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    Hi there, I just wanted to share a few thoughts to see if others feel the same. I'm personally struggling a lot with
    settling in at university. I'm studying teaching and now 3 weeks in and still haven't made any good friends. My
    course is predominantly girls, many of which live on campus and have known eachother a long time before me.
    They all act very stuck up and snobby whenever anyone else says even hello, and I'm not really fond of the idea of
    Making friends with people like that.


    It also feels that for the money, the cost of university for the same stuff every lecture gets really old and boring.
    Reading off power points and having no real discussion makes me wonder what I'm in debt for. I can't move to
    Campus because I'm a carer for my mother and alongside university I am a manager in a supermarket... fair to say
    I have my hands full. I was hoping I would receive a lot more help from university, but the student life centre are
    Incredibly rude and seem to only be interested in students who live on campus. My family are very poor, and I pay
    Our rent and bills out of my own pocket, yet I'm not seen to be in need of help as I supposedly have a cosy life at
    Home? ( far from it! )

    I've really been considering leaving, but to achieve a degree would be incredible, and that is the only thing keeping
    Me going throughout my struggles. I just wish people and the uni were much more supportive and the student
    Union weren't so political and unfriendly that societies are even hard to join! ( I was called a prick for not wanting
    To join the labour student party as I rather not the stress of politics while studying!! )

    What are others experiences with unfriendly university's/people and how do you manage your personal life
    Around the work loads of university?
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    honestly, just leave.

    It's not worth the stress or pain and depression

    In a decade robots will replace about 50% of jobs anyway.
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    I can relate to how you feel but hold in there, it's only been 3 weeks! I know people that didn't make good friends until their second year. You seem like a hardworker, put effort into you degree, aim high and try to succeed in life.
    I remember when I first started my course I had doubts for a few months but over a year on i feel very settled. Give it time and don't stress yourself out. Try and put yourself out there a bit.
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    (Original post by Acend1992)
    honestly, just leave.

    It's not worth the stress or pain and depression

    In a decade robots will replace about 50% of jobs anyway.
    Robots replacing teachers sounds cool. Computers are half way there anyway!

    I've been thinking about it, I just know this is something I want! Robots teaching in classrooms does sound pretty cool!
    (Original post by Sara_t)
    I can relate to how you feel but hold in there, it's only been 3 weeks! I know people that didn't make good friends until their second year. You seem like a hardworker, put effort into you degree, aim high and try to succeed in life.
    I remember when I first started my course I had doubts for a few months but over a year on i feel very settled. Give it time and don't stress yourself out. Try and put yourself out there a bit.
    It's nice to hear someone else has experienced this, I've started to speak to one person more often now, hard when you have anxiety! I am holding on for now, just find it difficult to motivate myself some days that the debt is worth it!
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    (Original post by iTiamatria)
    Hi there, I just wanted to share a few thoughts to see if others feel the same. I'm personally struggling a lot with
    settling in at university. I'm studying teaching and now 3 weeks in and still haven't made any good friends. My
    course is predominantly girls, many of which live on campus and have known eachother a long time before me.
    They all act very stuck up and snobby whenever anyone else says even hello, and I'm not really fond of the idea of
    Making friends with people like that.


    It also feels that for the money, the cost of university for the same stuff every lecture gets really old and boring.
    Reading off power points and having no real discussion makes me wonder what I'm in debt for. I can't move to
    Campus because I'm a carer for my mother and alongside university I am a manager in a supermarket... fair to say
    I have my hands full. I was hoping I would receive a lot more help from university, but the student life centre are
    Incredibly rude and seem to only be interested in students who live on campus. My family are very poor, and I pay
    Our rent and bills out of my own pocket, yet I'm not seen to be in need of help as I supposedly have a cosy life at
    Home? ( far from it! )

    I've really been considering leaving, but to achieve a degree would be incredible, and that is the only thing keeping
    Me going throughout my struggles. I just wish people and the uni were much more supportive and the student
    Union weren't so political and unfriendly that societies are even hard to join! ( I was called a prick for not wanting
    To join the labour student party as I rather not the stress of politics while studying!! )

