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    I'm a girl, OK looking but anyway I moved to a new city recently and don't know many people so I joined Tinder for the lulz and put up a few pics of myself. Im only looking for something not too serious so I put that in profile, but nothing like I'm looking for a FWB or **** buddy lol. No revealing pics either.

    Anyway.. the quality of guys on Tinder is **** tbh. I dont mean looks wise, i matched with many "hot" guys. In fact if you are looking for a guy with a particular look (like being a fitness dude) or just a general "hot guy" Tinder is easy pickings. But they just seem much worse personality wise than the guys who show interest in me IRL even though I don't have much a social life right now. So I deleted my account after like a few weeks.

    Obviously every girl gets loadsss of guys gassing her up on Tinder and i did too. But a lot of them, once you say No to sending them more pictures or even just don't reply within a few hours, start turning VERY nasty. Suddenly "hey beautiful" becomes "your not that hot anyway" or "You're quiet, bit up yourself?". Or guys start insulting you out of the blue when you're just chatting. It's full of failed pick up artist loser types who start "negging." A lot of guys also asked me on a date (I have lots of clear pics up of face, body etc), as in actually set the place and time etc and then refused to actually go unless I sent them more pics or added them on Facebook or Snapchat, obv I said no and told em to do one.

    I did actually go out on dates with some dudes (more than one with some) and.. TBH.. most of them were kinda lacking in social skills. After seeming totally normal in chat. We're talking can't hold eye contact, lack of manners, taking off shoes in the middle of the ****ing date, constantly bringing up their exes, banging on about how they've been on Tinder for agesss and whining about other women etc. I think this is why online dating sucks compared to IRL bc IRL I wouldve picked up on this soo quick and not gone out with them at all.

    Btw i'm not being sexist, I have heard from guy friends who are also on Tinder about how most girls are way too fussy with stupid requirements like 6" or over and also rude and psycho. Not sure about other online dating (recommend?) but I can confirm. Tinder is an absolute **** hole. I bet even if if you were a girl who was a model you would still get "negs" and match with guys who turned out to be wrong IRL.

    Back to meeting guys IRL :creep:
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    I've not used Tinder but I convinced my mam to try it, she spent years getting nowhere with mainstream dating sites and I told her she should cut out the middleman and just go on Tinder where you can meet someone instantly. She has a date this weekend and is dead excited. Her age range is obviously much older than yours so maybe more mature people have more respect for eachother. Sorry to hear you have a bad experience. The pick-up artist types "negging" sounds dead cringey lol.
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    I've not used Tinder but I convinced my mam to try it, she spent years getting nowhere with mainstream dating sites and I told her she should cut out the middleman and just go on Tinder where you can meet someone instantly. She has a date this weekend and is dead excited. Her age range is obviously much older than yours so maybe more mature people have more respect for eachother. Sorry to hear you have a bad experience. The pick-up artist types "negging" sounds dead cringey lol.
    Glad to hear it worked out for your mam hope goes well for her Yea I'm in my early 20s so date guys around that age like lots of them have been at uni. Which sites did your mum try before? Okcupid etc.? :P
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    Back to meeting guys IRL :creep:
    The best thing to do really.
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    I had a lot of success on Tinder and POF tbf. Thing about it is, you're going to get a lot of people using it because they're s*** at socialising IRL, so they turn out to be a total weirdo. Had this with numerous girls I met on these apps, it's not just the guys.

