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    Okay so I’d like to make it clear that I’m not saying anything bad about this group, I mean ‘wrong’ as in the ones who actively involve themselves in crime (taking drugs, asb and a few older guys who sell drugs). These are the ONLY type of guys interested in me. It’s usually Asian between my age (18) and like 30 who’ll approach me at school or in the street. And the worst are the ones who’ll drive by reaaaalllyyyyy slow in a group of friends and will just stare (even when they see I’m clearly uncomfortable) and then turn the car around and speak to me. I just don’t understand why it’s only these guys and so many of them too. I’ve never been liked by someone who focuses on their education/work. It’s always the same type who don’t give a shi*t about achieving anything but social status amongst their little gangs. I don’t dress ‘chavvy’-I wear jeans and t-shirts. lol this may seem like a weird post but I’m genuinely confused as to why these are the only group I seem to attract. I’m not too bad and not all that great either-I’m just average looking and yet I can’t seem to attract anyone even remotely normal. Lol someone please shed some light (in accordance to personal experience) or advice on how I would go about finding a motivated guy.
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    The kind of guys you are looking for (the good education/career focused type) have been taught that they should not stare at or approach girls because this could make them uncomfortable. They have been taught to respect female boundaries and not look at them in a sexual manner so even when they are possibly attracted to you, they will not show it.

    The only guys who don't care about these boundaries are the bad boys. This is why they approach and the reason why they succeed.
 
 
 
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