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Year 11 boy with Year 9 girl

Do people find this is too much of an age gap? Does anyone else find that usually when a year 11 boy goes out with a year 9 girl, he does so because its easier to get her to sleep with him than with girls in their year? I don't really find this with other years - yrs 7-8 are too young, and from yr 10 onwards girls seem to be better able to see through a guy. This has happened A LOT in my school. At 13/14 girls seem to be usually eager to have their first serious boyfriend and feel proud they have a guy who's 2 years older interested in them,;and guys at 15/16 seem to want to lose it or get their first proper girlfriend and start going for the easy girls. I've also found that most of these yr 9 girls were quite slutty and had the confidence to hang around/flirt with the big scary yr 11 boys.
Just curious to see what eveyone thinks. :smile:

Reply 1

eDDeboo

14

When I was in year 11 I had a GF in year 9.. although she lied and I thought she was year 10.
I ended it when I found out because she basically wanted to loose her virginity too eagerly to me and was immature.

Reply 2

happydinosaur

15

For me it was being in year 9 with a year 10 boyfriend, seemed to be the most common situation. A couple of girls had year 11 boyfriends in year 9 but not many. It wasn't seen as slutty thought that might have just been because of who those girls were.

Reply 3

username47781

20

Sadly this went on in my school a lot of the guys in year 11 were going out or trying to woo girls in Year 8.

Reply 4

JKLJKL

8

Generally girls more than a year younger than me get on my nerves/seem incessently immature. Even a lot of the ones in the year below me, and still now, any lower sixth girls now seem so stupidly young and its cringeworthingly immature. So I'd never go more than a year below. but there are the odd two or three who went fo ryear nines in our school. everyone took the piss out of them, it was the ugly/socially inept ones.

Reply 5

ßlαcksωαn

17

well in reality it is only 2 years, but I think it's a whole lot bigger when you're in school. I mean say a 20yr old and 22 yr old seems fine. But in school it just seems too dodgey. It's terrible when you hear these girls talking about their girls...makes me sick.

Reply 6

JKLJKL

8

the fact they are 13/14 with a 16 year old.
legality issue comes into it.
but its the maturity factor mainly. young girls thinking they are mature, and they arent at all. there are rare circumstances, but id still not go out with one. by 16ish theyll generally be mature enough for it.

Reply 7

Bedshaped

14

Wtf @ legality?

Just make sure you dont have sex with them. End of.

Reply 8

ThatLauren.

It seems okay to me...the difference only sounds big because of the school years.

Reply 9

Alexii

12

Well it can actually feasibly be a 14 year old with a 15 year old for most of the year depending on when the birthdays are.

Reply 10

Titch89

14

blackswan

well in reality it is only 2 years, but I think it's a whole lot bigger when you're in school. I mean say a 20yr old and 22 yr old seems fine. But in school it just seems too dodgey. It's terrible when you hear these girls talking about their girls...makes me sick.

Indeed

Reply 11

NDGAARONDI

16

Rock Fan

Sadly this went on in my school a lot of the guys in year 11 were going out or trying to woo girls in Year 8.

Didn't think it would happen that much. If that happened at my old secondary school you'd get ridiculed. I remember a girl liking me a lot when I was in lower sixth. No idea if she was in year 9 but I never really paid attention. And I find it slightly 'amusing' that people get up tight over the law on this issue when they don't adhere to the law elsewhere.

Reply 12

ElWilson

14

Although the 2 year rule does exist - I probably wouldn't go for a Year 9 girl. It's just a maturity thing - if she looks/behaves maturely, go for it.

But otherwise, just keep her in your sights, so when she does mature - POW

Reply 13

J-J-J-Jooo!

I think it seems worse because they're in school, but really its not a big age gap, 2 years is nothing, and age isn't really a factor, its about whether they like each other enough to handle it!

Reply 14

alicejb

Wow...year 9. At that age I certainly wasnt ready for or mature enough for a relationship.

I guess I can see the attraction of an older bf at that age as a status thing.....but thats really not the foundation of a relationship.

I think it would in the long term lead to regrets.

Reply 15

Danielle89

14

I think at school age seems to matter more than later in life. At uni, on my course there is an age range of 17 to 22 in my year because most are irish and have already done degrees over there and come to get one over here too. I honestly dont realise the difference in maturity between a 17 year old guy and a 22 year old one. Apparently guys dont mature as quickly, so this may be why. I tend to notice a bit more with girls, but then Im not aiming to go out with any of the girls lol. Im 18, and have seen a few of my friends who are the same age, date 22 year olds. Thats a 4 year age gap but it feels like nothing really. Age is irrelevant if you both like each other :smile:

Reply 16

lily_blue3

13

I started dating my boyfriend when I was 16 and he was 21. Now 18 and 23. It's not really a big deal depending on the maturity of the girl and the immaturity of the guy!

Reply 17

daniel_williams

15

well it could be seen as wrong seeing as the age of consent is 16, and the yar 11 pupil would be 16, and would be performing an act of sex on a minor which is illegal. but to be fair the best advice i would give you is never date anyone (in your teenage years) that is younger than this.

Half you age + 7 years (its a random equation one of the guys I'm at uni was going on about but it makes sense to me)

Reply 18

Danielle89

14

Thats a good equation DW - makes sense to me. It would mean that I could date a 17 year old guy (though tried it once, they're a bit too immature for me in my experience). It would also mean that a 22 year old would be fine for me to date, which kinda makes sense as well cos they dont really act much differently :smile:

Reply 19

Ashes_to_Ashes

2

Hmm, kinda. Of course it depends on the maturity. There's a guy at my school in y13 who's going out with a y10 girl. When I was in y9 a girl I know was going out with a 22 year old. He was blatently a paedophile but her mother was stupid believe he was 16. I knew of girl in my year (in y10) going out with a 20 year old, and two years later they're still going out.

Year 11 boy with Year 9 girl

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