Why don't I deserve the same respect?

I got you say it's not your thing but have you tried it i mean it's only one night whats the worst that could happen.the long and the short of it is it's only a few hours of your life and you don't have to get drunk hell i just drunk J2O on nights out at uni.

I got you say it's not your thing but have you tried it i mean it's only one night whats the worst that could happen.the long and the short of it is it's only a few hours of your life and you don't have to get drunk hell i just drunk J2O on nights out at uni.

wow. Only on TSR have I ever met people not excited for freshers?! **** me.

I'm a fresher at uni, which comes with the stereotype of going out getting wasted every night. But this isn't me. I am in my jammies at 8pm watching Netflix with a cup of tea. I hate late nights. At home I'm asleep by 10pm and I'm up and awake by 7am every morning.

I want this to carry on at uni, but others in my accommodation are of course going out getting drunk and coming home at 3am. That's completely fine they want to go out and have a good time. That's their idea of a good time, but that is my idea of a terrible time.

I'm on the ground floor and the smoking area is right outside my window. They go out and smoke and the windows are so crap I can hear every word of the conversation. I sent them a message at midnight the other day asking them to move somewhere else or talk a bit quieter because the windows don't keep noise out. I could hear them read out my message to each other after I sent it. They ignored it.

They come back drunk and screaming and shouting at 3am waking more than just me up. I've asked them to be a bit quieter when coming back. They've ignored me.

And tonight, they're having pre-drinks in the floor above me. I've asked them to not play music too loud to which they replied "the speaker is banging" and "don't knock it until you've tried it". They asked me to join them and I said it isn't my thing.

If I went around accommodation shouting at 7am they would want me to be quiet, so why doesn't it work the other way around? I understand that not everyone is a morning person, so why can't they understand that not everyone is a night owl? I prefer getting a good night's sleep and having a productive day instead of sleeping all day and partying all night. There is nothing wrong with that.

We have 24 hour security available and I can call or text them if my neighbours are being too loud and I will probably have to do this tonight to make them stop.

I don't want there to be tension, I just want to have a mutual respect for them. I'm quiet in the mornings. I shut my doors quietly so they don't bang (they're fire doors so have to be heavy and they slam loudly every time). Why can't they respect that I'm different to them?

I know that calling security will cause more issues, but I'd rather have security stop the noise so I can sleep than make me stay awake for hours. On the first night of freshers I was kept awake for 3 hours as they chatted, listened to music, screamed and shouted most of the night.

What happened to mutual respect? Each to their own? I'm not going to feel pressured into drinking loads, destroying my liver and failing my course just because it's "cool".

No I haven't tried it and I don't want to. I've tried similar things and I felt very unsafe. My accommodation is far away from pretty much everything, so having a 30-45 minute journey home with drunk people in a city I've been in for a week at 3am when it's dark and cold is not my idea of a good time.

What's the worst that could happen? I could get lost in a big city in the middle of the night, be found by some creeper and potentially be assaulted or killed.

Everyone tells me to try it. No. Why don't people try having a nice night in then having a productive day the next day? Because they'll say that's boring and not fun. Well I find going out late to be "not fun". It works both ways. I prefer to feel safe and know that I'm going to get home safe.

You need to show some flexibility. Its fine their lifestyle isnt yours, but you should try and get along. Its freshers and things will clam down. What you are doing though is alienating yourself from the group. You are making things worse for yourself. You need o know when to pick your battles. Calling security will be a baaaaad move.

Maybe ask accommodation if an when, then you can move somewhere quieter.

I know I'm different from the lot and I accept that, but it won't make things better if I go out with them and spend the night obviously uncomfortable. People have been losing their purses and keys and ID cards on these nights out and that just really puts me off.

I doubt I'll call security unless in a few weeks it hasn't calmed down and on Tuesday nights they're still being loud when there's work to do and lectures to attend. I think calling security then will be less of a bad move because I won't be the only one who has to be up early for a 9am lecture.

All the accommodation is the same. All the other places have the party people who enjoy that lifestyle, so unfortunately I can't move. Also I don't have the resources to move even if I could.

