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    A good female friend of mine recently had a birthday party in a city in France where I use to live and how I know my friend. I moved away a year ago to go back to the UK where I'm from so this has been the first time seeing her face to face since I've gone.

    I have a lot of other friends there too so I wasn't always with her, when I did eventually see her she hardly spoke to me because she was at the other end of the table where her boyfriend said to sit, I do know her other friends as I only there to see her how see is doing. Now I have to explain that I was the last person she slept with before they got together but we were only friend as I always knew I would be returning to the UK so a romantic relationship was never.

    I could tell that her boyfriend didn't want there so he avoided me with her, if I approached to say hello he would pull her away. The day after the party we were supposed to meet at hers just for a catch up but was cancelled because she had to go her boyfriends house even though she can see him any day and I was only in country/city for a few days. She turned very rude towards me and I know it's because of before with her but I really don't care she has boyfriend as just friends. Clearly he threatened by me.

    Basically why I'm posting this is what shall I do? I want see my friend but her boyfriend is blocking me. I don't like the way she is being treated but I if I step in seem like I'm jealous which I'm not just concerned about as a friend. Can you please give me some advice thank you
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    (Original post by LonelyDemon)
    A good female friend of mine recently had a birthday party in a city in France where I use to live and how I know my friend. I moved away a year ago to go back to the UK where I'm from so this has been the first time seeing her face to face since I've gone.

    I have a lot of other friends there too so I wasn't always with her, when I did eventually see her she hardly spoke to me because she was at the other end of the table where her boyfriend said to sit, I do know her other friends as I only there to see her how see is doing. Now I have to explain that I was the last person she slept with before they got together but we were only friend as I always knew I would be returning to the UK so a romantic relationship was never.

    I could tell that her boyfriend didn't want there so he avoided me with her, if I approached to say hello he would pull her away. The day after the party we were supposed to meet at hers just for a catch up but was cancelled because she had to go her boyfriends house even though she can see him any day and I was only in country/city for a few days. She turned very rude towards me and I know it's because of before with her but I really don't care she has boyfriend as just friends. Clearly he threatened by me.

    Basically why I'm posting this is what shall I do? I want see my friend but her boyfriend is blocking me. I don't like the way she is being treated but I if I step in seem like I'm jealous which I'm not just concerned about as a friend. Can you please give me some advice thank you
    The boyfriend probably knows about your history and feels jealous or threatened by it. If she is also being rude to you though, then maybe it's not just him? Maybe she just doesn't feel the same way about you anymore and didn't want to see you
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    lol she's not a prisoner. She can contact you if she wants.
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    (Original post by LonelyDemon)
    A good female friend of mine recently had a birthday party in a city in France where I use to live and how I know my friend. I moved away a year ago to go back to the UK where I'm from so this has been the first time seeing her face to face since I've gone.

    I have a lot of other friends there too so I wasn't always with her, when I did eventually see her she hardly spoke to me because she was at the other end of the table where her boyfriend said to sit, I do know her other friends as I only there to see her how see is doing. Now I have to explain that I was the last person she slept with before they got together but we were only friend as I always knew I would be returning to the UK so a romantic relationship was never.

    I could tell that her boyfriend didn't want there so he avoided me with her, if I approached to say hello he would pull her away. The day after the party we were supposed to meet at hers just for a catch up but was cancelled because she had to go her boyfriends house even though she can see him any day and I was only in country/city for a few days. She turned very rude towards me and I know it's because of before with her but I really don't care she has boyfriend as just friends. Clearly he threatened by me.

    Basically why I'm posting this is what shall I do? I want see my friend but her boyfriend is blocking me. I don't like the way she is being treated but I if I step in seem like I'm jealous which I'm not just concerned about as a friend. Can you please give me some advice thank you


    Sorry but given your history you can't exactly blame the guy

    obviously man doesn't wanna end up cucked..
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    (Original post by ANM775)
    Sorry but given your history you can't exactly blame the guy

    obviously man doesn't wanna end up cucked..
    If you feel the need to forcibly impose yourself between your partner and the other fifty-percent of the population in order to ward off 'involuntary' acts of infidelity, then at least one of you ****ing sucks at relationships.
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    (Original post by Profesh)
    If you feel the need to forcibly impose yourself between your partner and the other fifty-percent of the population in order to ward off 'involuntary' acts of infidelity, then at least one of you ****ing sucks at relationships.


    Does a male lion let his lioness galavant about in the Savanna with other males?


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    btw I wasn't talking about the 50% of the male population in my last post, I was talking about the OP, the guy she had previously been ****ing
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    I wasn't trying to do anything with her and she invited me to be there so must still see as a friend, convincing her boyfriend that i'm not going do anything is hard. Its just dumb that i'm losing a friendship over something that to me shouldn't matter.
 
 
 
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