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    Hi all,

    I need some advice away from friends/family. Basically, I sometimes feel harassed by a colleague and need to tell them to leave me alone without causing friction in the workplace.
    I am female, as is she. We have worked together for around 5 years now. She is a a couple of years older (early 30's). When she first started, we didn't have much to do with each other, but then got chatting and got to know each other more. We didn't meet up outside of work for a long time, maybe a year or 2. Anyway, we have met up a few times now and although I enjoy her company, it can be very forced (on my part). I think there reason for this is we have very little in common. She's middle class, well educated with degrees. I'm not academic at all. Came from a big family, mum was a cleaner, dad was a HGV driver, money was tight etc. I'm a very family orientated person and would rather spend time with them or close friends at weekend. A few months back she was texting non-stop to the point where I had to tell management in work as it was getting really weird. Even though I wouldn't text back, I'd still receive goodnight texts etc. Anyway, things have quietened down somewhat but still getting hounded to meet up. I don't get it. Other work colleagues say I should be very wary as she is very manipulative which I have witnessed. I'm trying to keep my distance but also want to be straight and say I don't want to stay in touch outside of work, although it will be very awkward. Another thing is, she is in a relationship with a man, I am currently single and other people joke and say she is flirting and sounds like she believes our relationship is more than friends (she identifies as pan sexual)? How do I tell her to kindly **** off???
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    Please, **** off.
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    Raise it with your manager if it's really irritating you. There's probably something in your handbook about what to do if you're having problems with a work colleague. I'd also block her number.
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    "Can you stop talking to me please? 😐 Thanks."

    Then ignore her blatantly. Don't answer questions, don't look at her, don't smile. I promise it works.
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    now you listen here you little ***** , leave me alone or i'll escort you straight to hell
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    Just try and ignore it to avoid conflict at first. If it continues you can talk to her (try and be considerate and end it in a 'nice' way i.e. by saying you are too busy to meet or speak to management (more chance of eacalation but probably faster to get rid of her).
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi all,

    I need some advice away from friends/family. Basically, I sometimes feel harassed by a colleague and need to tell them to leave me alone without causing friction in the workplace.
    I am female, as is she. We have worked together for around 5 years now. She is a a couple of years older (early 30's). When she first started, we didn't have much to do with each other, but then got chatting and got to know each other more. We didn't meet up outside of work for a long time, maybe a year or 2. Anyway, we have met up a few times now and although I enjoy her company, it can be very forced (on my part). I think there reason for this is we have very little in common. She's middle class, well educated with degrees. I'm not academic at all. Came from a big family, mum was a cleaner, dad was a HGV driver, money was tight etc. I'm a very family orientated person and would rather spend time with them or close friends at weekend. A few months back she was texting non-stop to the point where I had to tell management in work as it was getting really weird. Even though I wouldn't text back, I'd still receive goodnight texts etc. Anyway, things have quietened down somewhat but still getting hounded to meet up. I don't get it. Other work colleagues say I should be very wary as she is very manipulative which I have witnessed. I'm trying to keep my distance but also want to be straight and say I don't want to stay in touch outside of work, although it will be very awkward. Another thing is, she is in a relationship with a man, I am currently single and other people joke and say she is flirting and sounds like she believes our relationship is more than friends (she identifies as pan sexual)? How do I tell her to kindly **** off???
    Thank you


    Pretty awkward situation, tbh I don't think it's possible to do without at least causing some hurt feelings and awkwardness

    maybe sit her down and explain to her that you like her as a person, but after hanging out with her multiple times outside of work you really feel you have nothing in common so would prefer to spend it with your long term friends with whom you have lots in common, and sorry if that has come out sounding harsh, but it is the way you feel...
 
 
 
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