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    As title. I feel so depressed right now. I got an entry level job recently and although I am ok at it (I've made a number of mistakes) I don't want to be doing it in 10 or even 5 years time.

    I spoke to my mum and she asked what I want to do, that's the problem, I suck at pretty much everything. I can't write essays/reports well, I'm not good socially, I'm ok with computers but nothing no one else couldn't google to find the answer, my maths is really, reallly bad and on top I have severe mental health problems.

    I got a 2:2 at university in a subject that doesn't lead anywhere (politics) and I recently dropped out of a more vocational second degree because it was too hard and I couldn't concentrate/remember the material.

    I feel like such a ****ing loser, failure, pathetic piece of trash. I'm crying right now I just feel so worthless and crap.
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    (Original post by Anonymous)
    As title. I feel so depressed right now. I got an entry level job recently and although I am ok at it (I've made a number of mistakes) I don't want to be doing it in 10 or even 5 years time.

    I spoke to my mum and she asked what I want to do, that's the problem, I suck at pretty much everything. I can't write essays/reports well, I'm not good socially, I'm ok with computers but nothing no one else couldn't google to find the answer, my maths is really, reallly bad and on top I have severe mental health problems.

    I got a 2:2 at university in a subject that doesn't lead anywhere (politics) and I recently dropped out of a more vocational second degree because it was too hard and I couldn't concentrate/remember the material.

    I feel like such a ****ing loser, failure, pathetic piece of trash. I'm crying right now I just feel so worthless and crap.
    I think you are way too hard on yourself. What you have achieved is good and the more you tell yourself you can't do a thing, you won't be able to. You seem like you have low self esteem which really hinders a person from achieving their actual potential in life. I know how that feels, maybe getting some help or guidance from a professional may help? Regarding what to do for a career, what is best to do is find who you really are as a person and then you will find what you want out of life and what you want to be career-wise. All this comes from having self-belief. once you figure out what you are interested in maybe you could check out a careers guidance centre or even look up courses available at uni or tech in an area you like! A lot of courses and things in tech like apprenticeships are so underrated it's worth to check them out too it's easy for me to sit and give advice but know that there is always help and support out there. Well done on your degree, some employers like taking on graduates from a wide range of disciplines - just start to do more research in job areas that you think you would enjoy. Good luck.
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    Talk to a psychologist and work on your confidence. See the positive things. You earn money, you have a loving family etc.
    It's not easy to find something you like. Most people do jobs that they don't like. What do you like? Maybe graphic design/interior? Sports? Art? What do you do in your free time? Choose something that suits your interests.
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    I think you are way too hard on yourself. What you have achieved is good and the more you tell yourself you can't do a thing, you won't be able to. You seem like you have low self esteem which really hinders a person from achieving their actual potential in life. I know how that feels, maybe getting some help or guidance from a professional may help? Regarding what to do for a career, what is best to do is find who you really are as a person and then you will find what you want out of life and what you want to be career-wise. All this comes from having self-belief. once you figure out what you are interested in maybe you could check out a careers guidance centre or even look up courses available at uni or tech in an area you like! A lot of courses and things in tech like apprenticeships are so underrated it's worth to check them out too it's easy for me to sit and give advice but know that there is always help and support out there. Well done on your degree, some employers like taking on graduates from a wide range of disciplines - just start to do more research in job areas that you think you would enjoy. Good luck.
    I've had a few different ideas over my life of what I wanted to do but my mental health has got in the way of each thing leaving me lost. It's taken so much from me. I don't even really have hobbies or anything - politics used to interest me but my time at univerity was hell so I stay away, I like pc games but most of them require too much concentration and coordination and with the medication I was on that was just impossible. I feel like I'll never get anywhere because I fail at everything I try. I am almost 50k in debt with no chance of paying it back and not enough savings of my own to try again at uni plus I'm too thick and can't think properly so I'd just fail at that again. Anything I think I would enjoy I can't do. Tried the uni careers centre when I was there and tbh they weren't much help. I just feel so depressed that I see myself stuck in this dead end job my whole life because I'm too crap at everything to do anything else. I'm astounded I even got this job tbh with a 2:2 and terrible sociAL skills.

    I'm sorry it sounds like i've totally ignored your advice. I appreciate you trying, really.
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    (Original post by elisabeth1)
    Talk to a psychologist and work on your confidence. See the positive things. You earn money, you have a loving family etc.
    It's not easy to find something you like. Most people do jobs that they don't like. What do you like? Maybe graphic design/interior? Sports? Art? What do you do in your free time? Choose something that suits your interests.
    Everything I was interested in before I became I'll has just gone I can't do any of it anymore. I try but there's no joy in it.

    I come on TSR in my free time and also watch the home shopping network never buy just watch. Yep I'm a complete loser.
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    this is going to sound harsh but i think you need to hear it

    STOP BEING A P***Y!!

    pull your head out of your ass and find a solution to your problems. you are the only one in charge of your fate. Figure out what you really want to do (ASAP) and set plans to achieve your goals. As for mental health, obviously you need to seek help (through therapy or self help) but life cannot stop. you have been dealt a bad hand but it is not an excuse for you to roll over and give up on your dreams.

    good luck
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    this is going to sound harsh but i think you need to hear it

    STOP BEING A P***Y!!

    pull your head out of your ass and find a solution to your problems. you are the only one in charge of your fate. Figure out what you really want to do (ASAP) and set plans to achieve your goals. As for mental health, obviously you need to seek help (through therapy or self help) but life cannot stop. you have been dealt a bad hand but it is not an excuse for you to roll over and give up on your dreams.

