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    (Original post by ChickenMadness)
    Most girls do this though tbf.





    ^ that
    I don't. I find my cruelty to tell it like it is to actually be a mercy, as I'm being honest. The OP is just feeding his ego by dragging this out. No respect from me. 😤
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    crazy right?

    she's in the year below me, we haven't actually met in person, instead a mutual friend put us in contact. she lives like a 40min train ride away I think?

    ANYWAYS, last year she was gonna invite me to her prom until she found out I had a gf, then blocked me on the basis that she didn't want any distractions- according to her.

    jump to now, I broke up with my gf and now this girl's talking to me again. i try and keep things friendly- giving advice on her school and stuff, since I basically went through everything she's going through now. but she always sends me flirty snaps/messages. she's nice and all, but not rly my type.

    do I like the attention? sure who doesn't. but it's unfair on her, especially if she thinks it's gonna turn into anything more than a friendship. at the same time, I don't wanna kill her spirit and be like "I am NOT INTERESTED IN YOU"

    idk I'm very confused on how to handle this situation.

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    This guy: Hey so I wanted to talk to you about something yeah

    Her: Sure babe, go ahead :lovehug:

    This guy: Well I hate to break this to you, but I like you as a friend, I don't think us getting together is a great idea...

    Her: Ermmm what in the friggin world are you talking about?

    This guy: Well, you've been flirty with me all this while and I thought you should know I really don't have any feelings for you

    Her: LOL, you're my friend, and those aren't flirty messages honey, I always talk to my friends like that :erm: I've got a boyfriend and we've been together since we erupted from Mama Bear's "vagene" :console:

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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    This guy: Hey so I wanted to talk to you about something yeah

    Her: Sure babe, go ahead :lovehug:

    This guy: Well I hate to break this to you, but I like you as a friend, I don't think us getting together is a great idea...

    Her: Ermmm what in the friggin world are you talking about?

    This guy: Well, you've been flirty with me all this while and I thought you should know I really don't have any feelings for you

    Her: LOL, you're my friend, and those aren't flirty messages honey, I always talk to my friends like that :erm: I've got a boyfriend and we've been together since we erupted from Mama Bear's "vagene" :console:

    This guy:

    https://media.tenor.com/images/ebb3b...240a/tenor.gif
    Is that from a tv show?
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      reply after like one year.That would make her forget u
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      I wish i had this problem instead i keep getting wierd messages late at night from a guy who im pretty sure died like at least 5 years ago heres his profile pic
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      Just reply to her late. Don't open her messages. She should get the message. If she doesn't, then you need to go and tell her straight up. Besides, it won't hurt her that much considering she distanced herself from you first which means she can do it again.
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      (Original post by y.u.mad.bro?)
      Just reply to her late. Don't open her messages. She should get the message. If she doesn't, then you need to go and tell her straight up. Besides, it won't hurt her that much considering she distanced herself from you first which means she can do it again.
      That's stupid, tell her outright, or she'll think she's getting mixed signals and will get confused
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      (Original post by Anonymous)
      crazy right?

      she's in the year below me, we haven't actually met in person, instead a mutual friend put us in contact. she lives like a 40min train ride away I think?

      ANYWAYS, last year she was gonna invite me to her prom until she found out I had a gf, then blocked me on the basis that she didn't want any distractions- according to her.

      jump to now, I broke up with my gf and now this girl's talking to me again. i try and keep things friendly- giving advice on her school and stuff, since I basically went through everything she's going through now. but she always sends me flirty snaps/messages. she's nice and all, but not rly my type.

      do I like the attention? sure who doesn't. but it's unfair on her, especially if she thinks it's gonna turn into anything more than a friendship. at the same time, I don't wanna kill her spirit and be like "I am NOT INTERESTED IN YOU"

      idk I'm very confused on how to handle this situation.

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      My advise is have a small chat and tell her where you are and that it won't go further. I have a great friend that I'm really close. I used to fancy her and told her. Hearing "no" was really hard but she didn't play games. and that made it much easier to stay friends. I don't fancy her anymore but I reckon if she had played games it would have been super hard

      Tell her. It'll help you both. If you lose her, its for the best. If she stays, you've kept a friend
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      Just slowly fade. Take a little longer to reply to her. Sometimes don’t reply (but not too often). Just make the changes gradual so she thinks she’s the one ending when she eventually gets tired of chasing you. It works-I’ve done it to guys before.
      ***one guy told everyone that he dumped me (even though we never dated-it was slightly similar to this only he was the year above and went to my school and lol no promposal or blocking ) I went along with it because I didn’t really give a sh*t I mean I was sparing his feelings but anyway life goes on. So yeah this generally works but just beware that she isn’t the type to make up lies about you
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      (Original post by iivwsk)
      That's stupid, tell her outright, or she'll think she's getting mixed signals and will get confused
      Distancing yourself from someone is the best way to indicate you aren't interested in them without directly saying it.
     
     
     
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