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    Hi,
    So I started a course at a good university. It's currently freshers week, and I'm finding it tough. To cut a long story short, I have type 1 diabetes, depression and anxiety that manifested when I previously went to a different university, and my twin sister passed away last year. I've been living at home, working and volunteering.I feel so anxious and isolated, as I tend to withdraw given my aforementioned difficulties. I have met some people, and I try to engage them in conversation, but it feels very awkward (which I realise is probably because we've all just met), and this makes me feel worse given that I am dealing with the guilt of leaving my parents after they lost a child. Would it be worth telling the people I kind of know about what's happened so they understand? Would that be too weird? I just wish I could enjoy while I'm young but life keeps on slapping me in the face.

    Any advice would be much appreciated
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    you shouldnt tell people for the sake of making friends but only when you trust them an get close. they might think youre attention seeking etc. i think for now just go with the flow :P
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    Sorry to hear about your sister. I am totally a culprit when it comes to over-sharing and as a result I've had my fair share of embarrassment. If it's something you feel comfortable sharing, then go ahead, but bear in mind that people might not know how to respond to you. Friendships change a lot throughout uni and you wouldn't want to regret telling someone something in the future so be careful
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    Please don't listen to the two posters above - Disclosing to people that your twin passed away is not "attention seeking" whatsoever. Grief is a natural process. I am sorry that you're struggling and I am sending lots of love. Take advantage of the counselling services that your Uni has to offer Xxx
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    Thanks for the replies. I'm definitely not attention-seeking in any way, it would just be so they could understand if I need to leave suddenly when it all gets a bit too much. In fact, I really hate talking about it but I understand how it could seem that way.
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    I would turn the guilt of leaving your parents after losing a child on its head by thinking 'lets do as well as I can at uni and show I am happy etc' and make them proud and give them something to celebrate. I totally get your feelings here but deep down your parents will not want you to be held back, you deserve your youth and experiences.
 
 
 
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