started at college when my tutor thought i needed support because she thought i had aspergers or sumthing like that so they referred me to my gp which then referred me to a psychiatrist and then finally to the early preventation in psychosis service where i have noiw a wonderful nurse who sees me every week. since then ive developed anxiety on top of psychosis and then they told me i had schizophrenia. i kno im not answering your question but i just thought you would like to know about me. but like yourself ive been through hell an high water and it was easy for my parents to grasp but im sure whether you have a good relationship with your parents or not u hav to tell them because its no good keeping it locked up inside...believe me. i mean my granparents kno my aunties ans uncles kno etc but its just better that its out there. strangely tho my parents and family were alright with it but not my friends. coincidentally i dont go out either as i have no friends to go out with. but my point is is that your parents will accept you as you are, and wont think of you as like what you said like sum schizo wierdo or whatever. they are your parents and they will accept you as you are. btw the media get on my effin nerves too....hope this helps.
I have had schizophrenia since I was 15 and was in hospital for a year so my parents know and have been great about it. You can have my MSN and stuff if you want. I am 19.
As said it really is a term that mean so much to when different individuals have it. I never actually saw things like 'pure' hallucinations. I just got really anxious over things that were never going to happen and had this constant pre-occupation with philosophical concerns. I dont know what I would have done without these people in my life so maybe try and figure out who is trustworthy.
As said it really is a term that mean so much to when different individuals have it. I never actually saw things like 'pure' hallucinations. I just got really anxious over things that were never going to happen and had this constant pre-occupation with philosophical concerns. I dont know what I would have done without these people in my life so maybe try and figure out who is trustworthy.
Maybe its not exactly relevent.... and i know i could get the info else where.. but i'd prefer a first hand account.
What does it actually feel like to experience schizophrenia? I know thats probably the million dollar question... but like.... are the hallucinations anything like youd typically imagine hallucinations to be? Does it have a massive impact on your life.. or just a slight annoyance? Can you actually just live with it as part of your character... just kind of accepting how you feel and understanding what is real and whats not and just living life pretty normally?
My friend has paranoid schiz but i wouldn't be able to get much/any info out of him on the topic.
I've taken mushrooms... do you know if the hallucinations are anything like a drug related experience? Not exactly hallucinating things as perfectly formed objects or anything... just slight alterations?
What does it actually feel like to experience schizophrenia? I know thats probably the million dollar question... but like.... are the hallucinations anything like youd typically imagine hallucinations to be? Does it have a massive impact on your life.. or just a slight annoyance? Can you actually just live with it as part of your character... just kind of accepting how you feel and understanding what is real and whats not and just living life pretty normally?
My friend has paranoid schiz but i wouldn't be able to get much/any info out of him on the topic.
I've taken mushrooms... do you know if the hallucinations are anything like a drug related experience? Not exactly hallucinating things as perfectly formed objects or anything... just slight alterations?
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