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    So far uni has just been drinking and partying. this is even after freshers week. Ive been literally the only person to ACTUALLY been studying. Im
    not a partier or a drinker, Im someone who actually wants to do well in my career prospects. I feel like Im too intelligent and mature for my peers. :/


    I just feel like im 27 year old who has their head screwed on and everyones 16
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    Except many of these people drinking and partying will go onto achieve very good results, some of them firsts, many will also go on to be successful. Some people require far less study to do more. Others even if they need to study a lot, prefer to revise intensively during the periods coming up to exams. Others prefer to pace themselves out from the beginning of the year.

    Sorry but you aren't "too intelligent" or "too mature" because you don't have the same interests as everyone else. All I get from the fact you're judging an entire cohort of freshers because you think they aren't "taking it too seriously" is that you're judgemental and have a lot of misplaced arrogance. I thought most people grew out of their "I'm too clever, mature and sophisticated for my peers" mindset, but honestly given this website I'm not too sure anymore.

    There's nothing "immature" about partying, or drinking. Nothing is "immature" about having your own desired way to study. If in a couple years time you are the only person to do well in your university please contact me and tell me I was wrong. Until then, your options are 1) actually grow up and realise it's possible to be both clever, studious and enjoy partying, and people aren't below you for doing so, then start making friends. 2) Find someone else as mislead as you are, I'm sure there clubs and societies you can get involved in if you want to "fit in". Or 3) Continue living in your own bubble where you're better than everyone, because hey at least you'll feel good about yourself.
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    NAE - I can see where you are coming from and OP maybe you are a tad arrogant but I can relate somewhat here.

    All through secondary and even to some extent college I felt more 'mature' and often more intelligent than many of my peers. Not a statement of arrogance here but thats how I felt. At Uni I had extreme social anxiety and largely stayed in my room even though on some level I wanted to party and make friends.

    Looking back at the age of 36 I say for gawds sake make the most of the drinking and partying. Try not to compare yourself to others (which I used to bigtime) - learn to platonically love people for who they are - a skill thats only really starting to come for me but too late to have any impact at uni.

    Soon enough itll be second year and third year and even many of the party animals will be inside studying.

    Believe me, it is not a pleasant feeling to be older and that youve missed out on your youth. You have plenty of time for that. At 20 I felt in my sixties sometimes (my hobbies included BINGO! and canal walking! ) At 36 I sometimes feel 18 going to music festivals etc - its like my mental state has never quite been in synchrony with my age group. Enjoy being 18 when youre 18 because you can never quite get that back, last time I was at a music festival someone asked me 'wheres your wife and kids :eek:'
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    (Original post by APersonYo)
    So far uni has just been drinking and partying. this is even after freshers week. Ive been literally the only person to ACTUALLY been studying. Im
    not a partier or a drinker, Im someone who actually wants to do well in my career prospects. I feel like Im too intelligent and mature for my peers. :/


    I just feel like im 27 year old who has their head screwed on and everyones 16
    Most of those who drink and party care about uni work and career prospects. I personally adopt a work hard play hard attitude. During the first 1-2 weeks, you don't really need to study. Fresher's partying mood seems to go on for months, but at some point it will stop, everyone will be focusing on exams and you'll regret not having had fun, your stress levels may go up. I think we should enjoy our time at uni.
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    Except many of these people drinking and partying will go onto achieve very good results, some of them firsts, many will also go on to be successful. Some people require far less study to do more. Others even if they need to study a lot, prefer to revise intensively during the periods coming up to exams. Others prefer to pace themselves out from the beginning of the year.

    Sorry but you aren't "too intelligent" or "too mature" because you don't have the same interests as everyone else. All I get from the fact you're judging an entire cohort of freshers because you think they aren't "taking it too seriously" is that you're judgemental and have a lot of misplaced arrogance. I thought most people grew out of their "I'm too clever, mature and sophisticated for my peers" mindset, but honestly given this website I'm not too sure anymore.

    There's nothing "immature" about partying, or drinking. Nothing is "immature" about having your own desired way to study. If in a couple years time you are the only person to do well in your university please contact me and tell me I was wrong. Until then, your options are 1) actually grow up and realise it's possible to be both clever, studious and enjoy partying, and people aren't below you for doing so, then start making friends. 2) Find someone else as mislead as you are, I'm sure there clubs and societies you can get involved in if you want to "fit in". Or 3) Continue living in your own bubble where you're better than everyone, because hey at least you'll feel good about yourself.
    You're strange mate
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    (Original post by NamesAreEffort)
    Except many of these people drinking and partying will go onto achieve very good results, some of them firsts, many will also go on to be successful. Some people require far less study to do more. Others even if they need to study a lot, prefer to revise intensively during the periods coming up to exams. Others prefer to pace themselves out from the beginning of the year.

