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    Hello,
    Long story short it’s my friends birthday night out on Thursday and she has asked me to come out with her. She’s invited 3 of her other friends which 2 I have not met before but I bet they are nice and 1 girl I attended college with 2 years ago with my other friend who’s birthday it is. Me and this girl got on well throughout college although I felt a bit left out the whole year due to them being ‘best mates’ anyway since then my birthday mate has moved 200 miles away and she’s coming home to celebrate her birthday and get all her friends together. I understand that, although when we left college me and her friend were on good terms as far as I know then one day she blocked me on Instagram and blocked me from her snapchat story. When I see her she ignores me yet says to my other friend she doesn’t have a problem. We are having pre drinks at her friends house and I just feel awkward to go there and even spend the night with her. My friend who’s birthday it is says ‘it will be as awkward as you make it’ and that her friend doesn’t have a problem me going to hers for pre drinks.
    I’m just feeling a little uncomfortable. I don’t know the other girls and the other one is fake as **** and pretend to like me when she really doesn’t. I don’t want my friend to be upset that I didn’t attend her birthday night out and probably give the other friend what ‘she wants’ by not going. At the same time I feel my friend is being a bit selfish by revolving her whole birthday night round having pre drinks at her mates and going to all the clubs her friends want to go when she knows I’m gonna be uncomfortable, she doesn’t care basically.
    What I’m trying to ask is if you was in this situation, would you go?
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    (Original post by louisepurple8)
    Hello,
    Long story short it’s my friends birthday night out on Thursday and she has asked me to come out with her. She’s invited 3 of her other friends which 2 I have not met before but I bet they are nice and 1 girl I attended college with 2 years ago with my other friend who’s birthday it is. Me and this girl got on well throughout college although I felt a bit left out the whole year due to them being ‘best mates’ anyway since then my birthday mate has moved 200 miles away and she’s coming home to celebrate her birthday and get all her friends together. I understand that, although when we left college me and her friend were on good terms as far as I know then one day she blocked me on Instagram and blocked me from her snapchat story. When I see her she ignores me yet says to my other friend she doesn’t have a problem. We are having pre drinks at her friends house and I just feel awkward to go there and even spend the night with her. My friend who’s birthday it is says ‘it will be as awkward as you make it’ and that her friend doesn’t have a problem me going to hers for pre drinks.
    I’m just feeling a little uncomfortable. I don’t know the other girls and the other one is fake as **** and pretend to like me when she really doesn’t. I don’t want my friend to be upset that I didn’t attend her birthday night out and probably give the other friend what ‘she wants’ by not going. At the same time I feel my friend is being a bit selfish by revolving her whole birthday night round having pre drinks at her mates and going to all the clubs her friends want to go when she knows I’m gonna be uncomfortable, she doesn’t care basically.
    What I’m trying to ask is if you was in this situation, would you go?
    Just have a thick skin and make the best of it. Talk to the other friends and be polite. If the other person doenst have a problem then take her at her work and just be polite. If you decide not to go then it just gives ammunition that you are the problem. Its only one night. Focus on the others and be patient. You might even have a good time.
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    It depends how much you care about your friend. She likes them.
    But don’t go if you’re going to spoil it
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    (Original post by 999tigger)
    Just have a thick skin and make the best of it. Talk to the other friends and be polite. If the other person doenst have a problem then take her at her work and just be polite. If you decide not to go then it just gives ammunition that you are the problem. Its only one night. Focus on the others and be patient. You might even have a good time.
    That’s what I mean. I don’t want them to think I’m the problem when deep down she’s the one that has had the problem with me. All through college my friend always put me second best to this friend and she hasn’t really been that great of a friend since she left and moved. I’ve seen her twice since December last year. I just feel like my friend likes the slight drama between me and her friend. I don’t know I want to go but at the same time I don’t want to feel uncomfortable.
    And by her saying ‘it’s going to be as awkward as you make it’ is a little unfair as I never created this situation as her friend was the one that blocked me and everything.
 
 
 
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