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    Hi, I am a girl. So my best friend got a girlfriend, his first girlfriend. When he got with her I noticed he no longer had any interest in our friendship and only texted me occasionally when he felt guilty for not keeping in contact as we usually spoke everyday. I told him how I felt and nothing changed and I felt rubbish about it as he was the only real friend I had. I jokingly said he didn’t need my number anymore thinking he would maybe fight for the friendship if he truly cared. He never replied and we haven’t spoken for months now. Was he only my friend because he was lonely and depressed? I am glad he is happy and I have always supported him and his relationships. What do you think?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Hi, I am a girl. So my best friend got a girlfriend, his first girlfriend. When he got with her I noticed he no longer had any interest in our friendship and only texted me occasionally when he felt guilty for not keeping in contact as we usually spoke everyday. I told him how I felt and nothing changed and I felt rubbish about it as he was the only real friend I had. I jokingly said he didn’t need my number anymore thinking he would maybe fight for the friendship if he truly cared. He never replied and we haven’t spoken for months now. Was he only my friend because he was lonely and depressed? I am glad he is happy and I have always supported him and his relationships. What do you think?
    I think that now he has a girlfriend he has matured and moved on - people change and maybe he feels like he doesn't want to be your friend anymore. It is upsetting i know but it happens - i would just try to leave it as it has been months now. He probably was really grateful to you being his friend but now he has his girlfriend and obviously their bond will be stronger - and i mean this in the nicest way possible - he feels that he no longer needs your friendship.
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    Another possibility is that his girlfriend doesn't want him to be friends with you because she might think he will cheat or whatever which I have to admit is very selfish and insecure of her but this happens too
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    He'l message you again after they break up lol
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    I think that now he has a girlfriend he has matured and moved on - people change and maybe he feels like he doesn't want to be your friend anymore. It is upsetting i know but it happens - i would just try to leave it as it has been months now. He probably was really grateful to you being his friend but now he has his girlfriend and obviously their bond will be stronger - and i mean this in the nicest way possible - he feels that he no longer needs your friendship.
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    Another possibility is that his girlfriend doesn't want him to be friends with you because she might think he will cheat or whatever which I have to admit is very selfish and insecure of her but this happens too
    That’s fair I am sad to be honest how he could just drop a friend like that! I just feel like he never cared if he could just do that.

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    He'l message you again after they break up lol
    He’ll get nout from me, hahaha
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    That’s fair I am sad to be honest how he could just drop a friend like that! I just feel like he never cared if he could just do that.
    I know and I completely understand - a best friend of mine dropped me last year and I have learnt that she did care about me but the friendship was easy to let go - I have long since lost contact with her and she now goes to a different school but I am so much happier with the friends I have now - I barely think about her.
    I have to admit it took me a while to come to that conclusion and I feel it may be harder for you but sometimes, it does just happen unfortunately x
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    sorry but it’s probably his girlfriend lmao i know from personal experience from my friends what they are like w their boyfriends&its not cute
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