    good luck
    How do I set goals when I'm too bad at everything to achieve any of them? I have real trouble with concentrating so that's a lot of jobs off the table right there. I tried a second degree but kept failing. It cost me 25k and had to drop out. I was on medication but the pharmacist stopped giving me the right ones so I'm on my own. My dreams are impossible with my diagnosis following me around and when I try to make new ones I fail.
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    I've had a few different ideas over my life of what I wanted to do but my mental health has got in the way of each thing leaving me lost. It's taken so much from me. I don't even really have hobbies or anything - politics used to interest me but my time at univerity was hell so I stay away, I like pc games but most of them require too much concentration and coordination and with the medication I was on that was just impossible. I feel like I'll never get anywhere because I fail at everything I try. I am almost 50k in debt with no chance of paying it back and not enough savings of my own to try again at uni plus I'm too thick and can't think properly so I'd just fail at that again. Anything I think I would enjoy I can't do. Tried the uni careers centre when I was there and tbh they weren't much help. I just feel so depressed that I see myself stuck in this dead end job my whole life because I'm too crap at everything to do anything else. I'm astounded I even got this job tbh with a 2:2 and terrible sociAL skills.

    I'm sorry it sounds like i've totally ignored your advice. I appreciate you trying, really.
    It's completely okay so don't apologise! Mental health issues are not easy. I see and understand where you are coming from. I used to suffer from depression, complex PTSD, BDD, anorexia nervosa, GAD and panic disorder and overall I had very low self esteem. If I was able to recover, so will you. My heart honestly goes out to you. It isn't easy. These things take time and are hell to overcome and many don't understand that and I can't possibly understand what you have/are going through as I haven't had the experiences you have had as everyone is different. But what I do know is there is hope. Don't give up, you could be on the brink of recovery. Persistence and self-believe is what is going to get you out of this. My advice is to take little baby steps. Don't try to figure it all out - the big picture. Just take each day as it comes and try and do little small goals. My suggestion would be that you make a positive journal and write 3 positive things you did in a day - no matter how small or big they are e.g. 'I cooked a meal for my family' then write beside the statement what that says about you as a person e.g. 'I am caring and thoughtful'. Doing this simple thing really helped me. Even when you feel low and don't feel like doing old hobbies - try and do something small that is pleasurable that you once enjoyed. Before you do this give it rating out of 10 of how accomplished/happy you think you would feel once you have done it before you do the hobby. Then once you have actually done it rate how it went. You might find you actually enjoying things more than you expect. Keep a diary and make sure you plan one pleasurable activity daily - whether that be treating yourself to something nice like painting your nails, having a warm bath, watch a programme you enjoy (these are little things I did that helped me - good to self soothe and look after yourself ) Even mix this up with some social from an individual you trust and enjoy their company. And do little small things in the day that make you feel a sense of accomplishment whether that's as small as playing your pc games for a few mins to doing some tidying etc. Just take small steps forward without it being completely overbearing. It will feel hard to do at the start but once you start it will be like a snowball effect you will keep going and all these things will increase and your motivation should naturally increase. You should deal with your underlying core beliefs about your self as you seem to have the same ones I used to have about myself - I used to believe with all my heart I wasn't good enough for anything. Therapy changed my life but that's because my therapist was fantastic! Is there anyone close to you that you trust that you have confided in how you feel?
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    learn a second language - honestly really cool thing to do, and in a few years with hard work you should be up to a conversational level-be able to hold a basic conversation. Could give you a nice goal to strive for.
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    (Original post by slee551)
    It's completely okay so don't apologise! Mental health issues are not easy. I see and understand where you are coming from. I used to suffer from depression, complex PTSD, BDD, anorexia nervosa, GAD and panic disorder and overall I had very low self esteem. If I was able to recover, so will you. My heart honestly goes out to you. It isn't easy. These things take time and are hell to overcome and many don't understand that and I can't possibly understand what you have/are going through as I haven't had the experiences you have had as everyone is different. But what I do know is there is hope. Don't give up, you could be on the brink of recovery. Persistence and self-believe is what is going to get you out of this. My advice is to take little baby steps. Don't try to figure it all out - the big picture. Just take each day as it comes and try and do little small goals. My suggestion would be that you make a positive journal and write 3 positive things you did in a day - no matter how small or big they are e.g. 'I cooked a meal for my family' then write beside the statement what that says about you as a person e.g. 'I am caring and thoughtful'. Doing this simple thing really helped me. Even when you feel low and don't feel like doing old hobbies - try and do something small that is pleasurable that you once enjoyed. Before you do this give it rating out of 10 of how accomplished/happy you think you would feel once you have done it before you do the hobby. Then once you have actually done it rate how it went. You might find you actually enjoying things more than you expect. Keep a diary and make sure you plan one pleasurable activity daily - whether that be treating yourself to something nice like painting your nails, having a warm bath, watch a programme you enjoy (these are little things I did that helped me - good to self soothe and look after yourself ) Even mix this up with some social from an individual you trust and enjoy their company. And do little small things in the day that make you feel a sense of accomplishment whether that's as small as playing your pc games for a few mins to doing some tidying etc. Just take small steps forward without it being completely overbearing. It will feel hard to do at the start but once you start it will be like a snowball effect you will keep going and all these things will increase and your motivation should naturally increase. You should deal with your underlying core beliefs about your self as you seem to have the same ones I used to have about myself - I used to believe with all my heart I wasn't good enough for anything. Therapy changed my life but that's because my therapist was fantastic! Is there anyone close to you that you trust that you have confided in how you feel?
    You're a good person. A really good person.
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    (Original post by wonderuss)
    You're a good person. A really good person.
    Awk you are way too kind ☺️ Thanks so much, I'm just passionate for people that's all 😊
 
 
 
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