    What are others experiences with unfriendly university's/people and how do you manage your personal life
    Around the work loads of university?

    honestly i wish i never went

    the course was horrible and so were all the teachers

    the student union was very unhelpful and the societies never did anything and it was very hard to socialise let alone make any decent friends.

    everyone at campus never talked to each other, no events ever took place, everyone was into their own lives..

    everyone from the course was ignorant and were only there to get a degree so they could go into their career and work like slaves
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    (Original post by study beats)
    honestly i wish i never went

    the course was horrible and so were all the teachers

    the student union was very unhelpful and the societies never did anything and it was very hard to socialise let alone make any decent friends.

    everyone at campus never talked to each other, no events ever took place, everyone was into their own lives..

    everyone from the course was ignorant and were only there to get a degree so they could go into their career and work like slaves
    Same boat I feel I am in then! Needing a degree to teach sucks, there are some nice societies but its the people that spoil it! I'm sorry to hear your experience wasn't great at all!
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    Stick with it. If you dropped out, all you would have is a job at a supermarket. Having a degree opens the doors out of poverty.
    Speak to student finance for a loan or go back to the student life centre for help till they give it to you.
    Scholarships and bursaries can be found online for a bit for help too.
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    Should your mum not be eligible for benefits in her situation? I don't understand why you have to pay the bills - that's really unfair and pretty ludicrous. In my experience, you often have to scream and shout in order to get help. Does your GP know about your situation? I don't know for sure, but there must be more support out there for you. You may also be eligible for hardship grants at uni- god knows you have enough to contend with.

    I have severe social anxiety and I've had to soften my attitude a bit. It's easy to feel like people are against you, but sometimes you view life through a negative lens if you're feeling miserable or stressed...I'm still struggling with that myself. I hope that doesn't sound patronising or preachy. There's bound to be more help available in your situation and it's very early days. Keep saying hello and smiling at people - connections will happen, even if most of them are fairly superficial.
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    (Original post by iTiamatria)
    Hi there, I just wanted to share a few thoughts to see if others feel the same. I'm personally struggling a lot with
    settling in at university. I'm studying teaching and now 3 weeks in and still haven't made any good friends. My
    course is predominantly girls, many of which live on campus and have known eachother a long time before me.
    They all act very stuck up and snobby whenever anyone else says even hello, and I'm not really fond of the idea of
    Making friends with people like that.


    It also feels that for the money, the cost of university for the same stuff every lecture gets really old and boring.
    Reading off power points and having no real discussion makes me wonder what I'm in debt for. I can't move to
    Campus because I'm a carer for my mother and alongside university I am a manager in a supermarket... fair to say
    I have my hands full. I was hoping I would receive a lot more help from university, but the student life centre are
    Incredibly rude and seem to only be interested in students who live on campus. My family are very poor, and I pay
    Our rent and bills out of my own pocket, yet I'm not seen to be in need of help as I supposedly have a cosy life at
    Home? ( far from it! )

    I've really been considering leaving, but to achieve a degree would be incredible, and that is the only thing keeping
    Me going throughout my struggles. I just wish people and the uni were much more supportive and the student
    Union weren't so political and unfriendly that societies are even hard to join! ( I was called a prick for not wanting
    To join the labour student party as I rather not the stress of politics while studying!! )

    What are others experiences with unfriendly university's/people and how do you manage your personal life
    Around the work loads of university?
    Uni study is as you described it’s all self learning, it’s a library card and a slide show.

    People go for the piece of paper you get at the end.

    As for making friends, well it’s nice but you’re too busy with work, caring and study anyway so who cares
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    No one is entitled to have a great time at uni. Don’t bother with negative people, find own friends, if can’t work on yourself - study harder, go gym, read proper ‘life changing’ books, learn a language, meditate just do productive ****
 
 
 
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