    Sorry but you aren't "too intelligent" or "too mature" because you don't have the same interests as everyone else. All I get from the fact you're judging an entire cohort of freshers because you think they aren't "taking it too seriously" is that you're judgemental and have a lot of misplaced arrogance. I thought most people grew out of their "I'm too clever, mature and sophisticated for my peers" mindset, but honestly given this website I'm not too sure anymore.

    There's nothing "immature" about partying, or drinking. Nothing is "immature" about having your own desired way to study. If in a couple years time you are the only person to do well in your university please contact me and tell me I was wrong. Until then, your options are 1) actually grow up and realise it's possible to be both clever, studious and enjoy partying, and people aren't below you for doing so, then start making friends. 2) Find someone else as mislead as you are, I'm sure there clubs and societies you can get involved in if you want to "fit in". Or 3) Continue living in your own bubble where you're better than everyone, because hey at least you'll feel good about yourself.
    I really don't think its through pure arrogance. I see the angle but to the person who feels this way (I relate to it) it feels as if you're all running a race and everyone gets on a bus and drives past you to the finish and you're left behind jogging the route.
    It isn't against the rules but you feel somewhat cheated. If an employer saw you and your colleague at freshers in the interview they would see who actually run the race and had the mindset.

    Props to those who can sail through life with no issues but weirdly sometimes I'd like them to show their obvious intelligence occasionally when they are keeping me up at 6:15 am vomiting up alcohol.
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    (Original post by APersonYo)
    You're strange mate
    And you're even stranger, mate
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    (Original post by APersonYo)
    So far uni has just been drinking and partying. this is even after freshers week. Ive been literally the only person to ACTUALLY been studying. Im
    not a partier or a drinker, Im someone who actually wants to do well in my career prospects. I feel like Im too intelligent and mature for my peers. :/


    I just feel like im 27 year old who has their head screwed on and everyones 16
    Why fit in when you're born to stand out? You do what YOU like. No one is pressuring you to do anything, and if you want to party you can.
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    Join some societies and try a few out. Usually there will only be drinking at specific social events and in general you can get by with no drinking and leavig early before people get drunk (if you want to). Sports teams can have a bit of a rep for drinking but there's no reason not to try some out as that's not universally true. More academic societies will likely have the more serious students in them so try those.

    If you think everyone is a party animal then you need to widen your net
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    As a 27 year old I'd like to say that I also don't drink much, mostly because I got bored of student clubs by the time I was 19. Makes socialising a bit tough but I'm trying societies out to fill the void (they tend to have socials in pubs instead of clubs which suits me).
    Still love to get rote off when I do drink though.

    If you think people in their 20s have their heads screwed on you're mistaken.
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    (Original post by APersonYo)
    So far uni has just been drinking and partying. this is even after freshers week. Ive been literally the only person to ACTUALLY been studying. Im
    not a partier or a drinker, Im someone who actually wants to do well in my career prospects. I feel like Im too intelligent and mature for my peers. :/


    I just feel like im 27 year old who has their head screwed on and everyones 16

    I feel the same at 19 lmao go to societies and try meet same type of people?
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    (Original post by NamesAreEffort)
    Except many of these people drinking and partying will go onto achieve very good results, some of them firsts, many will also go on to be successful. Some people require far less study to do more. Others even if they need to study a lot, prefer to revise intensively during the periods coming up to exams. Others prefer to pace themselves out from the beginning of the year.

    Sorry but you aren't "too intelligent" or "too mature" because you don't have the same interests as everyone else. All I get from the fact you're judging an entire cohort of freshers because you think they aren't "taking it too seriously" is that you're judgemental and have a lot of misplaced arrogance. I thought most people grew out of their "I'm too clever, mature and sophisticated for my peers" mindset, but honestly given this website I'm not too sure anymore.

    There's nothing "immature" about partying, or drinking. Nothing is "immature" about having your own desired way to study. If in a couple years time you are the only person to do well in your university please contact me and tell me I was wrong. Until then, your options are 1) actually grow up and realise it's possible to be both clever, studious and enjoy partying, and people aren't below you for doing so, then start making friends. 2) Find someone else as mislead as you are, I'm sure there clubs and societies you can get involved in if you want to "fit in". Or 3) Continue living in your own bubble where you're better than everyone, because hey at least you'll feel good about yourself.
    This is a bit harsh tbh.

    Im similar with OP so i can understand what they mean. I dont drink or party either, this doesnt mean i think those who does are immature. I simply have no interest in that, I rather just get straight on with the work.
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    You seem arrogant. It's funny because as mentioned, a lot of those people who are partying/drinking will achieve better results than you. Sorry, but that's reality.

    I also dislike the drinking and partying aspect of university, but different folks like different things. That's life. Everyone else cares about their career prospects - it's just that they want to have fun too. University isn't just studying.
 
 
 
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