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    I'm gay myself, and it really bothers me when someone I know describes themselves as gay but they are really bisexual. It doesn't seem to bother any of my friends.

    I can't be the only one out there
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    Yes as Gay can be seen as an umbrella term which bisexual comes under
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    Yes as Gay can be seen as an umbrella term which bisexual comes under
    I just don't see how its an umbrella term. Its an identity in its own right. A bisexual would never call themselves straight, so why should they be able to say they are gay?
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    A person can label themselves as whatever they want, without the judgement of others. Isn't that what the fight is for anyways?
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    I'm gay myself, and it really bothers me when someone I know describes themselves as gay but they are really bisexual. It doesn't seem to bother any of my friends.

    I can't be the only one out there
    I'm gay and it doesn't bother me at all. Some bi people are mostly attracted to the same sex and only slightly to the opposite sex, some are equally attracted to both, whatever. For example my friend is bi but she is attracted to femininity (in both men and women).

    Honestly I think it's sometimes just easier for bi people to say they're gay sometimes than to have to go through the constant explaining of what bisexuality is, the arguments about whether it's real, and being asked to have threesomes constantly, I really can't blame them.

    Tl;dr - Certified Gay™ here, y'all can all call yourselves whatever tf you want.
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    (Original post by LRxS)
    I'm gay and it doesn't bother me at all. Some bi people are mostly attracted to the same sex and only slightly to the opposite sex, some are equally attracted to both, whatever. For example my friend is bi but she is attracted to femininity (in both men and women).

    Honestly I think it's sometimes just easier for bi people to say they're gay sometimes than to have to go through the constant explaining of what bisexuality is, the arguments about whether it's real, and being asked to have threesomes constantly, I really can't blame them.

    Tl;dr - Certified Gay™ here, y'all can all call yourselves whatever tf you want.
    Is there really anyone who doesn't know what bisexuality is? idk about you but it really grinds my gears when someone asks me if I really am gay or just saying that because im really bisexual because of all these bisexuals claiming they are gay
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    Is there really anyone who doesn't know what bisexuality is? idk about you but it really grinds my gears when someone asks me if I really am gay or just saying that because im really bisexual because of all these bisexuals claiming they are gay
    Honestly get over it... bi erasure is a hugely problematic thing. You can always say "no I'm totally gay" and it's sorted there. People who ask you aren't asking because they've met 400 "gay bisexuals", they're asking to clarify. People can label themselves however they want; you thinking it's problematic doesn't take away their right to express themselves freely.
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    To be honest, the only time it bothers me when someone uses a label is when they are obviously doing it to be cool, trendy or unique.

    I call myself gay. I have vague attractions to guys, so technically I am bi, but I feel like if I'm not going to be dating guys or loudly obsessing over them, then it won't really make a difference. If I'm not into 99.9% of guys I meet, it's easier to tell them I'm gay if they wonder why I'm not interested.

    Sexuality is fluid anyway.
 
 
 
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