I'm just excited for different parts of it. Being away from home, exploring in daylight where I have fewer chances of getting lost and a better chance of getting home safe.

What I'm not excited for is getting drunk at home, going out at midnight to get more drunk, throwing up then trying to come home at 4am when I'm even drunker and sicker and lost in the dark and cold in a rainy city, being very vulnerable and not in control of my own actions. To some people, that seems like a fantastic time and good for them, you should do what makes you happy. But that doesn't make me happy so I'm not going to do it.

You have a lot to learn about life and living with other people. You have some strange sheltered views about uni.

Going out for a coke with them shouldnt be the threat to your way of life as you seem to indicate. They are going to get he idea that you are anti social and an intolerant snob. That means far from being a friend they could decide you are an enemy and then you have all sorts of issues that could arise.

I get the impression you object to their lifestyle which will be very apparent to them and they will act accordingly. Do you really want to isolate yourself?

Make an effort to socialise. They will appreciate it if you just go for a drink or a meal with them. Even if you dont like it then you have at least made an effort. If you carry on like this then you will make enemies and be isolated.

Get a money belt and only take out with you what you need. If we go down the losing things avenue them youd best stay in your bedroom all the time. Its a lame excuse.

TLDR.

lol at expecting uni halls to be quiet at night during freshers week though.

or any week of the year for that matter.

They will? People like that just go for the drinks and not the actual course. Money wasters mhmm

No I haven't tried it and I don't want to. I've tried similar things and I felt very unsafe. My accommodation is far away from pretty much everything, so having a 30-45 minute journey home with drunk people in a city I've been in for a week at 3am when it's dark and cold is not my idea of a good time.

What's the worst that could happen? I could get lost in a big city in the middle of the night, be found by some creeper and potentially be assaulted or killed.

Everyone tells me to try it. No. Why don't people try having a nice night in then having a productive day the next day? Because they'll say that's boring and not fun. Well I find going out late to be "not fun". It works both ways. I prefer to feel safe and know that I'm going to get home safe.

I'm a fresher at uni, which comes with the stereotype of going out getting wasted every night. But this isn't me. I am in my jammies at 8pm watching Netflix with a cup of tea. I hate late nights. At home I'm asleep by 10pm and I'm up and awake by 7am every morning.

I want this to carry on at uni, but others in my accommodation are of course going out getting drunk and coming home at 3am. That's completely fine they want to go out and have a good time. That's their idea of a good time, but that is my idea of a terrible time.

I'm on the ground floor and the smoking area is right outside my window. They go out and smoke and the windows are so crap I can hear every word of the conversation. I sent them a message at midnight the other day asking them to move somewhere else or talk a bit quieter because the windows don't keep noise out. I could hear them read out my message to each other after I sent it. They ignored it.

They come back drunk and screaming and shouting at 3am waking more than just me up. I've asked them to be a bit quieter when coming back. They've ignored me.

And tonight, they're having pre-drinks in the floor above me. I've asked them to not play music too loud to which they replied "the speaker is banging" and "don't knock it until you've tried it". They asked me to join them and I said it isn't my thing.

If I went around accommodation shouting at 7am they would want me to be quiet, so why doesn't it work the other way around? I understand that not everyone is a morning person, so why can't they understand that not everyone is a night owl? I prefer getting a good night's sleep and having a productive day instead of sleeping all day and partying all night. There is nothing wrong with that.

We have 24 hour security available and I can call or text them if my neighbours are being too loud and I will probably have to do this tonight to make them stop.

I don't want there to be tension, I just want to have a mutual respect for them. I'm quiet in the mornings. I shut my doors quietly so they don't bang (they're fire doors so have to be heavy and they slam loudly every time). Why can't they respect that I'm different to them?

I know that calling security will cause more issues, but I'd rather have security stop the noise so I can sleep than make me stay awake for hours. On the first night of freshers I was kept awake for 3 hours as they chatted, listened to music, screamed and shouted most of the night.

What happened to mutual respect? Each to their own? I'm not going to feel pressured into drinking loads, destroying my liver and failing my course just because it's "cool".

