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Boyfriend kissed 2 girls while drunk on 2 different nights; told me months after Watch

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    TWO THO, that's a bit of a deal
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    the fact that he waited so long to tell you is really contradictory to the amount of remorse he's expressing. surely, if you have done something wrong and upsetting, your first urge is to make it right? why wait so long?

    another thing you have to think about is it happened twice. and as you said in one of the incidents, it escalated to a make out session....he was drunk enough to do that but not sober enough to even have an inkling of the consequences of his actions??? idc about giving into temptations & going through a bad time, that stuff is bs and it is no excuse. he could have controlled himself and done things right and he chose not to.

    in other words, don't hang on to him, babe. you'll get to meet better men who actually care about you :/
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    I made an ultimatum a long time ago that kissing is a deal breaker and he was still not ready for the consequences of his actions. At the end when he told me he said it's entirely my decision
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    Yeah. I think he is. We talked long and hard.. I also let out all my feelings to him 2 weeks ago. Just cried and cried and he had this look of guilt and angst in his face. Just sat there and rubbed my knees. If it weren't for this situation I would have done anything to make him not feel like that. But I wanted him to bear witness of what he did to me. I know the depths of his remorse. He is willing to work to rekindle the trust I had for him and to make it up to me. I'm just upset this had to happen to something that has made me so immensely happy.
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    He felt it wasn't fair of him anymore to keep me from deciding what to do with the relationship after having the knowledge of the incidents
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    I made an ultimatum a long time ago that kissing is a deal breaker and he was still not ready for the consequences of his actions. At the end when he told me he said it's entirely my decision
 
 
 
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