How does the dynamic work over Kik, rather than in person?
Simple really. She has AGREED upon rules to follow. She provides photo evidence etc (from a punishment to what she is wearing that day, Im not too bothered about that myself but she likes having what she's wearing 'approved.'
Example: She broke one of the rules so told her to do a really mundane punishment of 100 writing lines.
She also like toilet denial so I may not let her go to the toilet.
It is harder than in person but we make it work and are happy with it
Everybody use's Kik for this sort of this...well I know I do.
Nothing wrong with sexting and all that. What I meant was why not do in real life if you are so into it - it's obviously a long term thing for the OP, not a random sexchat.