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Heartbreak Ruining My Uni Experience Watch

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    Hey. I've posted alot on here, so this will probably be my final relationship call for help.

    About 2 months ago, I cut a girl out of my life who I was obsessed with for 4-5 years (I'm 19). The reason I cut her out, is because she obviously didn't want to persue as more than friends, and I couldn't stand being just friends, which caused us to argue as i'd get jealous over her talking/ hanging out with other guys, when obviously that's none of my business.

    When I cut her out of my life, I posted on here, to which the advise I got was ''Give it time, Uni will help you get over her''. It's been 2 months, and she's literally ALL I think about. It's really unhealthy and I don't know what to do. I've got involved at Uni, met friends, joined clubs, which help a little, but the moment I come home and lie in bed, the memories that I had with this girl circle through my mind and I keep saying to myself ''If I acted this way we'd still be friends'' or ''If i acted like this we might be together'. Obviously love works two ways, and believing in destiny makes me realise this relationship won't EVER work, but i'm in Denial. The thought of never being with this girl or talking to her again plays through my mind in lessons to the point where i'll daydream in class and miss a ton of info (Also being in my foundation year at Uni, it's the year I should work my hardest).

    It's gotten that serious, that a part of me wish this girl never entered my life, or ever existed.

    (Note: When we were both 14, she was dating 20+ year olds so she's one of them girls, but I guess knowing her overtime increased my feelings).

    Thanks in advance for any help you give me

    lol i'm in the same position as you but it's been 15 months kmn

    From reading that, it seems to me that you already know what you need to do but for some reason you don't want to listen to yourself.
    I don't want to say too much about the age gap in her past relationships or the moralality of her previous boyfriends but surely that deters you from thinking about a potential relationship with her, right?
    There's not much people on here can say or do about your situation, it's up to you to get over it.
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