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    Whenever I'm with my gf in public I notice I get more stares from girls. last weekend I went with my gf to a friend's birthday party and I had several girls trying to dance and flirt with me and this is with them knowing I have a gf. This tends to be a recurring theme whenever I go out with her.

    When I was single, a girl would never bat an eyelid or even bother looking at me even at parties but now that I have a gf it seems as though girls seem interested? what sorcery is this?
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    having a gf makes you more desireable, especially if your gf is attractive- because it tells them "well if an attractive girl is dating him, that must mean he's quite a catch" etc. Having a gf is basically like having a 5* verified amazon review on your forehead that tells other girls that you're hot stuff. No girlfriend = no reviews, which makes girls less interested in getting to know you.
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    having a gf makes you more desireable, especially if your gf is attractive- because it tells them "well if an attractive girl is dating him, that must mean he's quite a catch" etc. Having a gf is basically like having a 5* verified amazon review on your forehead that tells other girls that you're hot stuff. No girlfriend = no reviews, which makes girls less interested in getting to know you.
    basically it's like why it's easier to get a job when you already have one?
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      Aha! This is an pyschological phenomenon I heard about a couple of years ago.

      Post #2 isn't entirely explanatory, since it doesn't apply to women in relationships IIRC. Men with rings get 'hit on' more than men without - while women with rings get hit on less than without.
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      It's their psychology, whatever they say to the contrary, envy, you seeming higher value because a girl is with you, etc.
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      I think their opinions depend a lot on other womens 'assessments' too
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      It’s like waiting for a bus, when you want one none will come but then when one comes, they all come.
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      It's their psychology, whatever they say to the contrary, envy, you seeming higher value because a girl is with you, etc.
      it took me ages to get my first girlfriend because no girls bothered talking to me, but now they see me with a girl they want me. so strange but it makes sense
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      They realise you getting pu$$y and they wanna give you bigger and better
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      Girls want what they can't have.
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      All the explanations here are gonna be psuedoscientific at best so I may as well concoct some potentially explanatory bs as well. Maaaybe it's like if you have a girlfriend that doesn't hate you that makes it seem like you are able to provide for a woman better than some random guy with no experience. In effect, you look more like "boyfriend material" because you are a boyfriend.

      Maybe.
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      it took me ages to get my first girlfriend because no girls bothered talking to me, but now they see me with a girl they want me. so strange but it makes sense
      Yep same thing happened with me. I got lots of looks when I was in a bar in NYC. It's an evolutionary thing probably .... also they must think you're worth something if you're with a fit girl!

      Women can tell when a guy is desperate within the first five or ten seconds.
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      having a gf makes you more desireable, especially if your gf is attractive- because it tells them "well if an attractive girl is dating him, that must mean he's quite a catch" etc. Having a gf is basically like having a 5* verified amazon review on your forehead that tells other girls that you're hot stuff. No girlfriend = no reviews, which makes girls less interested in getting to know you.
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      Yep same thing happened with me. I got lots of looks when I was in a bar in NYC. It's an evolutionary thing probably .... also they must think you're worth something if you're with a fit girl!

      Women can tell when a guy is desperate within the first five or ten seconds.
      strange how they only think that once you have a girl, social proof and all that jazz
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      strange how they only think that once you have a girl, social proof and all that jazz
      Yeah a bit strange. When you don't take any notice of them (because you're with someone) then they take notice.
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