    I think the worst one that I should have seen as a red flag straight away, was the one that started whinging about how her exes all broke up with her because she's diagnosed schizophrenic and had some problems with paranoia (bit weird to admit on a first "date" but okay)... anyway, I stayed put cause we both agreed beforehand that we weren't planning on anything serious anyway, and we had a couple drinks and then went back to her place. She started locking all the doors and windows with keys as soon as we got there... I thought fine, probably just security conscious. Then she says she's gonna go and hide the keys and stay where I am! I'm like "Why are you hiding them!" - "Just in case" was her answer. So I ask why I can't see where she's putting them and she says it's cause she doesn't really know me. So I stated protesting that I'm not being locked in her house with no way out and she starts screaming at me like "WTF is wrong with you!? Do you think I'm some sort of psycho that's going to keep you chained up in my house or something!!??". I was going to say yes, but I didn't want to trigger her and potentially get stabbed, so I just said "Look... the mood is gone now. Just let me out please." She started crying a bit and apologised and acknowledged she was acting weird, so she put the keys on the kitchen counter and then did the deed on her sofa a couple of times. No ****ing way was I staying the night :rofl:

    Anyway, I always end up going into storytime with these sorts of threads :lol: Just goes to show that when you meet strangers for sex, whether through an app or going out on the pull, you're bound to have some odd experiences. As for the guys being d***s, again it's because as I said, a lot of people on there are going to have low self esteem because they've taken to the apps as a last resort where they don't get anywhere IRL, and they'll get all aggy when they feel like they're getting knocked back out of frustration. It's just part of the parcel when you don't get anywhere with someone - you're not gonna click with everyone, if I got ghosted or whatever then oh well, onto the next one, plenty more matches to be had. You definitely didn't help yourself by saying right off the bat that you're not looking anything too serious though, bet the guys thought they were onto a nice quick shag when they read, just saying from a guy's perspective :rofl:
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    (Original post by It's****ingWOODY)
    I had a lot of success on Tinder and POF tbf. Thing about it is, you're going to get a lot of people using it because they're s*** at socialising IRL, so they turn out to be a total weirdo. Had this with numerous girls I met on these apps, it's not just the guys.

    I think the worst one that I should have seen as a red flag straight away, was the one that started whinging about how her exes all broke up with her because she's diagnosed schizophrenic and had some problems with paranoia (bit weird to admit on a first "date" but okay)... anyway, I stayed put cause we both agreed beforehand that we weren't planning on anything serious anyway, and we had a couple drinks and then went back to her place. She started locking all the doors and windows with keys as soon as we got there... I thought fine, probably just security conscious. Then she says she's gonna go and hide the keys and stay where I am! I'm like "Why are you hiding them!" - "Just in case" was her answer. So I ask why I can't see where she's putting them and she says it's cause she doesn't really know me. So I stated protesting that I'm not being locked in her house with no way out and she starts screaming at me like "WTF is wrong with you!? Do you think I'm some sort of psycho that's going to keep you chained up in my house or something!!??". I was going to say yes, but I didn't want to trigger her and potentially get stabbed, so I just said "Look... the mood is gone now. Just let me out please." She started crying a bit and apologised and acknowledged she was acting weird, so she put the keys on the kitchen counter and then did the deed on her sofa a couple of times. No ****ing way was I staying the night :rofl:

    Anyway, I always end up going into storytime with these sorts of threads :lol: Just goes to show that when you meet strangers for sex, whether through an app or going out on the pull, you're bound to have some odd experiences. As for the guys being d***s, again it's because as I said, a lot of people on there are going to have low self esteem because they've taken to the apps as a last resort where they don't get anywhere IRL, and they'll get all aggy when they feel like they're getting knocked back out of frustration. It's just part of the parcel when you don't get anywhere with someone - you're not gonna click with everyone, if I got ghosted or whatever then oh well, onto the next one, plenty more matches to be had. You definitely didn't help yourself by saying right off the bat that you're not looking anything too serious though, bet the guys thought they were onto a nice quick shag when they read, just saying from a guy's perspective :rofl:
    You... Still had sex with her. After she almost full-on Misery'd you.

    Man, you really, really need to reevaluate your priorities. If it's "Sex, but there's about a 20% chance she'll be wearing my flesh as a lampshade", the answer is to back away. Back. Away.
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    (Original post by It's****ingWOODY)
    I had a lot of success on Tinder and POF tbf. Thing about it is, you're going to get a lot of people using it because they're s*** at socialising IRL, so they turn out to be a total weirdo. Had this with numerous girls I met on these apps, it's not just the guys.

