Do girls find really good looking guys intimidating?

I was just wondering, I have alot of friends and alot of them are good looking girls - im really close to all of them and we have such a laugh but when meeting new people in a club or pub we just usually chat for 5-10 minutes and then kind of drift away, also I get less dances (less as in none) from new girls then most of my mates!

post as anon because I dont want to come across as a big headed bastard.

Reply 1

squeak

21

i don't find them intimidating...

maybe you need to show you're interested more...

or why not date one of your friends? :p:

Reply 2

ßlαcksωαn

17

I find most people intimidating..regardless of sex and looks.

Reply 3

mangomaz

14

I dont find them intimidating, I just generally assume (only for the 'club' environment) that they're going to be arses so dont bother. Its a generalisation I know.

EDIT: This is only in 'commercial'/alcohol orientated clubs. Other environments I am happy talking to anyone.

Reply 4

Honeyblossom

6

mangomaz

I dont find them intimidating, I just generally assume (only for the 'club' environment) that they're going to be arses so dont bother. Its a generalisation I know.

EDIT: This is only in 'commercial'/alcohol orientated clubs. Other environments I am happy talking to anyone.

Me too.

Reply 5

Ink

12

A lot of girls have image issues and are probably thinking "Oh hey, that guy is fit...but why would he want to dance with me when he could pick from any of the wonderful gorgeous girls in the room?"

But surely, if your looks are what is keeping girls away, you would at least see them eyeing at you from a distance? Surely, you could then approach them yourself and ask them to dance?

While a lot people would be intimidated by looks at first, I don't see that as a reason to turn down a dance or two. If they're turning you down, perhaps the problem lies somewhere aside from your heart-stopping good looks.

Reply 6

Miss_Scarlett

15

No I don't. But I'm kind of old fashioned :angel:

and so if a guy wanted to dance with me, he'd have to ask me...(not the other way around) lol

Reply 7

Helenia

20

mangomaz

I dont find them intimidating, I just generally assume (only for the 'club' environment) that they're going to be arses so dont bother. Its a generalisation I know.

EDIT: This is only in 'commercial'/alcohol orientated clubs. Other environments I am happy talking to anyone.

Ditto. Although not just in clubs. There are a couple of guys on my course who are ridiculously hot, and I just don't talk to them because I think they'll a)assume I fancy them (even though I don't, they're too far out of my league!) and b) laugh at me. It's only after working with one of them for a few weeks that I've realised he's a really nice guy, and while he is a bit of a manslut, it's still possible to be friends with him.

But then I'm not very good-looking myself, so it's more a defence mechanism than anything.

Reply 8

Rouge

not at all, I only find scary/crazy guys intimidating.

Also, you say they just ignore you after a few minutes of chatting, this suggests its something in your personality that doesn't draw them in, usually if someone is finds you really good looking, they would find it hard to approach you, but once they had got the chance to know you, they would try harder not to let you go

Reply 9

fat_hobbit

2

Helenia

Ditto. Although not just in clubs. There are a couple of guys on my course who are ridiculously hot, and I just don't talk to them because I think they'll a)assume I fancy them (even though I don't, they're too far out of my league!)

So you do fancy them, but just have a pessimistic outlook on your chances with 'them'.

Reply 10

la fille danse

17

I love how when guys get rejected (at least the ones you see on TSR) they think "It must be because I'm good looking!" or "It must be because I'm nice!"

Hmm, yep, must be it.

Reply 11

Danielle89

14

I tend to be nervous around guys i fancy, but not intimidated by them, to me that implicates that I find them scary. I dont.

But if I start talking to/dancing with a guy the only reason I'd stop is if he does something to irritate me or if Im seeing someone and think my current chat/dance is getting too full-on...

Reply 12

angelpie

5

I can't talk to guys i fancy either, not all, just the freakishly good looking ones.

Yeah, I do.

fat_hobbit

So you do fancy them, but just have a pessimistic outlook on your chances with 'them'.

No, not any more. Maybe when I first met them, but after 5 years at uni with people, and numerous embarassing moments trying to pursue unattainable people, I've realised there's no point wasting time, energy and emotion fancying someone who'd never look twice at you. It's easier to either ignore them or be friends and that's it. Not to mention that I've been in relationships for the best part of the last 3 years, so it's not like I was about to run off with some hot man in my year!

Reply 15

Citation

Male or female, I always it difficult to become comfortable around new people, mainly due to lack of trust.

OP. As usual, the same old phrase, "every body is different". Some people feel intimidated, others don't. It's your actions towards them, which will determine how it all unfolds.

Reply 16

Airel

14

Girls find me intimidating all the time. Its probably because I'm a serial rapist.

Reply 17

person 34

9

I don't know any really good looking guys in real life :frown:

But if I did, I would assume they were dicks or wanting to be Catholic preists.

Reply 18

fat_hobbit

2

Helenia

No, not any more. Maybe when I first met them, but after 5 years at uni with people, and numerous embarassing moments trying to pursue unattainable people, I've realised there's no point wasting time, energy and emotion fancying someone who'd never look twice at you. It's easier to either ignore them or be friends and that's it. Not to mention that I've been in relationships for the best part of the last 3 years, so it's not like I was about to run off with some hot man in my year!

Interesting you wrote that, can relate to it. But isnt it a numbers game? I have had some good looking girls interested into in me in the past, but then I have also had some girls who are not that great looks wise into me too and yeah like everyone I have had my fair share of rejections too hehehe :wink:

. So my point is, if you meet a 100 hot guys, I am sure there will be many that will find you attractive.

Reply 19

Citation

34 person

wanting to be Catholic preists.

Lol, Im curious to know what you meant by this, but due to the context, I think it's safe not to ask.

Do girls find really good looking guys intimidating?

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