I'm a fresher at uni, which comes with the stereotype of going out getting wasted every night. But this isn't me. I am in my jammies at 8pm watching Netflix with a cup of tea. I hate late nights. At home I'm asleep by 10pm and I'm up and awake by 7am every morning.

I want this to carry on at uni, but others in my accommodation are of course going out getting drunk and coming home at 3am. That's completely fine they want to go out and have a good time. That's their idea of a good time, but that is my idea of a terrible time.

I'm on the ground floor and the smoking area is right outside my window. They go out and smoke and the windows are so crap I can hear every word of the conversation. I sent them a message at midnight the other day asking them to move somewhere else or talk a bit quieter because the windows don't keep noise out. I could hear them read out my message to each other after I sent it. They ignored it.

They come back drunk and screaming and shouting at 3am waking more than just me up. I've asked them to be a bit quieter when coming back. They've ignored me.

And tonight, they're having pre-drinks in the floor above me. I've asked them to not play music too loud to which they replied "the speaker is banging" and "don't knock it until you've tried it". They asked me to join them and I said it isn't my thing.

If I went around accommodation shouting at 7am they would want me to be quiet, so why doesn't it work the other way around? I understand that not everyone is a morning person, so why can't they understand that not everyone is a night owl? I prefer getting a good night's sleep and having a productive day instead of sleeping all day and partying all night. There is nothing wrong with that.

We have 24 hour security available and I can call or text them if my neighbours are being too loud and I will probably have to do this tonight to make them stop.

I don't want there to be tension, I just want to have a mutual respect for them. I'm quiet in the mornings. I shut my doors quietly so they don't bang (they're fire doors so have to be heavy and they slam loudly every time). Why can't they respect that I'm different to them?

I know that calling security will cause more issues, but I'd rather have security stop the noise so I can sleep than make me stay awake for hours. On the first night of freshers I was kept awake for 3 hours as they chatted, listened to music, screamed and shouted most of the night.

What happened to mutual respect? Each to their own? I'm not going to feel pressured into drinking loads, destroying my liver and failing my course just because it's "cool".

They will? People like that just go for the drinks and not the actual course. Money wasters mhmm

I'm a fresher at uni, which comes with the stereotype of going out getting wasted every night. But this isn't me. I am in my jammies at 8pm watching Netflix with a cup of tea. I hate late nights. At home I'm asleep by 10pm and I'm up and awake by 7am every morning.

I want this to carry on at uni, but others in my accommodation are of course going out getting drunk and coming home at 3am. That's completely fine they want to go out and have a good time. That's their idea of a good time, but that is my idea of a terrible time.

I'm on the ground floor and the smoking area is right outside my window. They go out and smoke and the windows are so crap I can hear every word of the conversation. I sent them a message at midnight the other day asking them to move somewhere else or talk a bit quieter because the windows don't keep noise out. I could hear them read out my message to each other after I sent it. They ignored it.

They come back drunk and screaming and shouting at 3am waking more than just me up. I've asked them to be a bit quieter when coming back. They've ignored me.

And tonight, they're having pre-drinks in the floor above me. I've asked them to not play music too loud to which they replied "the speaker is banging" and "don't knock it until you've tried it". They asked me to join them and I said it isn't my thing.

If I went around accommodation shouting at 7am they would want me to be quiet, so why doesn't it work the other way around? I understand that not everyone is a morning person, so why can't they understand that not everyone is a night owl? I prefer getting a good night's sleep and having a productive day instead of sleeping all day and partying all night. There is nothing wrong with that.

We have 24 hour security available and I can call or text them if my neighbours are being too loud and I will probably have to do this tonight to make them stop.

I don't want there to be tension, I just want to have a mutual respect for them. I'm quiet in the mornings. I shut my doors quietly so they don't bang (they're fire doors so have to be heavy and they slam loudly every time). Why can't they respect that I'm different to them?

I know that calling security will cause more issues, but I'd rather have security stop the noise so I can sleep than make me stay awake for hours. On the first night of freshers I was kept awake for 3 hours as they chatted, listened to music, screamed and shouted most of the night.

What happened to mutual respect? Each to their own? I'm not going to feel pressured into drinking loads, destroying my liver and failing my course just because it's "cool".