    I think the worst one that I should have seen as a red flag straight away, was the one that started whinging about how her exes all broke up with her because she's diagnosed schizophrenic and had some problems with paranoia (bit weird to admit on a first "date" but okay)... anyway, I stayed put cause we both agreed beforehand that we weren't planning on anything serious anyway, and we had a couple drinks and then went back to her place. She started locking all the doors and windows with keys as soon as we got there... I thought fine, probably just security conscious. Then she says she's gonna go and hide the keys and stay where I am! I'm like "Why are you hiding them!" - "Just in case" was her answer. So I ask why I can't see where she's putting them and she says it's cause she doesn't really know me. So I stated protesting that I'm not being locked in her house with no way out and she starts screaming at me like "WTF is wrong with you!? Do you think I'm some sort of psycho that's going to keep you chained up in my house or something!!??". I was going to say yes, but I didn't want to trigger her and potentially get stabbed, so I just said "Look... the mood is gone now. Just let me out please." She started crying a bit and apologised and acknowledged she was acting weird, so she put the keys on the kitchen counter and then did the deed on her sofa a couple of times. No ****ing way was I staying the night :rofl:

    Anyway, I always end up going into storytime with these sorts of threads :lol: Just goes to show that when you meet strangers for sex, whether through an app or going out on the pull, you're bound to have some odd experiences. As for the guys being d***s, again it's because as I said, a lot of people on there are going to have low self esteem because they've taken to the apps as a last resort where they don't get anywhere IRL, and they'll get all aggy when they feel like they're getting knocked back out of frustration. It's just part of the parcel when you don't get anywhere with someone - you're not gonna click with everyone, if I got ghosted or whatever then oh well, onto the next one, plenty more matches to be had. You definitely didn't help yourself by saying right off the bat that you're not looking anything too serious though, bet the guys thought they were onto a nice quick shag when they read, just saying from a guy's perspective :rofl:
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    You... Still had sex with her. After she almost full-on Misery'd you.

    Man, you really, really need to reevaluate your priorities. If it's "Sex, but there's about a 20% chance she'll be wearing my flesh as a lampshade", the answer is to back away. Back. Away.
    In my defence, it's kinda hard to think rationally when the blood is diverted downstairs :lol: Even then, I still weighed up the situation - no weapons nearby, I knew where the keys were, I was a lot bigger and stronger than her... still a risk of course, but edgy sex is always good sex
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Glad to hear it worked out for your mam hope goes well for her Yea I'm in my early 20s so date guys around that age like lots of them have been at uni. Which sites did your mum try before? Okcupid etc.? :P
    Thanks. She's getting on nicely with the bloke she met.

    She tried Christian Mingle, Friends First, eHarmony and some other one I can't remember. She's not good on computers so I had to go through them with her, and you can't even message people until you pay a fee to subscribe, so basically they hold your messages hostage until you pony up. :eek: Bloody heartless, especially for so-called "Christian" sites.

    Tinder is best for dating, there's absolutely no reason to use a paid site in my experience.
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    I had a lot of success on Tinder and POF tbf. Thing about it is, you're going to get a lot of people using it because they're s*** at socialising IRL, so they turn out to be a total weirdo. Had this with numerous girls I met on these apps, it's not just the guys.

    I think the worst one that I should have seen as a red flag straight away, was the one that started whinging about how her exes all broke up with her because she's diagnosed schizophrenic and had some problems with paranoia (bit weird to admit on a first "date" but okay)... anyway, I stayed put cause we both agreed beforehand that we weren't planning on anything serious anyway, and we had a couple drinks and then went back to her place. She started locking all the doors and windows with keys as soon as we got there... I thought fine, probably just security conscious. Then she says she's gonna go and hide the keys and stay where I am! I'm like "Why are you hiding them!" - "Just in case" was her answer. So I ask why I can't see where she's putting them and she says it's cause she doesn't really know me. So I stated protesting that I'm not being locked in her house with no way out and she starts screaming at me like "WTF is wrong with you!? Do you think I'm some sort of psycho that's going to keep you chained up in my house or something!!??". I was going to say yes, but I didn't want to trigger her and potentially get stabbed, so I just said "Look... the mood is gone now. Just let me out please." She started crying a bit and apologised and acknowledged she was acting weird, so she put the keys on the kitchen counter and then did the deed on her sofa a couple of times. No ****ing way was I staying the night :rofl:

