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One guy I just dont get along with...

The guy I'm talking about uses this site for work and might see my username and realise hes getting to me. PLEASE dont de-anon this.

I have a small group of friends who I talk to outside of school. I'm an 18 year old hardworking guy and I do like a bit of a social break now and again.

The thing is, I had a problem with my ex a few months back and now we dont talk. (I dont speak to her OR her friends). I dont want to talk to her either. She likes to influence people in my school not to talk to me.

Anyways, one of these guys she started talking to has recently become quite friendly with my friends. He doesnt like me and has made this evident. He never invites me round his house and recently my friends spend most of their time there while I sit at home.

Whenever I phone them up, they say "Oh we're around ****'s house." I know theyre never going to invite me because the guy doesnt like me.

I would never let him round my house either.

It just feels like hes stolen my friends? They've gone out for his MATES birthday today to a club and I'm not invited (obviously). I'm just sitting at home getting bored. I cant believe how things have turned out...

Reply 1

Natasha X

10

awwww i wish i could help you but the only thing i can say is, if your friends deserted you to go to that party, then they are not really your freinds, why dont you go out and meet new people, make other friends and stuff.

Reply 2

Anonymous #1

OP

Natasha X

awwww i wish i could help you but the only thing i can say is, if your friends deserted you to go to that party, then they are not really your freinds, why dont you go out and meet new people, make other friends and stuff.

He is a really nice guy though. I've spoken to a mate about it and he told me that he likes him and that I should sort things out with him.

I find it difficult to do this when he fancies my ex :rolleyes:

Argh, so annoying :frown:

Reply 3

Anonymous #1

OP

MSB

Not talking to, or avoiding, someone is never a constructive thing to do.
It seems to me that you're happy to block other people, but are complaining now that it's happening to you.

Manners were created so you can talk and get on with someone you hate.

You say 'stolen my friends' as if they're your possessions...

I apologise for being so damning, but the root of your problems seems to be with yourself and your attitude to others. You'll never have fun like this.

The first step is to return to speaking terms to your ex and her friends. If they continue to do not speak to you, that's their loss and you are the better person. If they do, the problem is being resolved. Either way, you can't lose. Then, you can start on this person. Once the issue with your ex is resolved, surely there's no cause for trouble with anyone else.

Agreed. But hes said some pretty mean stuff to me/about me and I dont even know the guy properly.

My ex = no go area. We stopped being "friends" for a while and recently stopped speaking alltoghether because of something she did. I had to go make new friends (I used to hang out with my ex + her friends before). Now I've done that, its like theyre going away as well.

My life sucks :frown:

Reply 4

username47781

20

So you are saying your life sucks just because one person doesn't talk to you?

Reply 5

Anonymous #1

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Rock Fan

So you are saying your life sucks just because one person doesn't talk to you?

I'm saying it sucks because everytime I try to make friends, somehow my ex steals them.

I know theyre not possessions but its the only way of describing it. This has happened before. I became really good friends with this girl and just as I was about to ask her out...she ended up going on a school holiday and becoming best friends with my ex, henceforth me losing her.

I find it hard to make friends because I am quite a quiet guy. It just seems like I cant hang out with my mates because theyre always round his house.

Sorry for sounding like a spoilsport.

Reply 6

randdom

20

The only thing that I can recomend is that you step up and be the bigger man. Invite all your friends and this guy over to your house. This way if he says no it is him who is being childish etc. Talk to you friends about the way that you are feeling and say that you would just like to do things as a group (including him). If they really are you friends they will do their best to make you happier. It is hard to sort these things out and you don't give information about what your ex did but couldn't you talk to the guy and try to work it out?

Reply 7

Anonymous #1

OP

MSB

It sucks only if you judge it by your friends, which is petty and superficial.

If he's said mean things without even knowing you, thats his problem. Think about how you're behaving.

Have you talked to your friends about this guy?

No. Because theyd probably think I'm jealous as hes very close to my ex. I dont want to seem jealous, I dont even like my ex.

Hes also really nice to all of them. Just very mean to me.

Reply 8

Anonymous #1

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MSB

Don't worry about what they think - you have a problem with something, there's nothing wrong with wanting to resolve it.

Perhaps. I just dont want to tell him and act really proetective of him.

They really like him. I agree with the inviting everyone round part. I actually tried doing that recently (inviting a LOT of people) but he didnt turn up.

He just doesnt like me I guess.

Reply 9

jonny0679

9

just give him a good hard crack n let him know what you are about mate, chances are his attitude will change

One guy I just dont get along with...

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