I started uni a few weeks ago. Before starting, I tried to talk to my flatmates and coursemates both on FB and TSR but it would almost always end up with them leaving the message on read (almost exclusively mid convo). I genuinely did make an effort to connect with those people, both in group chats and individually too.
When uni started, I talked to as many people as I could and went outside my comfort zone in doing that, since I am generally shy and introverted. I also went to quite a few society events. I met some people who seemed decent in person, but they always ignore messages on FB and don't seem to want to be friends or meet again.
I don't really get on well with my flatmates, we talk a bit and stuff, but that's just because we live together. I really want to meet like-minded people and I am feeling very alone now. I even installed Tinder last night and browsing through it for anyone similar to me just made me feel more alone?
And the people on my course don't act that friendly at all. I talked to one in a lecture the other day and told her I dropped out of uni before, and it seemed obvious she was judging me for it. They are predominantly immature school leavers :|
I apologise if I have overshared in any way. I am really trying to put myself out there. It is just getting frustrating now, and I know others have had similar issues too.
Feeling alone and lost Watch
- Thread Starter
- 05-10-2017 11:32
- 05-10-2017 11:41
Try joining a Volunteering group in your Students Union. Maybe you will find it easier to connect to people through an organised teamwork and shared purpose (aka planning a fundrasing event) rather than just random small talk. Joining Diversity & Support groups might also be a good idea.
- 06-10-2017 14:33
I agree with the volunteering because there are many advantages. One is you are doing something practical with other people- working to a common goal. Also, you are giving time and effort to help someone/something else which is extremely gratifying. Thirdly, it can be seen as work experience or at the least demonstrates that you are helpful and compassionate. Definitely look into it and spread the love!