    Anyway, I always end up going into storytime with these sorts of threads :lol: Just goes to show that when you meet strangers for sex, whether through an app or going out on the pull, you're bound to have some odd experiences. As for the guys being d***s, again it's because as I said, a lot of people on there are going to have low self esteem because they've taken to the apps as a last resort where they don't get anywhere IRL, and they'll get all aggy when they feel like they're getting knocked back out of frustration. It's just part of the parcel when you don't get anywhere with someone - you're not gonna click with everyone, if I got ghosted or whatever then oh well, onto the next one, plenty more matches to be had. You definitely didn't help yourself by saying right off the bat that you're not looking anything too serious though, bet the guys thought they were onto a nice quick shag when they read, just saying from a guy's perspective :rofl:
    Holy **** glad you weren't murdered :rofl::rofl:
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm a girl, OK looking but anyway I moved to a new city recently and don't know many people so I joined Tinder for the lulz and put up a few pics of myself. Im only looking for something not too serious so I put that in profile, but nothing like I'm looking for a FWB or **** buddy lol. No revealing pics either.

    Anyway.. the quality of guys on Tinder is **** tbh. I dont mean looks wise, i matched with many "hot" guys. In fact if you are looking for a guy with a particular look (like being a fitness dude) or just a general "hot guy" Tinder is easy pickings. But they just seem much worse personality wise than the guys who show interest in me IRL even though I don't have much a social life right now. So I deleted my account after like a few weeks.

    Obviously every girl gets loadsss of guys gassing her up on Tinder and i did too. But a lot of them, once you say No to sending them more pictures or even just don't reply within a few hours, start turning VERY nasty. Suddenly "hey beautiful" becomes "your not that hot anyway" or "You're quiet, bit up yourself?". Or guys start insulting you out of the blue when you're just chatting. It's full of failed pick up artist loser types who start "negging." A lot of guys also asked me on a date (I have lots of clear pics up of face, body etc), as in actually set the place and time etc and then refused to actually go unless I sent them more pics or added them on Facebook or Snapchat, obv I said no and told em to do one.

    I did actually go out on dates with some dudes (more than one with some) and.. TBH.. most of them were kinda lacking in social skills. After seeming totally normal in chat. We're talking can't hold eye contact, lack of manners, taking off shoes in the middle of the ****ing date, constantly bringing up their exes, banging on about how they've been on Tinder for agesss and whining about other women etc. I think this is why online dating sucks compared to IRL bc IRL I wouldve picked up on this soo quick and not gone out with them at all.

    Btw i'm not being sexist, I have heard from guy friends who are also on Tinder about how most girls are way too fussy with stupid requirements like 6" or over and also rude and psycho. Not sure about other online dating (recommend?) but I can confirm. Tinder is an absolute **** hole. I bet even if if you were a girl who was a model you would still get "negs" and match with guys who turned out to be wrong IRL.

    Back to meeting guys IRL :creep:
    I agree with everything you said apart from Snapchat. I always insist on seeing a guy on snapchat to make sure he is real
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    (Original post by It's****ingWOODY)
    I had a lot of success on Tinder and POF tbf. Thing about it is, you're going to get a lot of people using it because they're s*** at socialising IRL, so they turn out to be a total weirdo. Had this with numerous girls I met on these apps, it's not just the guys.

