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    I'm not sure 'scared' is the right word, but I don't really have that many friends, and even though I feel like i want to have friends and better relationships with people, whenever I find myself getting close with someone I have a voice in the back of my head telling me to distance myself from them,to find a way to cut the conversation short or come up with an excuse as to why I can't hang out with them, which is strange because whenever im having a down day and I'm thinking about what I don't like about myself/my life,not having any close friends always springs to mind, but when I have the chance to I just have an instinct to hide away and distance myself from them before they get the wrong idea or something, does anyone else have/had this problem? how do i overcome it?
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    (Original post by spacebug)
    I'm not sure 'scared' is the right word, but I don't really have that many friends, and even though I feel like i want to have friends and better relationships with people, whenever I find myself getting close with someone I have a voice in the back of my head telling me to distance myself from them,to find a way to cut the conversation short or come up with an excuse as to why I can't hang out with them, which is strange because whenever im having a down day and I'm thinking about what I don't like about myself/my life,not having any close friends always springs to mind, but when I have the chance to I just have an instinct to hide away and distance myself from them before they get the wrong idea or something, does anyone else have/had this problem? how do i overcome it?
    Find out where this has stemmed from. When you realise where this phobia has come from, you gain control and you can tell yourself that it's in the past and shouldn't affect your present. If you can't, then I'd recommend CBT.
 
 
 
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