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    Hi guys. So I need your advice. I've been with my bf for several months and we're so in love. But imagine my surprise when we went to this restaurant and he saw this attractive waitress and told me in my face "if I had the chance, I'd f*** her".

    I looked at him shocked and he said "if I was single obviously". Then he was like you know I love you right? I meant if I was single.

    Still, even saying such a thing like if he was single, would it be justified? I felt so hurt and offended, like hello I'm right here...

    Or am I just overreacting? Girls, what do you think?

    Thank you for your responses in advance.
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    Hi guys. So I need your advice. I've been with my bf for several months and we're so in love. But imagine my surprise when we went to this restaurant and he saw this attractive waitress and told me in my face "if I had the chance, I'd f*** her".

    I looked at him shocked and he said "if I was single obviously". Then he was like you know I love you right? I meant if I was single.

    Still, even saying such a thing like if he was single, would it be justified? I felt so hurt and offended, like hello I'm right here...

    Or am I just overreacting? Girls, what do you think?

    Thank you for your responses in advance.
    It's a pretty immature comment for him to make, i don't think there's any justification for it.
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    What a LAD!

    Seriously though that just shows lack of respect.
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    That's awful, he shouldn't think things like that in a relationship nevermind say them.

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys. So I need your advice. I've been with my bf for several months and we're so in love. But imagine my surprise when we went to this restaurant and he saw this attractive waitress and told me in my face "if I had the chance, I'd f*** her".

    I looked at him shocked and he said "if I was single obviously". Then he was like you know I love you right? I meant if I was single.

    Still, even saying such a thing like if he was single, would it be justified? I felt so hurt and offended, like hello I'm right here...

    Or am I just overreacting? Girls, what do you think?

    Thank you for your responses in advance.
    So rude. Dump him. Red flag already.
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    dump his A S S
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    mashallah; nice story :clap2:
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    he's using you; if he said that right in front of you; know that one day he's gonna ask for sex then dump you
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys. So I need your advice. I've been with my bf for several months and we're so in love. But imagine my surprise when we went to this restaurant and he saw this attractive waitress and told me in my face "if I had the chance, I'd f*** her".

    I looked at him shocked and he said "if I was single obviously". Then he was like you know I love you right? I meant if I was single.

    Still, even saying such a thing like if he was single, would it be justified? I felt so hurt and offended, like hello I'm right here...

    Or am I just overreacting? Girls, what do you think?

    Thank you for your responses in advance.
    Maybe he is not 'so in love' with you if makes comments (or a comment) like that? I would be pretty mad at him for that.
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    Okay. This is about respect here. If he cannot respect a woman he does not know and the fact that he made that insulting comment despite the fact that you guys are in a relationship, I personally think that you should dump him. You deserve someone who respects you and every woman in general. Not someone like him.
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    The next time you see a good-looking guy, say that you'd f**k him if you had the chance. See how your bf reacts. :beard:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi guys. So I need your advice. I've been with my bf for several months and we're so in love. But imagine my surprise when we went to this restaurant and he saw this attractive waitress and told me in my face "if I had the chance, I'd f*** her".

    I looked at him shocked and he said "if I was single obviously". Then he was like you know I love you right? I meant if I was single.

    Still, even saying such a thing like if he was single, would it be justified? I felt so hurt and offended, like hello I'm right here...

    Or am I just overreacting? Girls, what do you think?

    Thank you for your responses in advance.





    he sounds like a tool.
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    Not an overreaction. That's just naff.
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    so rude. Dump him. Red flag already.
    yaaay daas a red flag right der

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    Its clear your not as important to him, as he is their fantasising about other girls and using the excuse "if i was single". If the first thing he saw was appearance, and that fact that the first thing he came to his mind was he'd "**** her" it shows signs of a ****boy so get this-how do you know he's not just using you for sex. Its clear he simply sees attractive women as sex objects, what makes it that he didn't think the same for you.

    Pretty much, its lack of respect. He could've at least acknowledged you were there, or begin to praise your beautiful features...but I'm guessing he didn't and just went with the excuse. Still, he could just be a horny ****er putting sex as his number one priority and does acknowledge you. But as a boy, its probably not the case.

    I could always be wrong. The best thing is to talk it to his face. See what body language he gives off, what he says, you know the works. Its all up to your judgement, because at the end of they day, we don't know how your relationship goes and **** etc.
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    What an idiot, leave him.
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    Was it wrong to say? Yes
    But let's be honest, we all have thoughts which we usually don't say and if said would offend the other. So whilst what he said was rude, wouldn't say it was major. Maybe it just slipped out. If it occurs frequently then..
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    If this aint a troll thread, you call him out on this BS then dump his ass if he doesn't listen ,real talk girl dont let the mandem disrespect u like that :hugs:
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    I mean, whilst it was a sh*t thing to say, at least he said it to your face - that way you can be like "wtf bro". I would rather my partner say it to my face than try to hide it from me even though I know he would be thinking stuff like that anyway

    that being said, it would still piss me off ngl it's just not a nice way to talk about someone, it's rude af
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    Find someone on Instagram or on the street and say the exact same thing. "If i had the chance i would let him jizz on my face"
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    This is just a warning sign for more to come, I'm sorry girl, you should dump him ASAP imo. I know it'll be hard to separate from someone like that.. but try and find a way
 
 
 
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