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    Hey, I'm shy so my social life is non existent. I'm worried that I won't get a girlfriend because my sixth form is only a small one and all the girls there are either lesbian or already in a relationship. I have anxiety so saying things like put yourself out there is hard for me to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks David.
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    Being in a relationship is overrated tbh :lol:
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    (Original post by MrsMars)
    Being in a relationship is overrated tbh :lol:
    So I'm not missing out on much?
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    How old are you?
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    (Original post by David Essex)
    So I'm not missing out on much?
    No way :lol:
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    You could try meeting friends of friends (like a party or a big group hangout) or going to volunteering/clubs? To be honest, after school, you will meet so many more people so don't feel restricted to find someone at your college at this moment. The right girl is probably someone else you will meet after school.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    How old are you?
    16.
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    (Original post by cheesecakelove)
    You could try meeting friends of friends (like a party or a big group hangout) or going to volunteering/clubs? To be honest, after school, you will meet so many more people so don't feel restricted to find someone at your college at this moment. The right girl is probably someone else you will meet after school.
    Thanks! I hope so!
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    (Original post by David Essex)
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    So at the age of 16, how have you reached the conclusion that you'll never get a girlfriend?

    You seem so fixated on getting a girlfriend, thread after thread on different accounts. Work on yourself first, make new friends and focus on your exams (GCSEs/A-Levels). You can get girls later.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    So at the age of 16, how have you reached the conclusion that you'll never get a girlfriend?

    You seem so fixated on getting a girlfriend, thread after thread on different accounts. Work on yourself first, make new friends and focus on your exams (GCSEs/A-Levels). You can get girls later.
    Yeah I guess I'm over exaggerating. I'm not neglecting my studies with the whole girlfriend thing, good grades come first.
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    (Original post by David Essex)
    Yeah I guess I'm over exaggerating. I'm not neglecting my studies with the whole girlfriend thing, good grades come first.
    You talk a lot about how shy and quiet you are and how you don't know what to do with girls. This is fine because everyone starts somewhere but when it's the focus of your life and start pitying yourself, it becomes unhealthy. Girls like a confident person, if you are shy and quiet then either embrace it or take steps to improve it. But at your age, you are still learning and meeting new people by normal means (school for example) so don't worry about it, seriously.
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    (Original post by UWS)
    You talk a lot about how shy and quiet you are and how you don't know what to do with girls. This is fine because everyone starts somewhere but when it's the focus of your life and start pitying yourself, it becomes unhealthy. Girls like a confident person, if you are shy and quiet then either embrace it or take steps to improve it. But at your age, you are still learning and meeting new people by normal means (school for example) so don't worry about it, seriously.
    Thanks! I was thinking about seeing a doctor about it because it can get quite bad at times.
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    (Original post by David Essex)
    Hey, I'm shy so my social life is non existent. I'm worried that I won't get a girlfriend because my sixth form is only a small one and all the girls there are either lesbian or already in a relationship. I have anxiety so saying things like put yourself out there is hard for me to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks David.
    women are not worth it.


    they will watch netflix all day and spend all your money whilst wearing cheap make up

    travel the world climbing mountains.
    help out in an orphanage in Romania or Bosnia where thousands of children need help.
    you will be a lot happier

    you already know how to become more attractive ,
    dress better,
    get a better haircut,
    work out,
    eat better,
    don't be needy
    have interesting hobbies
    learn about having good posture and voice tone,
    etc
    and you become attractive.

    life is simple
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    Listen man, in this feminist age, women are too much of a hassle for being in a relationship with so what you should be doing is to only seek sex from them. So do your own research on how to seduce women so you know the basics of how to attract women. Why are you asking people on TSR, most guys here also dont know how to attract women.
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    Just w**k tbh
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    (Original post by Acend1992)
    women are not worth it.


    they will watch netflix all day and spend all your money whilst wearing cheap make up

    travel the world climbing mountains.
    help out in an orphanage in Romania or Bosnia where thousands of children need help.
    you will be a lot happier

    you already know how to become more attractive ,
    dress better,
    get a better haircut,
    work out,
    eat better,
    don't be needy
    have interesting hobbies
    learn about having good posture and voice tone,
    etc
    and you become attractive.

    life is simple
    Thanks
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    (Original post by Masstech)
    Listen man, in this feminist age, women are too much of a hassle for being in a relationship with so what you should be doing is to only seek sex from them. So do your own research on how to seduce women so you know the basics of how to attract women. Why are you asking people on TSR, most guys here also dont know how to attract women.
    Haha OK thanks!
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    Just w**k tbh
    I'm think that's the best option haha
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    (Original post by David Essex)
    Hey, I'm shy so my social life is non existent. I'm worried that I won't get a girlfriend because my sixth form is only a small one and all the girls there are either lesbian or already in a relationship. I have anxiety so saying things like put yourself out there is hard for me to do. Any advice would be greatly appreciated! Thanks David.
    Relax, you're very very young and have plenty of time to be in a relationship!

    As you get older you could try doing online dating, speed dating, joining clubs which interest you, through education, through your network (family, friends, acquaintances), through work or approaching females.

    Hit the gym, the way you look and feel about yourself has a huge impact on your confidence, self esteem levels.

    Also dress well, groom well, have a good hairstyle, have confident body language, have good posture, all these things make a difference.

    I hope this helps:

    1) Relax, imagine you're just observing or there as a traveller. For example, if you are on holiday, you go there to experience and observe the attraction, you're not going to get anxious doing that are you?

    2) Smile, smiling in contagious.

    3) Be confident, respect yourself, accept yourself, work out, wear good clothes, feel good, focus on your passions, know you are a good person who treats people well, think positively, be proud of yourself, do things that make you happy, remember your happy times, what makes you confident? What makes you proud? Do you have a skill you are good at? Do things like cooking, driving, learning that increases your confidence daily.

    Have good posture, body language, improve your appearance.

    4) Dress well, have good grooming, hairstyle, have good posture.

    5) Just say hi or hey to people in your vicinity, who cares if they don't say anything back?

    6) Ask how they are, how's everything, what made them choose this course, their plans for the future, their plans for the rest of the day, weekend, how was their weekend, what they will get up to, what they got up to, ask them about their hobbies, talk about what's happening.

    Talk about the weather or did you see that sports game? Just mingle with them,

    compliment them, say "I like your jacket". If you know they went on a holiday or somewhere, ask them about it etc.

    7) Be passionate about life.

    8) Lighten up, have a laugh, laugh easily, be friendly, approachable, interested, relaxed.

    9) Look outside!

    Good luck!
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    (Original post by Acend1992)
    women are not worth it.


    they will watch netflix all day and spend all your money whilst wearing cheap make up

    travel the world climbing mountains.
    help out in an orphanage in Romania or Bosnia where thousands of children need help.
    you will be a lot happier

    you already know how to become more attractive ,
    dress better,
    get a better haircut,
    work out,
    eat better,
    don't be needy
    have interesting hobbies
    learn about having good posture and voice tone,
    etc
    and you become attractive.

    life is simple
    This was weirdly specific
 
 
 
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