    I think the worst one that I should have seen as a red flag straight away, was the one that started whinging about how her exes all broke up with her because she's diagnosed schizophrenic and had some problems with paranoia (bit weird to admit on a first "date" but okay)... anyway, I stayed put cause we both agreed beforehand that we weren't planning on anything serious anyway, and we had a couple drinks and then went back to her place. She started locking all the doors and windows with keys as soon as we got there... I thought fine, probably just security conscious. Then she says she's gonna go and hide the keys and stay where I am! I'm like "Why are you hiding them!" - "Just in case" was her answer. So I ask why I can't see where she's putting them and she says it's cause she doesn't really know me. So I stated protesting that I'm not being locked in her house with no way out and she starts screaming at me like "WTF is wrong with you!? Do you think I'm some sort of psycho that's going to keep you chained up in my house or something!!??". I was going to say yes, but I didn't want to trigger her and potentially get stabbed, so I just said "Look... the mood is gone now. Just let me out please." She started crying a bit and apologised and acknowledged she was acting weird, so she put the keys on the kitchen counter and then did the deed on her sofa a couple of times. No ****ing way was I staying the night :rofl:

    Anyway, I always end up going into storytime with these sorts of threads :lol: Just goes to show that when you meet strangers for sex, whether through an app or going out on the pull, you're bound to have some odd experiences. As for the guys being d***s, again it's because as I said, a lot of people on there are going to have low self esteem because they've taken to the apps as a last resort where they don't get anywhere IRL, and they'll get all aggy when they feel like they're getting knocked back out of frustration. It's just part of the parcel when you don't get anywhere with someone - you're not gonna click with everyone, if I got ghosted or whatever then oh well, onto the next one, plenty more matches to be had. You definitely didn't help yourself by saying right off the bat that you're not looking anything too serious though, bet the guys thought they were onto a nice quick shag when they read, just saying from a guy's perspective :rofl:
    How do you even get success on POF when everyone there is either a single mum or didnt go to uni?
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    How do you even get success on POF when everyone there is either a single mum or didnt go to uni?
    I've not come across (no pun intended) many single mums on there.
    Why would them going to uni be a prerequisite? I'm not on there for stimulating chats, I'm on there to find dumb shlags who class their bedroom as an ideal location for a first date.
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    (Original post by It's****ingWOODY)
    I've not come seeacross (no pun intended) many single mums on there. Why would them going to uni be a prerequisite? I'm not on there for stimulating chats, I'm on there to find dumb shlags who class their bedroom as an ideal location for a first date.
    The dumb shlags are hard to have a conversation with when they are simple minded.
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    The dumb shlags are hard to have a conversation with when they are simple minded.
    That's sort of the idea.
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    It really is a thing of luck tbh. I matched and went on MANY bad dates. And generally I thought tinder was just full of dicks too. But I met my boyfriend on there earlier this year, which was shocking for me as I really thought tinder was the WORST dating app. My brother met his fiancé on there too though. Another of my closest friends met her husband on OKCupid like 7 or 8 years ago too. It is possible to meet some really lovely, genuine people but...I can't blame you for wanting to stick to meeting guys IRL.
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    nah it's **** for me as well. I used to get hundreds of matches when I used tinder a couple years ago. Installed it again recently and I get hardly any now. And most of the girls I match with end up being weirdos lmao.

    I've had more success on facebook and TSR :lol: And real life ofcourse.
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    I have some very strong opinions on Tinder. IT'S DEFINITELY NOT FOR EVERYONE. And that includes me. Most of the people I've known have had it at one point.

    There is only one person I've ever known to get anything out of it, and that was a girl who was very open to both casual sex, and relationships. She was very good at weeding out ass hats (Somehow???!!?) and had a lot of hook ups, a terrible relationship and a successful relationship from it. But she was a very one in a million person.

    I've know men and women use if for ego boosts and it ended up either eventually (cannot stress the eventually enough) bringing them down, or ruining their relationships.

    Everything else about tinder is just obvious. It's full of ass hats with the occasional good person lost in there like a needle.
 
 
 
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